ioncebelieved Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 With 2008 I bid a farewell and it cannot end any sooner since it was an absolute terrible year for me on many fronts. I look forward to 2009 as I will try and move on and finally put my ex behind me. I hope that 2009 brings me a new improved life without the drama that about killed me in 2008. I hope Karma works the way it should as I am better/ stronger. I also hope my ex tries to contact me and by the time she does, I will have found a better person and can throw it in her face. Ultimately, I hope for all the best for me as I do all of you!
MWH Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 I have no idea what is in store for me in 2009. I'm self-employed and the economy has killed my business so I may very well be looking at a career change in my mid-forties. Ugh. No matter, though, I'll manage somehow. I have no plans on any new relationships and I'm not sure I will ever pursue love again. I'm not saing this as a result of my recent breakup as I had already decided that I was gonna give it one more go-around and, well, it didn't work out. I think that is part of why I held on and worked so hard to make it work this last time. unfortunately my "partner" wasn't on the same page and although she climed to want the same thing her actions were contrary. That's the breaks. I'm just looking forward to getting back to work after this holiday and giving it my best shot- I've done the same thing for almost 15 years and I really don't look forward to starting over. In any case I'll be okay. I always manage to get by. *shrugs* Peace, MWH I'm lgonna just lay low, play my guitar, tend my house, my dogs, and myself, and keep it simple.
foxh1234 Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 With 2008 I bid a farewell and it cannot end any sooner since it was an absolute terrible year for me on many fronts. I look forward to 2009 as I will try and move on and finally put my ex behind me. I hope that 2009 brings me a new improved life without the drama that about killed me in 2008. I hope Karma works the way it should as I am better/ stronger. I also hope my ex tries to contact me and by the time she does, I will have found a better person and can throw it in her face. Ultimately, I hope for all the best for me as I do all of you! Hi IOB, I am sure that 2009 will be a great year for us both. I plan on travelling more and spending more time with friends this coming year. 2008 was a tough year for alot of us on here but the lessons I learned will help me the rest of my life. Looking ahead is the only way for us now. Good luck to you my friend and everyone else this coming year.
Trialbyfire Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 2009 will be a better year for me. Starting from the last quarter of 2006, it was like a roller coaster ride of drama for me. NO MORE! This isn't what my life normally is all about. I feel really good, better than I've felt for a long time. Come on 2009...BRING IT ON!
calculus Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 It's going to be a brand new slate for me. Once new years comes around, I'm going to let go of the past. Of course I can't forget about the lessons learned from last year and will carry it on this year, but I'm going to seriously change things about myself that I've been procrastinating on. I feel this is going to be a good year for me. It's going to be hard for me to change old habits, I'm determined to change myself.
Hersheys Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 2008 was a very good year for me and it's a shame because I never got to enjoy and appreciate the big moments because I was too dang busy trying to get over someone. 2009: I want to STOP pining after someone (my ex) I want to STOP feelings of longing and jealousy everytime I see happy couples I want to regain my old self (happy, jovial, goofy and had a lot of self-respect) Have self-control. Be able to control my anger and words that come out of my mouth Find a way to treat people better All the best in life and love for all LS posters this 2009!!!!
EmperorR Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 Get over my ex Get over being cheated on I'm talking to a great girl who knows my whole situation and still likes me, and we hvae our first date soon in the new year, and I will not allow my ex or the way she haunts me to screw this up. I feel something great with this girl, heck I tell her everything even when I go through relapses and it would push away another chick knowing that my ex is still haunting me, she's still there, I WILL NOT SCREW THIS UP I REPEAT As well Without this jealous clingy, telling me what to do cheating ex not dictating my life for the first time in 3 years, I also hope to travel alot next year, get a new job a new place just basically start anew. I'm 23 and I've never been really able to enjoy myself and now is my time.
dead-dyke Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 If I knew the answer for that, I might have to play the lottery.
burningashes Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 I'm looking forward to 2009! I got out of a half off-on relationship with the ex (finally!) and am seeing someone new I got good grades last semester, and I'm going to kick ass in school next year. Generally, life is really looking up for me and I couldn't be any more happier to start a new slate on a positive note! Happy new years, everyone!
gd26 Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 I have a positive feeling about 2009. I struggled with depression in 2007 and 2008, but I have decided not to let myself be down anymore. I am working to be healthier in many ways. I am getting myself to the gym, and getting back in shape. I have learned my lessons from men in my past, and know I will do things much differently in my future dating life. For the first time in years, I am starting to get therapy, and I know I will work out my issues and old wounds, so that my new relationships can be balanced and healthy next time. I am finishing my degree and will be starting med school next year. I look forward to being a positive, confident, upbeat, fit, successful person with a full life once more.
4by4 Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 I CANT wait for 2009 to begin. I have dealt with enough emotional problems these last 2 years. Trying to hold onto my ex and been treated with so little respect. She has left for good and I am finally gaining back the old me. I have so much going for me in 2009, moving into my new apartment, just started my new dream job and thinking about traveling to europe with friends. To all LS posters, happy new year!
Ingenue Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 2009 will be great for me. I rarely ever make resolutions, but am trying to usher in the new year with a positive attitude and a peace and calm. I have, for the past several weeks or so, been surprisingly calm. 2008 was undoubtedly lousy for me. I can't remember any previous where I've felt so bad for such a long time. Logic dictates that 2009 has to be better than what I've gone through.
quankanne Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 2008 wasn't a bad year, in all honesty, just a bit ... challenging. things will definitely be different in 2009. With the death of our remaining parent, family dynamics have changed, and my goal is to not kill any of my sibs for mistakenly thinking that as the "baby" of the family, I need someone to tell me what to do. So this coming year will be about making my independence known in a more clear manner than before. 2009 also means the potential to wipe out smaller, naggy debts, thanks to my dad naming me as a beneficiary for one of his insurance policy. I have mixed feelings about this: While I appreciate him still looking out after me and making sure my needs are taken care of, handling all the necessary paperwork only makes him more dead. I don't know, I guess I'm trying to convince myself he's hanging out at WalMart or something. I'll also be able to reschedule my bariatric surgery in the next couple of months, which was put off last year because of things that came up with my dad & him needing care, so my goal of getting off insulin will come true in 2009. maybe I'll get to travel some, and maybe I'll get to fix the house up some, too – 2009 is wide open.
GodofNietzsche Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 2009 is looking really good. I graduated college in August, and found a job in this horrible market with the trading company for a prominent Japanese auto-manufacturer. While it's in a boring part of the mid-west, there are so many locations throughout the country, and a very good possibility for advancement. I also have several interviews to be an SAT/ACT tutor (which would be on the nights and weekends). A good way to kill time and make extra money. I was once watching a horrible Chris Rock movie that had one good line in it: You'll lose money chasing women, but you'll never lose women chasing money. Oh, when I talk to women and tell them what I do, and about my experiences abroad, their eyes light up. As compared to being a college kid who studies Japanese (a lot of people at my school used to think that was weird and a waste of a major, and told me to study business instead). I've become very good friends with one guy at work, and he introduced me to a lot of people, who I am now becoming friends with. I am also gonna start taking part-time MBA courses in the summer, which my company will reimburse. I used to compare my life to ex's. She got a job in NYC, and I used to think "She won. She's in one of the best cities in the world, and I'm out in a bum-%uck part of the midwest." But my life is just beginning and my company has a place in Manhattan (IF I want to live there). Besides, given the economy who knows if she still even has a job anymore. I don't want to know, nor do I care. Sorry if I'm boasting to much, but I really need a self pick-me-up. I spent so much time blaming myself (just as Surfer Dude and EmperorR did). This time last year I was with my ex, after flying half-way around the world to see her, after which she told me politely to #uck off. It's hard now, but I have no desire to talk to her. I can't forgive her for how she treated me. It just took me too long to recognize, but I'm glad I did.
quankanne Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 g/n, sounds like some of your earlier decisions have paid off, and that's no small thing – as you say, in this economy, that's something to be truly proud of. comparing your life to someone else's is an exercise in wasted effort. You are not that person, and that person is not you, therefore there can be no comparison in yours/other's accomplishments. You can only say "yes I've succeeded by accomplishing what I went after" or "nope, not there yet." or, think of it this way: The future is wide open, and so far, it sounds like you've got a pretty interesting ride lined up based on earlier decisions. And that sounds really good to me!
Surfer Dude Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 First half of 2008 was awesome, things looked promising and I was enjoying trips with my ex. Everything went downhill since September. Anyway, I expect 2009 is going to be great. I have regained a great deal of confidence and self respect that I had lost due to all the breakup mess and I'm gonna get out there once again and find a great amazing lady! I've started working on a project for a major IT company and that should be a great opportunity for my career. GodofNiezsche, I'm glad to hear things have worked out great for you. You study Japanese you say? Whatever you do, be extremely careful if you're gonna date in Japan, the amount of gaijin hunters and crazy ladies is very high there, these sweet girls can easily make your life a living hell, just like my ex did to me. Just a word of advice.
alwayssme Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 who knows what 2009 will be like? hopefully get a job i like, be busy with things i enjoy...to say that "everything will be fine soon" would be kind of like lying to myself. there is a lot of hurt left in me and my life has changed alot...i know it will be tough work and it will take alot of strength and courage to start a new life, meet new people and to let go of my old lifestyle..i dont know whether 2009 will be a good year or not but all i can say is that whatever is on my power, i will try my best to make the best of it...the rest is up to God and i plan on getting closer to him, praying more... So hopefully 2009 will be a good year!!
alwayssme Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 Also I must add that 2008 started amazingly...Of course I was with my ex at a party with his whole family..then we were looking at the fireworks and kissing telling each other we love each other...soo tonight is tough as i'm going to be home with my family..but i'll just suck it up and try not to think about it!
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