openbook08 Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 for the last few months, myself and 2 of my friends (all single, me first time in 5years) have planned to head off a few hours up country to a fab town, its great craic & we went before at Haloween&had a ball. Had planned to go tomorrow & stay till Fri. got a fab hotel, 5*, very reasonable. I was dreading Christmas(first Xmas in 6years without him) but this trip was keeping me going. However, today one of the girls text me (jesus people seem to love lettin me down by text "Im not going. I just dont feel like it" & the other has developed this "flu" (even though I know she was outdoors all day yday & today with her dogs & was out on a date tonight). I text her back "are you for real?" & then she text me back "ah Ill go now" so flu rang me asked me had I heard from the other one, then started sayin oh she always does this shes let me down loads times& I kinda understand tho, 3nights is a bit much (this I just dont get, we're on hols till Jan 8th, money isnt a prob. we were all lookin forward to gettin away & maybe meetin someone nice...who knows!!!) so anyway about an hour later, the 'Im going/Im not going" decides shes def. not going. Now the other one thinks we'll have a crap time just the 2 of us (ya its not ideal, but shes askin me to ask 2 of my other friends, who when I said last week that Id mentioned it to them she wasnt happy at all said she hoped they didnt come - I also dont think its fair to treat my other friends like '2nd choice') shes asking me 'whatll we do?' . Im trying to be adult about this everyone is entitled to change their minds but Im so so hurt, upset and disappointed. Its also my credit card its all booked under. I really needed this trip, Ive had a rotten year & I wanted to start 2009 on a high note. . For me that meant gettin out of this town (ex - bleurgh & memories) .. I dont know if this makes sense.... I feel like tellin them all to go f themselves. its brought me right back to feelin miserable again , and dwellin on the fact that hes got his readymade girlf. to swoop in & therefore will always have company. esp. on NYE. I feel like its spoilt now. I was so lookin forward to it. yet again he lives on Easy Street and Im right back at ****tee Corner(my other friend(the one I mentioned it to last week) & her friend have now decided theyll come NYE & the following night....still leaves me out of pocket, yes hotel was reasonable but not if Ive to make up the shortfall. I wish neither of the original 2 would come now & Id just go with my other pal & her pal on NYE now it just feels pressured/awkward) This was not supposed to happen this way. Am I overreacting? Hit me? (geishawalk please be gentle!!)
northstar1 Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 for the last few months, myself and 2 of my friends (all single, me first time in 5years) have planned to head off a few hours up country to a fab town, its great craic & we went before at Haloween&had a ball. Had planned to go tomorrow & stay till Fri. got a fab hotel, 5*, very reasonable. I was dreading Christmas(first Xmas in 6years without him) but this trip was keeping me going. However, today one of the girls text me (jesus people seem to love lettin me down by text "Im not going. I just dont feel like it" & the other has developed this "flu" (even though I know she was outdoors all day yday & today with her dogs & was out on a date tonight). I text her back "are you for real?" & then she text me back "ah Ill go now" so flu rang me asked me had I heard from the other one, then started sayin oh she always does this shes let me down loads times& I kinda understand tho, 3nights is a bit much (this I just dont get, we're on hols till Jan 8th, money isnt a prob. we were all lookin forward to gettin away & maybe meetin someone nice...who knows!!!) so anyway about an hour later, the 'Im going/Im not going" decides shes def. not going. Now the other one thinks we'll have a crap time just the 2 of us (ya its not ideal, but shes askin me to ask 2 of my other friends, who when I said last week that Id mentioned it to them she wasnt happy at all said she hoped they didnt come - I also dont think its fair to treat my other friends like '2nd choice') shes asking me 'whatll we do?' . Im trying to be adult about this everyone is entitled to change their minds but Im so so hurt, upset and disappointed. Its also my credit card its all booked under. I really needed this trip, Ive had a rotten year & I wanted to start 2009 on a high note. . For me that meant gettin out of this town (ex - bleurgh & memories) .. I dont know if this makes sense.... I feel like tellin them all to go f themselves. its brought me right back to feelin miserable again , and dwellin on the fact that hes got his readymade girlf. to swoop in & therefore will always have company. esp. on NYE. I feel like its spoilt now. I was so lookin forward to it. yet again he lives on Easy Street and Im right back at ****tee Corner(my other friend(the one I mentioned it to last week) & her friend have now decided theyll come NYE & the following night....still leaves me out of pocket, yes hotel was reasonable but not if Ive to make up the shortfall. I wish neither of the original 2 would come now & Id just go with my other pal & her pal on NYE now it just feels pressured/awkward) This was not supposed to happen this way. Am I overreacting? Hit me? (geishawalk please be gentle!!) I don't think you're overreacting - you've obviously been looking forward to this, and now friends are quitting out on you. Try and make the best of it though, I'm sure you'll still have a great time.
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