JbGman Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 Just a general advice thread i broke up with my ex about 6 months ago as she went to uni and i worked alot so we barley saw each other. Been textng her alot recently and she is off uni at the mo so she came over tonight. fallen for her again text her sayin i miss her she text back was a good night should deffo do it agian. i dont know if im just hurting myself seeing her again because she will be going back to uni soon but maybe it will work as long distance (well an hour away in a car but neither of us drive) any one had a situation like this? Any thing would help Charlie
BCCA Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 Hey Charlie, First, dont beat yourself up too much. Its natural that you wanted to see her, and see what happened. Most people wouldve done the same thing, even if we know in the back of our minds that it could end badly. The first thing I want to point out is that you said you missed her, and she said it was a good night and you should do it again. Right there, to me at least, it seems you were on different pages. She didnt say she missed you, too. And Ive tried to long distance thing, and brother let me tell you now, its pure hell. If she isnt sure about you now, being unable to see you regularly and having all sorts of new people around isnt going to make it any better. My advice, as generic as it might sound, is to kind of take a break from the whole thing long enough to clear your head. If she isnt on the same page as you, all youre doing is filling her time until she heads off to school. Im not saying she is intentionally using you, but there is a good chance she isnt looking past the next 5 minutes with you. Just be careful, dont invest too much of yourself before you see some mutual interest in what you want. Good luck!
Author JbGman Posted December 30, 2008 Author Posted December 30, 2008 Thanks Bcca Always nice to hear a diffrent opinion cos all im tellin myself to do is try it again but you put a good view on things about her not sayin she misses me Thanks again
Doofus Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 I realize that this won't help but I totally relate. Also, I dated a girl some time ago that while texting back and forth while she was delayed at an airport (coming to visit) I told her I liked and was glad she was coming. She texted me back - you are so sweet, that makes me happy. I didn't really get it at first and then I stopped and thought about it....say what? Still, I daresay it still felt good to get back with that person and I really don't know if I would do or think anything different than you did. Best of luck.
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