Tried NC, but she sent me a Text.

[hoartiosans]

It's been almost a week since we spoke, and Honestly I expected her to do this...

 

she said, "Hey, How r u?"

 

I want us to have a chance to get back together, but I don't want to compromise what I've done so far in getting over her by talking again, but I also don't want to hurt her feelings and lose my chance. If I have any.

 

What should I do? Talk or not?

[Geishawhelk]

No.

Never, ever respond. never reply, never take the bait, never find yourself dangling on their bit of string, never give them the end of your chain so they can yank it.

No.

 

Never.

 

EVER.

Hit delete and forget you even got it.

[BCCA]

No.

Never, ever respond. never reply, never take the bait, never find yourself dangling on their bit of string, never give them the end of your chain so they can yank it.

No.

 

Never.

 

EVER.

Hit delete and forget you even got it.

 

^THIS!!!

 

What she did is throw you a few breadcrumbs to see if she still had you. Delete it, its nothing. If she had anything else to say, trust me, you would know.

 

I want us to have a chance to get back together

 

That's the problem. This is why you dont want to just delete it, you think shell be mad at you and wont come back. Listen brother, the chances of her coming back arent real good anyway, and if you allow her to talk to you on her terms and whenever she feels like it, your value to her will plumet to the point of no return.

 

You can still stay in NC, just keep ignoring her unless she says she wants to talk or something like that. Dont let her have her cake and eat it, too. If she doesnt want to be with you, fine, let her keep right on walking.

[quankanne]

block her number. Forget she exists. Don't even try to forge a different relationship with her at this point. Because while she may truly miss you, y'all don't need to be dealing with "are we together or are we not?"

 

last month, my nephew came to visit family here in Texas. He was bummed out because the girl he was madly in love with dumped him. Guess who called and texted him the whole time he was out here after playing with his mind like that? Yep, the little hussy. We kept telling him to just ignore her, but silly boy, he was so hung up on her he'd answer her calls and texts, and I think was under the impression that she'd at least give him a chance to see her again, but instead, she cut him off cold turkey when he got back to Cali. And he can't understand why (because she's a heartless little tramp only interested in seeing how high he'll jump when she tells him to jump, IMO).

 

I know a lot of it is youth, and a lot of it is hoping against hope that this person wants to take up where you left off, but I think people like that are just being cruel, whether it's intentional or not.

 

if this chick has any respect for you, she will leave you alone to give you a chance to recover from the break-up. Otherwise she's just giving you a mind-fook, even if it's unintentional. And you don't need to add that to the mix.

[Ratherunique]

I know how it feels...On the 24th my ex tried calling me b/c of a text I had sent her. I ignored her phone call. Just last night she im'd me Happy Holidays, I ignored that too. Don't fall for the trap. By not saying anything you are SPEAKING VOLUMES!!! By maintaining your silence you saying to her that you've moved on and she isn't worth your time anymore. Do it....maintaing NC!!!

[hoartiosans]

Thanks, this is my first breakup, I'm having a tough time with it. This place has helped a lot.

[IcemanJB]

wow that sounds like a carbon copy of my situation. Don't make the same mistakes I did.

 

My breakup was very strange and still is, so I won't go into detail of why. She came over a few times the week after we split up just basically crying the whole time...she sent me a "hey how are you?" text a week after we split too. I stupidly responded to most of her texts and meet-ups for the first 1.5 months after the breakup - there were lots of them. Finally after running into each other late one night and talking for an hour, I realized I NEED distance to get over her. She obviously wasn't over it either. I knew I'd miss her (still do terribly), but the pain is receding because I've had 0 contact with her for over a month.

 

So I sent her an email telling her to not contact me until I do first. If she had been awful and a cheater or something, I never would have told her I was going NC, but she deserves to at least know. She responded saying she understands and that she wasn't over it either, just as I had suspected.

 

If she respects and cares for you, she'll leave you alone. This is the best thing you can do for you (and mayber her, if your situation is like mine).

[hoartiosans]

I deleted it, and ignored it...hopefully I can stay strong and committed to NC, thank you.

[Geishawhelk]

If u brak cuntict we will all be ovah and whup yaw aiss.

 

Count on it.

 

Now, that's scary.