bozwa Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 I had this happen last year. We crossed paths at a gas station. It was instant and fun. We both left the gas station at the same time and continued the flirting on the highway. It was exhilerating but hardly worth trying to build anything on. If anything, it was a great ego boost and had me floating for a few hours!
BubblyPopcorn Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 Doesn't happen very often for me but the last time was when I was standing in line at my local 7-Eleven, a guy walked in and we locked eyes and I was like whoa! Of course I had just gotten out of work and looked like poop and I was too nervous to go up to him anyway
movingonandon Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 Absolutely not . When I first saw the girl I'm currently dating, I thought "what a homey girl, such a mediocre waste of time". Several dates (and romps...) later, I'm convinced she's uber-hot. Things will not necessarily work out, but that won't be because I'm not attracted to her . Um, I need to excuse myself to the bathroom now . As for the reverse (instant attraction), i never read too much into it. pretty much every other girl is hott enough to merit instant attraction, so it's mostly a function of mood, circumstances, i.e. nothing to dwell too much on.
monkey00 Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 I believe in instant attraction. The two times I can recall where it happened was with girls I had not noticed at all. Then all of a sudden one day, we just sit next to each other or something for one another and BAM it hits the both of you like a spark of electricity blasting at each other's eyes like instant chemistry. I've had fairly good experiences with it actually. One girl I had went out with a couple of times after it happened, and shortly she went away for vacation for an entire month which was more than enough time for things to fizzle. She had contacted me after returning but it was too late. Another girl turned into a LTR.
Trialbyfire Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 If you make eye contact and lock eyes with a stranger, this instant attraction is purely physical. Sure, it can be electric and fun but I can guarantee you that neither one of you is thinking "Wow, I'll bet he/she enjoys Bach!".
CBR_pilot Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 We've all had those moments, but some of us just don't recognize the opportunities. There's nothing wrong with starting a conversation. You've got nothing to lose, and everything to gain. Life's too short to miss out on anything...
lazlow99 Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 Yes this happened to me the other week with a girl working at a pretzel stand! She laughed as I counted out the exact change, then looked into my eyes and gave me the biggest smile ever, I was totally taken off guard. I would've spoken to her after but I was only in the city for a day . It's sucks cause I haven't found anyone I've liked in a while.
marlena Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 Do you believe in instant attraction? Have you ever locked eyes with someone, both smiled and felt an instant connection and intense attraction? What have you done when this happened? Absolutely do believe in it and it is undeniably powerful stuff. It has happened to me many times. In some instances, it led to instant sex. In a few others, almost led to sex. And yet a few other instances, led to a relationship...oops..and one marriage.
marlena Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 Any advise? If you are sure that he is attracted to you as much as you are to him, flirt with him and then let nature take its course.
mental_traveller Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 Do you believe in instant attraction? Have you ever locked eyes with someone, both smiled and felt an instant connection and intense attraction? What have you done when this happened? Yes. Yes. Went to a hotel and had sex a lot.
Ross PK Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 Is this supposed to be a two way thing? If so how can you tell that the other person is really attracted to you and feels a connection just by making eye contact with them?
Author jchjs Posted December 31, 2008 Author Posted December 31, 2008 Is this supposed to be a two way thing? If so how can you tell that the other person is really attracted to you and feels a connection just by making eye contact with them? That's one of my basic questions too. Can you trust your gut instincts when this happens? If you are really feeling the connection (which as I said really doesn't happen very often to me...can't remember the last time before this, though I had been in a very long term relationship so I wasn't "looking" for one...very different from just eye contact) can you trust that it's being mutual? What's your experiences with trusting your instincts...do they generally work or betray you? In my case, since he became much friendlier, I'm feeling that it was a mutual connection. We'll see what happens....
Ross PK Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 That's one of my basic questions too. Can you trust your gut instincts when this happens? If you are really feeling the connection (which as I said really doesn't happen very often to me...can't remember the last time before this, though I had been in a very long term relationship so I wasn't "looking" for one...very different from just eye contact) can you trust that it's being mutual? What's your experiences with trusting your instincts...do they generally work or betray you? In my case, since he became much friendlier, I'm feeling that it was a mutual connection. We'll see what happens.... To be honest I'm not sure if my instincts have have told that a woman was interested. But with everything else, my instincts have always or usually turned out to be right, even when thinking about something logically tells you otherwise. I think this is the case for most people.
Yamaha Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 Instant physical attraction is pretty common but to have that feeling of "wow" with a person requires attraction on a intellectual/spiritual/physical level and that's only happened a couple of times with me. :mad:Damn
El Scorpio Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 That's one of my basic questions too. Can you trust your gut instincts when this happens? If you are really feeling the connection (which as I said really doesn't happen very often to me...can't remember the last time before this, though I had been in a very long term relationship so I wasn't "looking" for one...very different from just eye contact) can you trust that it's being mutual? What's your experiences with trusting your instincts...do they generally work or betray you? In my case, since he became much friendlier, I'm feeling that it was a mutual connection. We'll see what happens.... That's a good question!?! You know you felt something but did they?? I'm on the same boat as you.. The way I look at it is.. well I know I felt (feel) it, and I'm pretty sure people can tell when you do. So if they continue saying "hi" after that, it means they're saying "hi" knowing that you're feeling something, which can only mean they approve of you feeling something, or something like that Because if they thought.. woops I might of led this person on by glancing and smiling, and now they have this twinkle in their eye, and I didn't mean that.. then they would probably not say hi to make it clear that wasn't their intention..
Author jchjs Posted January 2, 2009 Author Posted January 2, 2009 That's a good question!?! You know you felt something but did they?? I'm on the same boat as you.. The way I look at it is.. well I know I felt (feel) it, and I'm pretty sure people can tell when you do. So if they continue saying "hi" after that, it means they're saying "hi" knowing that you're feeling something, which can only mean they approve of you feeling something, or something like that Because if they thought.. woops I might of led this person on by glancing and smiling, and now they have this twinkle in their eye, and I didn't mean that.. then they would probably not say hi to make it clear that wasn't their intention.. Well, I'm confused:...today he walked in smiled, gave me a wave and hello, seemed really friendly, more so than last time. Later on as he walked by I attempted to wish him Happy New Year, but I'm not sure he fully heard me (he was wearing headphones...looked a bit confused) and someone else walked by at the same time so I don't think he realized I was talking to him. I wanted to take my stairclimber and walk into the ground! Arrgh....If he did hear me, I feel really dumb, but if he didn't, oh well. Another time. Gave me another interesting glance/smile later. We both ended at the same time (me first) and started walking out, him in front. Another missed opp. This is so frustrating. I'm not sure he'll make it past the friendly "hi" stage anytime soon. Now I'm really not sure whether to say anything else or not.
Lovelybird Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 I always trust my instinct, it is accurate. In real life, it is much easier to discern if a guy is interested in or not. How he looks at you, does his breath change around you, and body gestures.... All I can say is "be patient", if he is interested, he will make a way to come to you. Patience is a virture
D-Lish Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 I always trust my instinct, it is accurate. In real life, it is much easier to discern if a guy is interested in or not. How he looks at you, does his breath change around you, and body gestures.... All I can say is "be patient", if he is interested, he will make a way to come to you. Patience is a virture If it starts to smell bad... I will lose any attraction:eek: Hi LovelyBird...Hope you're well sweetie!
amerikajin Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Do you believe in instant attraction? Have you ever locked eyes with someone, both smiled and felt an instant connection and intense attraction? What have you done when this happened? This happened to me the last week at the gym. After lots of glances over time, we both locked eyes and smiled, I have never quite experienced anything like it. The next day he started saying hi to me so it was mutual. He did ignore me one day, (prior post--thought he was playing a game) then was friendly again the next time I saw him. I'm still not sure how to follow up with this, should I wait it out and see if he starts more of a conversation? I am quite a bit older than him, so I don't want it to be awkward if I approach him. Any advise? Instant attraction? Absolutely. That doesn't mean that it's lasting attraction, though.
Lovelybird Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 If it starts to smell bad... I will lose any attraction:eek: Hi LovelyBird...Hope you're well sweetie! Right, D-lish, smell is important Sounds you had a wonderful trip
D-Lish Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 Right, D-lish, smell is important Sounds you had a wonderful trip You're funny. And I did. Nice relaxing trip. I'd say I could meet someone super attractive and if their breath was bad... I'd be turned off in an instant. Hygiene!!!
JamesM Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 I always trust my instinct, it is accurate. In real life, it is much easier to discern if a guy is interested in or not. How he looks at you, does his breath change around you, and body gestures.... There is something to this, I think. I have noticed that when a woman is interested, there is a certain smell in her breath that ....well, interests me. Even while married, when my wife is turned on, I swear that she has a different smell to her breath. I cannot explain the smell, but I can tell that she is turned on. Call me crazy, but since Lovely bird mentioned it..maybe I am not.
Isolde Posted January 2, 2009 Posted January 2, 2009 There is something to this, I think. I have noticed that when a woman is interested, there is a certain smell in her breath that ....well, interests me. Even while married, when my wife is turned on, I swear that she has a different smell to her breath. I cannot explain the smell, but I can tell that she is turned on. Call me crazy, but since Lovely bird mentioned it..maybe I am not. I have never heard this. Could you just have a super sensitive nose? I feel like everyone other than me is great at reading signals of attraction... I feel so dumb sometimes
El Scorpio Posted January 9, 2009 Posted January 9, 2009 There is something to this, I think. I have noticed that when a woman is interested, there is a certain smell in her breath that ....well, interests me. not. it's the smell of sex ~~ Is it just me or why am I disgusted whenever the word "smell" is typed out regardless of it's implications?
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