chief Posted December 29, 2008 Posted December 29, 2008 Open to suggestion...I married a wonderful lady but she quickly became unfriendly with my 11 year old daughter who lives with me...She denied the problem until I felt I couldnt take it anymore...we became quite estranged. I've lost all my good feelings for her...she's ready to work on the marriage and also is trying to find common ground with my daughter but now I'm turned off...I love and care for her, she is a good looking woman, she works hard, she has all the attributes that I could ask for, but I cant fake that lovey dovey feeling and it aint happening...does anyone have a suggestion on how to re-attract yourself to someone?
Geishawhelk Posted December 29, 2008 Posted December 29, 2008 Washe friendly with your daughter BEFORE you were married?
Angel1111 Posted December 29, 2008 Posted December 29, 2008 You're right to distance yourself from her if she can't treat your daughter well. Assuming, of course, that your daughter isn't an out-of-control child that no one can stand to be around. Since your wife got along with your daughter before you married, then I doubt that's the case. I think it would be a good idea to try to get to the heart of why she was acting that way toward your daughter and then she needs to make you feel comfortable that she plans to make permanent changes, and that this isn't some temporary fix in order to lull you back into another 2 yrs of marriage. I was married to someone who made my son feel like he was a visitor in his own home. We ended up divorcing and that was one of the main reasons for it. I will never marry anyone again who doesn't truly like my son and who gets along with him really well. Even though my son is 18 and about to go to college, I'll never put up with my son feeling uncomfortable around me just because of someone I married. If your wife can't make this right, and keep it right, then you need to walk away. Your daughter needs to feel loved and accepted by her step-mother.
Author chief Posted December 29, 2008 Author Posted December 29, 2008 Well, As i said, my wife is trying with some success to make things right by my daughter, but my real cry for help is; assuming that she and my daughter do find happiness and peace with each other, what suggestions might be offered on how to re-attract yourself to someone.
LavendarGirl Posted December 29, 2008 Posted December 29, 2008 Hi Chief, Are the problems more general than just the issues between your W and daughter? Are you still spending time together as a couple, like you had before you got married? Keeping the passion alive is a challenge to any married couple, you need to reconnect with the qualities that attracted you to your W in the first place and focus on those.
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