Ayemtee Posted December 29, 2008 Posted December 29, 2008 My GF of 7 months is just starting her Full-Time schedule at work. I remember telling myself it wouldn't be bad when we used to be laid up talking about the future. But now that its here its kind of hard. I'm Part-Time btw. We used to see each other 3 times a week for 5+ hours each. I was satisfied and happily taken. Now that she's been working full time, we barely even see each other. We email, txt, and talk on the phone a whole lot - but physically we're lacking. We used to have sex like rabbits. Now as it stands its been 2 weeks. Its hard man. Believe it or not I'm not worried about me drifting but her. I feel like if she's not seeing me like she's used to maybe she'll find someone more interesting like an attractive young guy who makes her feel great about herself more than I do at work since she'll be spending more time there. How does one cope with this?
bozwa Posted December 29, 2008 Posted December 29, 2008 Well, I can understand your being insecure; however that's just what it is. Your own insecurities. Have you tried talking to her about it? Tell her your feelings, tell her your concerns. Let her tell you definitively her feelings about you. If she is truly in love with you, no man she works with will be attractive to her, no come ons from them will work. When a woman is in love, she only has eyes for him. Which comes down to: do you trust her? And if not, why?
JohnnyBlaze Posted December 29, 2008 Posted December 29, 2008 Guess what? Embrace the suck. Unfortunately, this is just one of the things that happens in life. When one of you has a full-time job, it does cut down on the amount of time you get to spend together. When both work FT, it gets even worse (if you work different shifts, it's worse still!). And, as I'm sure you've already discovered, after a long day at work, the working party isn't always in the mood to do the bedroom boogie. Sometimes, they just want to come home and crash. You just have to make better use of your time together. You won't just be casually hanging out as much as you used to; you'll want to actually do something. Don't pester her, but make sure to stay in touch through the week, and make plans for the weekend. Maybe come over on Wednesdays and give her a weekly massage. After all, it is called "Hump Day" for a reason!
Author Ayemtee Posted December 29, 2008 Author Posted December 29, 2008 You're right. I know they're insecurities. I guess I gotta be on the ball with what we do when we DO see each other now. I just don't want what we have to diminish because of work.
portcitykitty Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 I go through those same insecurities as well. I'm a part-timer, and my bf works a full-time job during the week, as well as a 2nd job on the weekends/holidays (whenever he's not working his full-time job). It is hard to adjust to, believe me. He puts in so many hours every day, and by the time he gets off work in the evenings, he's too worn out to do much. I understand he needs his sleep when he can get it. We rarely see each other, but when we do get together, we make the most of it. And we keep in touch via phone in between quality times. I worry, too, about what we have diminishing due to his crazy schedule, but I'm trying to have faith that things will be okay. It takes work! And I don't worry about him finding somebody else because I trust him. Hopefully things will work out okay in your situation...just have faith!
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