Stone Posted December 29, 2008 Posted December 29, 2008 My on/off boyfriend is currently in the virgin islands with the guys "fishing" for a week. I try to stay pretty cool with the guy time, I think it's healthy but at the same time I am not an idot... I know that when his friends go to costa rica, they can get $5 BJ's and come home to their wives, and my boyfriend has admitted to this behavior in the past. ( we we're not togeather) SO I basically said have a great time but when you get home I am not sleeping with you untill you get a blood test! I am trying to keep myslef safe, and he didn't deny that it happens.. At the same time said " I can't believe you don't trust me" Am I wrong for that? I'd rather be upfront with the issue, than be neive about it.
Lizzie60 Posted December 29, 2008 Posted December 29, 2008 No..you're not wrong.. I have witnessed, many times, on my vacations, group of guys alone on vacations (golf or fishing trips).. what a 'farce'... they were with different local girls every night.. They even laughed in the bus back to the airport.. they were still on the party and joking.. 'my W thinks I'm went golfing hahahaha'... You're not naive.. he will probably have to good time.. the beach, the sun, the exotic places.. makes even a 'frigid' person.. go 'wild" .
happilyevraftr Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 I was so naive. I never imagined that my husband could ever cheat on me. I had no idea that the carribean was one of the top sex capitals of the world. They have real brothels and guys from all around the world go there for SEX vacations. The strip clubs are all brothels.My husband went to PR. He went to a strip club. He cheated on me. Got full service for $100. And he politely brought home herpes for me! You can get herpes so easy & its for life! They can get it from touching her leg, mouth wherever? She doesn't even have to have blisters or symptoms. I did the research and was horrified. Most of those girls have std's, hiv, & do drugs.
Star Gazer Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 If you don't trust him, end the relationship. Period. Blood tests can't really, truly confirm the absence of anything for as long as 12 months.
Author Stone Posted December 30, 2008 Author Posted December 30, 2008 It's hard to end it because we really have no committment set in stone this time, we've been talking agin for the past 2 months.... he planned the trip after we broke up last time
carhill Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 Been to the USVI (St. John is my fav) a number of times, as well as other Caribbean islands. Never gave cheap or free sex a thought. Diving, snorkeling, hiking? Lots of thought. Does this tell you something? There's a whole world of men out there who aren't boys going on a "guy" vacation. Find them
D-Lish Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 I'd have to agree... if you don't trust him, don't date him. I was just away for a week in sunny Florida... the amount of married/attached guys trolling made me ill. I even had one guy slip me his number when his gf went to the bathroom. I think the bottom line is that- if you are in a situation where you can't trust your partner... you shouldn't be with him.
Author Stone Posted December 30, 2008 Author Posted December 30, 2008 After much thought I think you are all right, I am ending it, I am watching his dog at the moment while he is on vacation.... I am a shmuck!! LOL however this time It's his fault, and for some odd reason that makes me feel better:bunny:
Touche Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 Yes, be careful if you DO get with him. Those tests don't always pick up on things right away. Secondly, my opinion? Stay away from guys who need vacations with their buddies. They're boys, not men. I call them "locker room boys." They make bad boyfriends and even worse husbands.
MichelleS1983 Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 Jeez, even if you don't end it, don't touch this guy with a 10 foot pole until he's been sprayed down with a BioHazard 4 chemical spray. The Caribbean isn't exactly known for having the most healthiest and disease-free people in the free world. ::::::SHUDDER::::::::
Kamille Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 Rihanna seems fine to me. Or are you some white racist? Well, they're black, they must be diseased? maybe not racist, just neo-imperialist denying that sex-work isn't exactly the result of free choice, more like the effects of centuries of economic and cultural oppression. OP, I agree with the others, don't stay with a man you don't trust. There are good men out there!
That Emotion Posted December 30, 2008 Posted December 30, 2008 After much thought I think you are all right, I am ending it, I am watching his dog at the moment while he is on vacation.... I am a shmuck!! LOL however this time It's his fault, and for some odd reason that makes me feel better:bunny: It should make you feel better. Taking the high road is always a comfort. So now that you're moving on, does that mean your av is available? If so, can I get a number?
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