lost85 Posted December 29, 2008 Posted December 29, 2008 Hey guys, im 21 and my ex who is 18 dumped me 2 and a half months ago. He was my first love. We had been going out for 15 months and were quite unhappy for the last 3 months. I was supporting us as in paying for food and movies etc whenever we went out. Kinda pissed me off but I loved him and I knew at the end of the year he would get a job after school ended. He dumped me cos I was "bland" and we did'nt do new things and our relationship was tired. I agreed with all of that but he didnt want to go on a break and he broke up with me by just walking out of my house after an argument. I was devastated begging him to let us talk about this calmly and he just hurt me by saying really mean stuff and he did'nt speak to me. I know now I was really annoying by calling him all the time after that but it was only because i did'nt understand why he was doing this to me so cruelly. Three weeks later he called me to borrow money and I lent it to him cos I felt sorry for him and I am a sucker! Then we started talking a bit on the phone and then one night he showed up telling me he misses me and loves me and that I'm the girl he has loved the most. We decided to get back together and the next day we went on a "first date" where all he did was talk about himself and what's happened to him in the past 3 weeks, not about why we broke up etc or how we were going to do things differently. A few days later he claims he has changed his mind about getting back together and that I am too clingy and needy. He said that I expect too much just because I thought we could meet and talk about our relationship to fix it, since he could see all of our friends and talk to them instead of me. Since that time I had been texting him begging not to do this etc and he pretended that right now in his life he needed to be alone. Then he meets some girl at his friend's funeral and tries to win her over. WTF???!!! It was not over for me at that time and he had changed his mind with no good reason. Then he tells me that he wont dump that girl for me when I heard from a mutual friend that he isn't even going out with her and that the girl is not interested in him. What I don't get is how he could throw everything in my face? Now he has deleted me off Facebook, and MSN. I have not contacted him in the last two weeks and believe me it has been so tough. Most nights I go to sleep crying thinking how could he say the most hurtful things to me? WHere did his love for me go? What did I do wrong? He hates me now and I guess it was because I nagged and just did'nt roll over and accept that he did'nt want to be with me. I thought I should fight for my love but look where it has got me? NOWHERE!! The person who I thought was the ONE is out having fun and I'm here crying about him. Its been really difficult and I fantasise seeing him at a mutual friend's place or him calling me to apologise for the things he had said. LIKE THAT'S EVER GOING TO HAPPEN!!! He never took time to speak to me like a human being and sit down and break up with me face to face and he threw everything we shared in my face. He told me he does'nt love me anymore and that we will never end up together. Yet I still think he's the One--haha I must be deluded! Why do I still have hope? How do I get revenge? Will he realise what he's done and come back? It looks like he wins everything: girls, freedom and our friends. While I still pine for him. This sucks!!!
Geishawhelk Posted December 29, 2008 Posted December 29, 2008 Why do I still have hope? Because you're still in love with the idea of being in Love. How do I get revenge? By sitting back and watching. He's very young. At one point or another, he's going to get burned. He's not mature enough to be in a serious relationship, but one day, he'll really fall in love, and she'll hurt him. Then he'll know. Will he realise what he's done and come back? No. And given that you are a bit older than him, if you'll pardon me saying, you're not being as mature as you could be. Statistically and biologically speaking, you should be ahead of him in the maturity stakes, so grab yourself some pride, dignity and self-respect, and move on. he's a squirt, and he's not wotth the angst. Fer chrissakes, don't even think about taking him back. You'd be a real sucker if you did! It looks like he wins everything: girls, freedom and our friends. While I still pine for him. Pardon me for saying so, but that's your problem. It's self-inflicted. This really isn't worth all the energy you're putting into it. You want to feel loved and cherished, but trust me. This young whipper-snapper is not the guy to make you feel that way. You can be just as free, you know. Nobody's locked you indoors or taken your friends away. This sucks!!! Nah, it doesn't. You ain't seen nuthin' yet.
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