OCCDAVE Posted December 29, 2008 Posted December 29, 2008 My ex who dumped me going on a month and a few weeks now just text me. I packed up ur stuff plz lemme know when ur coming by to pick it up Im beyond angry no how u doing or nothing.I went almost a month nc before I called her because she left me a voicemail saying plz call its important.I made a mistake cuz when I called I just gave her more fuel to add to this fire.I have now gone a strict 2 weeks nc and I don't wanna break it what should I do.
kizik Posted December 29, 2008 Posted December 29, 2008 Don't respond, at least not tonight. Calm down, sleep on it and then decide what you want to do.
Angel1111 Posted December 29, 2008 Posted December 29, 2008 If the items aren't that important and you can live without them, then don't reply, and don't pick up your stuff. Let her figure out what to do with your things. Even if she texts you again, just ignore her. If the items are truly important, then either tell her to mail them to you, or give her a date that you'll pick your things up but send a friend instead. Don't go yourself. It'll be a slap in her face -- and, unless you did something awful to deserve that kind of a text, then it sounds like she deserves a slap. Either way, don't answer her right away. Wait until sometime tomorrow.
Author OCCDAVE Posted December 29, 2008 Author Posted December 29, 2008 If the items aren't that important and you can live without them, then don't reply, and don't pick up your stuff. Let her figure out what to do with your things. Even if she texts you again, just ignore her. If the items are truly important, then either tell her to mail them to you, or give her a date that you'll pick your things up but send a friend instead. Don't go yourself. It'll be a slap in her face -- and, unless you did something awful to deserve that kind of a text, then it sounds like she deserves a slap. Either way, don't answer her right away. Wait until sometime tomorrow.Well the stuff is valued at over 1000 so i need it back.But i have gone strick nc ill just have someone in time go pick it up cause the site of her disgust me.
BikerBeagle Posted December 29, 2008 Posted December 29, 2008 NC doesn't include 'business' type communications (division and retrieval of property, etc). Reply back with a time and day, that's it, get your stuff back and be done with it. If you don't want to chance seeing her, tell her to send through a mutual friend, or send a friend to pick the stuff up at the appointed day and time. That 'slap in the face' advice is the stupidest thing I've ever heard. It is a far better chance that she'll think absolutely nothing about it ...other than the fact that you are a chicken**** to not have the balls to face her). I would go myself, say "I'm here to get my stuff", GET your stuff, say "thanks", and walk the away ...nothing else. It's a simple, emotionless business transaction as far as you are concerned.
Author OCCDAVE Posted December 29, 2008 Author Posted December 29, 2008 Have a friend go get your stuff.That or my sister like i said i don't wanna see her face heck seeing that number on my phone last night bugged me bad.
Angel1111 Posted December 29, 2008 Posted December 29, 2008 If you send your sister, make sure she doesn't get caught up in the emotion of it all. Coach her about what to say if your ex asks how you're doing. Her stock answer needs to be, "He's doing great."
peacebyinches Posted December 29, 2008 Posted December 29, 2008 I would go pick it up myself unless it would put me in bitch mode again. Make sure I looked like I was doing great. Best revenge is living well.
Author OCCDAVE Posted December 29, 2008 Author Posted December 29, 2008 I see where ur coming from biker and the reason I didn't wanna see her I won't lie sure im moving on but I don't wanna give off a vibe like im still needy for her.but that did cross my mind best revenge is to show up and be strong but like I said im still dealing.I thought I could continue to stay out of sight out of mind.sigh im confused
saturnfell Posted December 29, 2008 Posted December 29, 2008 Do not get and pick up your belongings under any circumstance! I cannot stress this enough. Do not allow anyone from your family to go either! That would be a bad move because if there is any type of conversation, you do NOT want her to know ANYTHING ABOUT HOW YOU ARE, etc. Send someone close to you (friend) who only cares for you (neutral to her) They will get your stuff and be out of there in no time. Total business transaction. No room for chit chat, no chance of some lame heartfelt conversation. This is the best way.
Recommended Posts