presto1122 Posted December 28, 2008 Posted December 28, 2008 This is very complicated so I will try to sum it up in as few words as possible... A co-worker and I started dating about 7 months ago. The complicated part comes in here. She was married and cheated on her husband with me. So she left him and moved in with her family for a little while. On a side note, he was very unhealthy for her in many ways and she knew she had to leave him. I know it is immoral and wrong but I truely love her. Anyway... Her family lives far away from our work and I live close so about 5 months ago she moved in with me. We both feel like it is right. During the relationship there were many times that she would get upset and cry about her husband cause she misses him and still loves him. But she assures me that she wants to be with me during the whole time. I just sit by and console her while she crys over him. Thats fine. We talked a lot about the future. Plans for children even. Well now is where the heartache come in. About a week ago I stupidly broke it off with her. That night before she left she told me she hoped I would change my mind. The very next day I was regretting it. Then 2 days later I told her I changed my mind and didn't want her to leave. Too late I guess. Now she is telling me she doesn't know what she wants and that she needs time to figure things out. Was she lying during the relationship when she told me I was what she wanted? I am so confused and so heartbroken. I have gone through many break-ups and this one is by far and wide the worst. Also, I am going through a divorce and have a 3 year old who has grown attached to her. I just want her back!! Please help me get through this...
peacebyinches Posted December 28, 2008 Posted December 28, 2008 I had a similar situation with a married woman a couple years ago. I fell in love. Its gonna hurt but focus on you. Nothing anyone can say on an internet message board can relieve the pain but know it gets better. Im going through another heartbreak right now so know you are not alone.
saturnfell Posted December 28, 2008 Posted December 28, 2008 Rejection is hard, so from her standpoint, she's probably upset and isn't ready to trust you. How does she know you won't change your mind again if she were to move back? She doesn't. That's one of the hardest aspects. The relationship the two of you had was much more involved for each of your personal reasons, it's not cut and dry. Since she was already hurting due to her husband, there was additional hurt when you left her.
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