Delbry Posted December 27, 2008 Posted December 27, 2008 Ok so let me give you some background info before i tackle the problem at hand. Im a 20 yr old single Mum. I was with my daughters father for three & a half years and it all ended badly 3months ago. It had gone down hill to the point of a total relationship break down a year ago but he never moved out. Prior to being with him, I had a series of bad relationships where I was cheated on, physicaly abused & mentally/emotionally abused. Consiquently, Im very jealous and suspicious. Im also clingy and have to know whats going on ALL the time. Anyway, After my ex moved out, I started looking around on a dating site. On Monday night, I met a guy who is awesome. We met at the pub for a drink and hit it off right away. We talked for hours and he asked me back to his for coffee. Reluctantly I agreed and I went home with him. We sat and talked for hours at his place and I left at 4am. Hes very sexual and kept asking me if i was going to 'f***' him yet. I had decided I wouldnt be sleeping with anyone when i first met them anymore as all it does is get me hurt. I explained that to him and he said he respected me for my decision and was fine about it. During the course of the night he told me he was actually planning on meeting me for an hour then leaving and going to see a woman named Carmen who he had met on the same site. They had met once before that and had sex that night.. He said that he decided while he was with me not to leave cause he liked me so much. He kept telling me I was beauitful and stunning etc... We get on so well. Were on the same page in every respect- or so I thought..... During the night at his, he kissed me and it was amazing. He confided in me about alot of personal issues and told me all about his 2 kids. He said when he kisses me he gets butterflys- which is the same for me. I saw him every night through the week and wasnt home before 1am. On Chrismtas eve we were supposed to be meeting at the park so my daughter who is 2 could play while we talked etc... Anyway at 9am he phoned to say he had to go into work. I said that it was fine and I would see him that arvo, but he asked me to go to work with him. We did and we had a great time too. He was so affectionate as always and everything was great. On chrismtas night I went to his mates place to see him once my girl was in bed and we ended up booking into a motel for the night. We had the most passionate sex ive ever experienced and everything was wonderful. We lay there talking and he held me then we went and got dinner hand in hand. After dinner he took me for a drive up to a look out over the city. We stood there and he held me kissing my neck etc... Then we went to the water front and walked along the jetty. He had his arm around my shoulders and we just sat not talking. When we got back to the motel, he turned on his phone and he had a heap of text messages. He said something was going on with a friend but he would deal with it in the morning and he turned his phone off. In the morning, he got straight up, showered and left. He drove 3hrs to hs friend to sort out what was going on. He said he would call last night, but never did. He called me this morning at 8.30am (Australia time) and he said he was going to pick up a friend who was another 5hrs away!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This friend is a women in her late 40's who has OCD and Manic depression and is obsessed with him. She calls him all the time and relys on his so much. She has cancer and is pretty much dying and shes done alot for him so i understand his loyalty to her. So anyway, hes with her right now (well Im pretty sure he is) and hes driving her back home tomorow which is an 8hr trip..... I was supposed to be with him right now as I dont have my daughter tonight but then he went away. Ive told him how I feel and hes told me that Ill just have to trust him, chill & relax. Im sorry but this is suss to me!!!!! Its all too odd. If I call him, he doesnt answer my calls and doesnt reply to my texts. I dont know what to bloody think. He said he wants to be with me and he wants a relationship with me but I cant help but feel that hes messing around behind my back. HELP!
Geishawhelk Posted December 27, 2008 Posted December 27, 2008 See that door? Walk through it and don't look back. He's a player. Let him contact you. if you don't hear from him within two days - It will just confirm what I've told you. But together or not, he's a player.
Author Delbry Posted December 27, 2008 Author Posted December 27, 2008 See that door? Walk through it and don't look back. He's a player. Let him contact you. if you don't hear from him within two days - It will just confirm what I've told you. But together or not, he's a player. pretty much what i was thinking. Pitty hes such a charming player.
Author Delbry Posted December 27, 2008 Author Posted December 27, 2008 I should also add that he was in a relationship on and off for 8 years with the mother of his girls which ended for good mid year. He did say he would see me tomorow when he gets back........... we shall see
Geishawhelk Posted December 27, 2008 Posted December 27, 2008 Well you could turn the tables and just use him for sex, and enjoy yourself..... But I don't know many women who actually have the temperament to be players.... And it depends what you want. Because if it's roses round the door and "two cats in the yard"....he ain't it.
Author Delbry Posted December 27, 2008 Author Posted December 27, 2008 hmmmmm not a bad idea. Im about to head out on a non date..... I had arranged to meet up with a guy before i met the now BF (if you can call him that?) I told Darryl about my 'BF' and he said nah its cool we can still meet as friends. Im seriously considering playing the BF like I think hes playing me. If all goes well with this guy tonight and we hit it off like I think we will then I may just do to him what I think hes doing to me
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