Anastasia0309 Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 So, I was dating my ex and living with him. We were together for 3 years. I lost my dad during that time and kinda got depressed which effected my relationship and we started having lots of problems. We were argueing all the time. So, we broke up and I moved out and alot of drama came after that on my end. So, we were broken up but still had contact and I was driving him crazy with the stuff I would do which I'm not gonna get into. Anyways, He was going through some stuff to and asked me to be there which I couldn't do. Getting to the point he meet someone and I had a feeling and asked him and he said she was just a friend but ended up being someone he was dating and he is now in "Love" with her. I just don't believe he is in love. Before me he never had anyone serious. I was his first serious girlfriend and he's now 30. Anywho, we spent the night together the other night and it just felt soooo right. Ugh! I think we aren't good for eachother but that's besides the point. So, we were talking about all the ish that has happened within the years and he tells me "I think I fell in love with her cause she was everything you weren't but I was hoping you would be". I was thinkin how could I be strong and independent during the hardest time of my life. He fell in "love" with her within 8 months of us breaking up and 4 months of them being together. It's been 2 years since we broke up but for some reason I feel deep in my heart that he does love me and never stopped. I think if he wasn't in love with me and looking for someone else to feel the void I couldn't then he would have never been so vulnerable and falll for her. Dunno though. Am I lying to myself??? Any opions and insight would be greatly appreciated!!!
saturnfell Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 He has some figuring to do, and the best way to do that is by taking some time apart. If you truly feel he still loves you, then that's the conclusion you've made. Don't let someone tell you things about yourself. He needs to reflect personally and decide what he wants. You cannot keep going back to him either. The worst thing you could do to yourself right now, is go back there when you have absolutely no idea what he's doing or why he's doing what he's doing. If he told you he thought someone was everything you weren't, but could have been... I would take a look at that. That's a terrible thing to tell someone. Was he the picture of perfection? I highly doubt it. You're who you are, and you're that way for a reason. I don't know him, so I don't know whether he has standards that are set too high and expects too much from people, but I think he has quite a big of thinking to do. He needs to determine whether you're good enough as you are. You need to think about whether you want to consider being with someone again who said you are lacking in areas. Did you talk these past two years or was this something new?
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