Sexy Kitty Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 It seems to me that the reason alot of people break up is over someone going back with an ex. Anyone else notice this? Not in everycase ofcourse but even reading posts on here there is always something about an ex that comes into the picture which leads to the couple breaking up. Even in my group of friends they always get left for an ex. It would be great to start fresh and have no feelings left for past relationships but it seems like alot of the time thats not true.
DSM-IV Tom Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 Yes that's the truth. But what compelled you to make this topic?
Trialbyfire Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 It seems to me that the reason alot of people break up is over someone going back with an ex. Anyone else notice this? Not in everycase ofcourse but even reading posts on here there is always something about an ex that comes into the picture which leads to the couple breaking up. Even in my group of friends they always get left for an ex. It would be great to start fresh and have no feelings left for past relationships but it seems like alot of the time thats not true. Breaking up with someone or having someone break up with you, doesn't always negate everyone's softer emotions. If the ex knows which buttons to push and the reasons for the break up weren't dealbreakers like cheating or abusive behaviour, it's not surprising that people go back for more.
EmperorR Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 Mine wasn't, but yeah it does happen alot.
TeaAbraham Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 For my ex, her ex was her only life line. I was making her feel bad and so she turned to her ex (2.5 years since he broke up with her). She didn't really have any other friends. The only real friend she had who she could talk to was out of the country. She never really tried to talk to me though... Man I hate her.
BikerBeagle Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 Maybe not always an ex, but certainly always someone else in the equation. In me experience, it is an extreme rarity that someone breaks up to "be alone" ...it's simply not human nature. Sure, they want to "find themselves" ...in someone else's arms.
TeaAbraham Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 Oh man, you got that "I just want to find myself" crock of sh*t too? That pisses me off so much. What bull. And even after I found out she was in someone else's, she STILL said she had found herself. That she had found herself at her core. What a bunch of sh*t. That person at her core is a complete b*tch too. Man why do I hate her so much these past two days.
hurtnconfused2 Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 Funny you say that, my boyfriend broke up with me for his ex yesterday. This is the third time for me. I get that someone should follow their heart, I even respect that. Here's what I don't understand if someone does have a hold on your heart to such a degree shouldn't one be honest enough to not get involved with someone else, much less tell you that they are the happiest they have ever been. My boyfriends ex cheated on him with another woman, and from what he's told me never made time for him they had broken up a couple of times. In I walk, people tell him this is the happiest he has ever been, less than a week ago he's telling me to have faith in him. She comes to him, proclaiming all her mistakes professing her undying love and instantly he's running back to her. Now folks I have been here before, I have seen this seldom works out. My take is this, she knew that he was in a relationship with me, he was no longer so readily available, maybe she was jealous who knows, but I think the fact that he was moving on for the first time sparked her interest again. So what choice did I have but to wish him well, meanwhile my heart is being torn into a thousand pieces. After having gone through this with a husband and finally feeling love for another man I'm more upset with myself than I am with him. It takes a lot of courage to let yourself love someone, courage I no longer have.
Joyvke Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 Nope. When I broke up with my first 2 boyfriends it was due to physical abuse and cheating. When my ex broke up with me it was due to the fact he entered a deep state of depression + social phobia. After it's over for 2 years he finally sought help for that. Really proud of him . We met last week, was a bit weird as we hadn't seen eachother for a year~!
Ratherunique Posted December 27, 2008 Posted December 27, 2008 I was recently just a victim at the beginning of this month......oh well. Dealing with someone with baggage is another kind of animal I am going to have to learn how to deal with going forward.
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