In love with the boss

[Chantal]

I am in love with my boss, and I think he loves me too. He shows all the signs of love and affection. I am married and he is also in an other relation. Is it worth expanding this relation or should I stop it before it becomes more serious?

[atwitsend]

I would highly recommend reading the posts of other cheating wives like yourself. Some of them screw the OM and carry on affairs and leave their husbands and children. They end up with the same issue if they stay with the new guy. Remember Chantal where ever you go there you are. You will still be a cheater with him. He will cheat on you. And you will cheat on him. Nice life.

 

Then there is the other kind of cheater. That after she cheats and has an affair. She eventually is found out and it destroys her family which she really didn't want to do. She realizes she loves her husband and that she was just being a slut. But its to late. Her children or husband will never look at her the same. Something in their eyes will say "you're tainted" "you're dirty". You will never have any authority with your children. And you will never be able to chastise them for doing the wrong or immoral thing, because hey your a cheating slut. So by all means instead of talking to your husband and going N/C with your boss. Go screw his brains out and become the cheating cunt you were meant to be. Now go have some fun.

[EYECANDY000]

Bad idea on all aspects! thats all I can say, and Im sure you dont need anyone to point out , why it is one!

[BoerumHill]

I would highly recommend reading the posts of other cheating wives like yourself. Some of them screw the OM and carry on affairs and leave their husbands and children. They end up with the same issue if they stay with the new guy. Remember Chantal where ever you go there you are. You will still be a cheater with him. He will cheat on you. And you will cheat on him. Nice life.

 

Then there is the other kind of cheater. That after she cheats and has an affair. She eventually is found out and it destroys her family which she really didn't want to do. She realizes she loves her husband and that she was just being a slut. But its to late. Her children or husband will never look at her the same. Something in their eyes will say "you're tainted" "you're dirty". You will never have any authority with your children. And you will never be able to chastise them for doing the wrong or immoral thing, because hey your a cheating slut. So by all means instead of talking to your husband and going N/C with your boss. Go screw his brains out and become the cheating cunt you were meant to be. Now go have some fun.

 

I'm all for straight talk, but name calling and vile nasty language is way overboard. I know you probably didn't mean to come across as misogynistic, you were perhaps trying to throw some cold water on her, but that was pretty offensive.

 

Maybe you should go work on your own issues, atwitsend, instead of attacking and judging others.

 

Chantal -

 

Thanks for seeking out advice instead of acting on your impulses.

 

I think you already knew the answer before you registered and posted. A lot of times when we ask for advice we kind of know deep inside what we should do, but we need to talk it out. On the whole you will find most folks around here are great at listening to what you are saying.

 

Not that you should expect anyone to sugar coat it or tell you what you want to hear. Plenty of straight shooters around here who will tell you whats what without any b.s. You will also find others who have been in very similar situations.

 

A lot of times we look at a situation and think "OK, I can take path A or path B"...but we miss the third way. That's why it is so great to talk it out/write it out with someone anonymous - to see things from a different perspective we haven't considered.

 

I think your best option is to focus first on your relationship with your husband. How long have you been together? What are the issues? Do you have children? It would help if you gave us some more background.

 

If you cheat with your boss...ask yourself why you would do that. Because you want out of your marriage? Wouldn't it be better to untangle yourself first and let yourself heal, instead of acting out? Why screw up your husband's life and the life of your bosses S.O.? What would this do your career/job prospects? Do you think you would stay with him...really? Because you would be with someone who cheated with you. If they cheated/you cheated to be with them, then why wouldn't he cheat/you cheat down the road when things cooled off?

 

Lots of things to think over before you go down that path...

[spookie]

If you find a way to get it on AND keep your job... lemme know.

[johan]

If you find a way to get it on AND keep your job... lemme know.

 

Do you have a thing for your boss, too, Spookie?

[spookie]

Do you have a thing for your boss, too, Spookie?

 

no way....

[BlueEyedGirl]

I would be interested to know as well. I want to get it on with my married boss without damaging my reputation and losing the job..

[letters]

I agree with Boerumhill. I thought Atwitsend was down right nasty. Ofcourse it's a bad idea to cheat on your husband, but sites like this would help you read about other people's mistake and hopefully avoid the same mistakes. Has it occured to you that your boss may actaully just want a momentary fling with you, not long term per se?

[norajane]

Judging by the big grin in your thread title, it would appear that you are happy about this turn of events?

 

If you continue with this, you could end up losing your job and your husband AND your boss may not leave his gf...leaving you pretty much on your own and unemployed. Are you prepared for that? If not, then don't move forward, because those are very possible outcomes.

[Brady_to_Moss]

love him based on what...have you had any dates??