ennaoj Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 i really do not understand my husband lately..since i got pregnant with my second child,he changed a lot..i do not know whats wrong with him..he's been going out late with friends and when i try to confront him,he would blame me..as if i was doing wrong..help any suggestions?i wanted to know what was going on but he would not let me..
annieo Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 Was baby number two a joint decision that you both fully welcomed? Even if the answer is yes, maybe he's feeling freaked out about it. Have you had a chat with him at a neutral time e.g., not when he's walking through the door late at night? Maybe a little heart to heart will allay your worries and give him a chance to really hear you. If he acts like a jerk even under those conditions, then my radar would be going off.
Holding-On Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 Perhaps he is feeling trapped. My husband really wanted our first child. He was all for it and as the eldest of many I really was not because I knew what I was getting in for. Well after we had our eldest, my husband really was a true partner. My husband discovered what a lot of work and restriction on your life small babies/kids are. I however discovered that unlike siblings, when you are taking care of small kids you get the love as well as the drudgery. So I wanted another. I wanted our eldest to have a sibling. My husband was not so keen. He agreed to have a second but really took a long time to come around to being full on with number 2 the way he was with our first. He could see that another child would be that much more of a responsibility. That it would take that much longer for me to get back to working full-time and that he would be shouldering the responsibilities of parenthood that much longer.
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