jchjs Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 I've been trading quick glances with him at the gym for a while. Last week, I caught him, we locked eyes and both smiled and I really felt an instant attraction...a very strong moment. The next day he started to say hi to me, but nothing more. This went on for a while, one day he seemed to end his machine right after I did, we both were getting towels to clean them and I felt really nervous...knew I should probably say something, but got too shy and it seemed he did too, he seemed nervous. (We were both wearing headphones too, so it was awkward) Still he said hi the next day though. Then saw him again a couple of days later and he completely ignored me...no eye contact, no hi's. Did I misread the situation or is he playing a game? Any advice how to proceed?
You'reasian Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 I've been trading quick glances with him at the gym for a while. Last week, I caught him, we locked eyes and both smiled and I really felt an instant attraction...a very strong moment. The next day he started to say hi to me, but nothing more. This went on for a while, one day he seemed to end his machine right after I did, we both were getting towels to clean them and I felt really nervous...knew I should probably say something, but got too shy and it seemed he did too, he seemed nervous. (We were both wearing headphones too, so it was awkward) Still he said hi the next day though. Then saw him again a couple of days later and he completely ignored me...no eye contact, no hi's. Did I misread the situation or is he playing a game? Any advice how to proceed? If he has a girlfriend or is married, chances are he was probably just being lightly flirtatious and friendly - otherwise, take the next step. Don't analyze.
Rebellious Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 You're making too big a deal of it, I talk to people at Golds gym all the time, even to antisocial types with headphones.
Author jchjs Posted December 25, 2008 Author Posted December 25, 2008 I'm sure I'm overthinking it, but since he was the one to start saying "hi" after the initial "moment", I'm assuming he felt the same intense attraction. I know the "ignore" game often is trying to gage the level of interest, but I'm not sure whether to really start a conversation or just try and see how it goes. I'm really not one for playing games, but I am rather shy and would rather not approach him in this case since I don't know him. I've been out of the dating loop for a while so any advice is really appreciated! I should also mention that I am quite a bit older than him if that makes a difference. (which made the whole thing surprising in the first place).
Rebellious Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 I get a lot of those "initial moments" from women because I'm very tall, slender, etc., but it doesn't mean anything, they're just giving me the once-over. People often do a double-take for a variety of reasons.
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