rosary67 Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 Hi all,just signed up and looking for a some friendly advice.split up with my wife 10 days ago it is over for good no goin back in her eyes anyway.weve been 10 yrs married and have 2 daughters and this hurts like never before.I cant eat sleep and tbh im struggling to do the basics like having a shower etc.i feel ill with this.Its xmas day a wont c the kids as shes not even responding to mails txts etc.my wife has completely switched off and she knows what this will b doing to me especially at this time of year.our marrige had been slipping for a while and we had a bust up 10 days ago which resulted in her locking me out and packing all ma stuff etc.havent seen or spoke since altho ive tried obviously.dont know what to do here im lost.
SupportGroupie Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 Hello I am sorry for your pain, and I am sure this feels like the most unbearable time ...and it's hard to be where you are. This is obviously very new...and very real....and it's natural to feel lost, and scared, hurt, and out of whack. ALl I can do is say that I send support and will pray for you and your hurt heart. Just try to hang in there, and make sure you can get some food and rest ...even if it is just a little bit. Find one thing that is still okay in your world, whether its a friend, hobby, music that gets you to a safe place, a movie..something...try and find something, just one thing you can do each day...to put the focus somewhere else...and I would suggest therapy and support groups. Keep posting, reading and seeking help from the world out here. we care SG
EmperorR Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 Have you had problems in your marriage before? All I can say is marriage counselling.
Author rosary67 Posted December 26, 2008 Author Posted December 26, 2008 thnx for the replies guys.yes councelling? yes id go for that obviously but in her eyes its over.dont think shed entertain councelling atall in fact i know she wouldnt.she has completely blocked me out doesnt reply to txts mails nothing.its as if i dont even exist.so i spent xmas day on my own never seen the kids or nothing never even heard from anyone.i got thro the day just like ill get thro today aswell but its a struggle and a half.feel like im a zombie just existing right now i cant think straight or do anything tbh.how the **** can a person make ye feel like this? by nature im actually quite strong but i think im still in shock and yday being xmas was a total nightmare.i cant believe shes treated me like this really cant as id a never done this to her.my wife has this great ability to switch off god knows how she does it but im her husband and deserve to be treated better id a thot.
TeaAbraham Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 You can always see somebody just by yourself. I did. It is good being able to talk to somebody about it. I know that pain you are feeling. It's really rough. Hard to know how they do it. I'll be prayin for ya too.
Author rosary67 Posted December 26, 2008 Author Posted December 26, 2008 yes id go to councelling myself no problem.im quite an open and emotional person whereas my wife is the total opposite.she clams up doesnt show a lot of emotion and couldnt speak openly to a councellor the way i could thats how i know she wouldnt entertain it.
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