evoLve Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 Hey guys, I could really use some advice right now. Basically the quick background of it is I met and started dating my GF 3 years ago and we broke up a little over a year ago. She said she would never get back together with me under any circumstance, but has recently broken up with her BF that she got together with after me and gotten back together with me. Reason being is that we both had a few problems between us that just kept us apart, but since we've actually grown so much over the past year she realized it was time again. So basically, were 'perfect' for each other once again lol. So anyway, the first night we had a serious conversation about getting back together, I told her that there were a few things I wanted to tell her as I always want to be honest with her. I told her that I drank a few times and was drunk twice, and tried smoking a hookah. The problem with this is that we were both always very against drinking and smoking (even though we both agree that hookah alone wont hurt you). I told her this right off the bat as I wanted to be up front and honest with her immediately, and she said that she accepts what I did and its in the past. Recently (mind you this is all within a month or two at most) she has been telling me that she has been having some serious doubts against me, so far as to call me a manipulative liar because I didn't tell her that I drank at the time that I did it (between her telling me she cant live without me, of course). She keeps asking me to justify it and I keep admitting that it was a stupid mistake that I regret but I only kept it from her because I was afraid of her being upset. I told her I only did it to try it over a short period and I am not interested in it any more, done. She asks me how she knows there's nothing else I'm keeping from her, and I try to explain its because I admitted everything there was to admit right away, but she wont have it. I think the only reason she's upset is because I never told her the details about the night... How my friend ended up driving my car cause I didn't feel safe, I fell asleep in my passenger seat, and we got pulled over cause my friend rolled through a stop sign. She keeps equating it to doing drugs though. So anyway, she keeps going between not being able to live without me, and not trusting a word I say (not like she hasn't deceived me once or twice a while back) and even went so far as to tell me she wasn't sure if she loves me before we said goodnight just now . Look, ill be honest.. The girl can be messed up, and honestly she's probably only saying these things 'cause she's the one who has been like this in the past (ex. cheaters are afraid their partners will cheat because they will, so she cant trust me because she can't be trusted) as these were actually her problems before we broke up. I have no intention of keeping anything from her, at any time, ever, but she wont believe it no matter how many times I say it, no matter how I say it. I know you cant MAKE anyone DO anything, but how do I get this girl to see that I'm telling the truth, and that I would never do anything to jeopardize my being with her? Its like my boss said, theres not enough merchandise in the store to steal to jeopardize me not seeing my family again. This is how I feel, and I honest to god haven't felt any other way since I met her. I'm so very afraid of losing her again, as I fear it may be the last time. I think shes really just looking for a good reason of why I drank and didnt tell het 'till later (or lied), but she doesnt like my excuse of 'it as wrong, I regret it, and theres no way to justify it cause it was wrong'. What do I do? Any advice MUCH appreciated, thanks for reading...
BackonTrack2 Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 forget words, have lots of sex, let your actions do the talking and if she doesnt want to have sex with you, its over
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