againstallodds Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 I've been in a few relationships. What I've learn is that relationship is always exciting in the beginning but eventually things become boring, sex become boring (hot girl or not) and flat lined and fall apart. I am not sure if it's because I haven't found the right one or is there something I can do to make the relationship more exciting so that things won't fall apart again but sometime it's inevitable. The problem is thing become too routine and comfortable. Sometime knowing just a little thing can change the whole situation. What are your thoughts on this? BTW Merry Christmas to all.
You'reasian Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 I've thought about this because I've been in the same situation, long ago. Looking back, here are some things that would have helped: 1. Spending time apart. Sometimes you really love someone and would like to spend your entire day with them if you could. Feeling could be mutual. However, it is healthy to spend time apart. And this has to be followed by trust. By the time things get 'boring' the two of you should have some established trust. Take a guys night out or a girls night out with friends. Take an interest in your hobby; she should take up hers. Even two hours apart is enough time to focus on something independent. Travel if you can, but meet up independently. You could even spice this up... 2. Date Try to date your woman. That's right. The two of you should agree to spend a day or two apart first without communicating. Do something to change your appearances just enough, set up a date and meet each other. One week, you're the out of town business man out for R&R - she's the bored, single-mom looking for adventure - and the two of you get into the character and bump into each other and then bump into each other again and again and again if you know what I mean (Someone whose unemployed, with acting/directing skills, applied psychology and business sense could turn this into a profitable venture ) 3. Cooking Can't imagine a person who hates eating. That being said, when someone cooks for you, normally its appreciated. Take separate cooking classes in the area that your partner is interested. For example, I might be interested in Middle Eastern food. My girlfriend/wife might be interested in Sushi. We each take a cooking class in their interest then promise to cook for the other. Spice it up? Show up in the kitchen dressed with the attire of the food you're interested in Guess, I'd have to find a Samurai costume; she can come in as a belly dancer! That's fun!! Take pictures, make it an event and spoil your partner, hell flirt with them using funny jokes from the native country that you're cooking from, see if you can fake the accent as well Talk about a lasting memory. 4. Massage. Invest in an erotice massage book or take a class. Learn how to touch each other and get your woman turned on! 5. Alcohol Now, you have to know that the both of you are 'happy' drunks, otherwise it would be a problem - but the two of you could drink, put on some suggestive music and get it on!!
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