Copperkitty007 Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 I have been talking to a guy on line and we made plans on Monday to get together tonght for drinks. This morning he IM'd me and confirmed and said he wanted to get together for happy hour tonight. I said ok call me in the afternoon to confirm where you want to meet. He said ok, ill call you around 2pm. It is now 4:40 and there has been no call - happy would start within the hour. Would you go out with him tonight even if he calls in the next couple hours?
Rebellious Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 Some guys think that girls are flaky, so they'll call several girls and will go on the date with whoever shows up, or with the prettiest one. Also, when you asked him to call you again, he may have thought you were playing hard to get and lost interest.
Author Copperkitty007 Posted December 24, 2008 Author Posted December 24, 2008 I didnt ask him to call me again, I said do you know what is open tonight and he said no i will research and call you at 2pm to confirm. We have never even talked on the phone. FLAKE - Another one bites the dust.
Rebellious Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 ok you call him then and say, "hey dude where's my drink"
Author Copperkitty007 Posted December 24, 2008 Author Posted December 24, 2008 I dont have his number, gave him mine today via IM. I could contact him thru the dating site but honestly - why? It seems to me if he was really into me he would have called. Oh another peice to the puzzle maybe is that his profile is always showing as hidden or deactivated. Seems its only back to an active status when he goes to the site to IM or send e-mails. I asked him why it was hidden, he said no it wasnt hidden (a lie) and i said well people that hid their profile usually do so to not let someone else know they are on the site. I said are you currently in a relationship and he replied No. We moved on to a diff subject and then he said he would call me at 2 and see you later. Maybe he does have something to hide or maybe he didnt like me being so blunt?
Rebellious Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 I could contact him thru the dating site but honestly - why? It seems to me if he was really into me he would have called. ... He doesn't even know you, why would he be "into you"? Why do girls think that way? You're over-analyzing his profile status, I have a hidden profile and it's not for the reason's you speculated. You should have just sounded happy and giggly to meet him, interrogating him about his status was premature and unnecessary. Call/message him and be nice this time.
Trialbyfire Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 There's only one word that comes to mind for a guy who doesn't keep prior commitments...NEXT...
Author Copperkitty007 Posted December 24, 2008 Author Posted December 24, 2008 I dont think asking him why his profile is hidden (which is not normal for most on line daters) and if he is current in a relationship exactly equate to interrogation. We have had numerous and lenthly IM converstations and it didnt feel out of line to ask these 2 questions, esp if I am about to meet you. Even if he decided he wasnt interested, be a man and contact me in someway instead of leaving me hanging - thats just low. If you ask me i jsut saved myself some drama!!! I bet you though he will contact me at some point and act as if he did nothing wrong. YES Tribal - NEXT!!
Pola_Pink Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 I think he should have been true to his word and called at least by 4ish... Not sure why he didn't - hard to analyse. There are some innocent explanations - he got your number wrong? But there are admittedly more negative ones - he is just a flake? has other girls on tap? Either way it's up to you, it's not like you have that much invested in it - if you feel like meeting him, go ahead, if not, then just ignore his next contact. I have learnt not to expect too much from someone you met online and haven't actually been out with. Were the rest of your online interactions fun? Do you have a lot in common? Did he seem genuine when chatting? Think about all of these things when deciding. I think asking if he was in a relationship was a bit too strong - it's fine to ask why is profile is hidden, but asking if he was in a relationship kinda makes you look like the suspicious type, and makes him think you think he's a lier and untrustworthy, if a guy I was chatting to online asked me something like that I'd probably not be impressed and think he was a little too full on.. But that's just me. Ammy
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