edinsvet Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 Which one is better for the holidays? A BS relationship or alone and knowing you are not wasting your time with the wrong one? Sometimes around christmas I just make plans with someone just for the sake not being alone. This year, I decided that I will hold myself to a higher standard. I was fortunate enough to have a few offers. But I knew it would only be temporary so I turned them all down. I felt that it was very selfish of me to just be with someone on Christmas that I fully intend on breaking up with immediately thereafter. Colloquially speaking that makes sense, now I am home alone and not sure if I did the right thing. And even though it may have been selfish of me if they are alone too, maybe they had their own selfish motives and it still would have been better. Anyway, I made these awesome plans to amuse myself. I bought some Snow Crab that I was going to have a private feast with. I was going to do a 15 episode "Battle Star Galactica" marathon. And enjoy my day alone. The snow crab was off, so I couldn't eat it. It stank up the entire apartment so I had to open the windows now it is freezing cold and I have a sweater on and my friend who was to copy me the Battle Star Galactica episodes computer blew up. So: No Crab, No battlestar, and sitting here with a sweater on ("hard times in Lithuania") Today I feel that I would much rather be in a fake relationship cuddling up enjoying this time even if only to break with them immediately after. And maybe it isnt so selfish it makes it easier for both of you to get through the holidays.
kizik Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 I understand your desire for a warm body, but just like one-night-stands, those little interactions, when you're with the person for comfort instead of their own personal merits - well, it feels cheap and I can't respect myself.
Author edinsvet Posted December 24, 2008 Author Posted December 24, 2008 I understand your desire for a warm body, but just like one-night-stands, those little interactions, when you're with the person for comfort instead of their own personal merits - well, it feels cheap and I can't respect myself. thanks now I don't feel so bad. I knew there was a reason I did this.
quankanne Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 no friends or family to hang out with where you're at? Or even a place to volunteer to serve the less fortunate? Somehow those things lessen the sting of being single during the holidays ... hugs, and Merry Christmas, edin. Now go make me a snow angel, and I'll don a pair of shorts and a tank top in your honor, it feels like late spring here in East Texas! quank
hanginthere Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 I too get lonely for someone during the holidays, but honestly I'd rather be alone than with someone I do not care to get to know and that leads them on. I do not like hurting people for my own gain.
D-Jam Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 Meh...I've learned hobbies and fun things, or even lazy time with some DVDs are far better than some fake RL made out of a need for a warm body. Makes me think of people who meet someone in the Fall, date them throughout the Holiday Season, then break it off after New Years. edinsvet, I'm glad you gave the real world a try, because the other behavior makes me think of those people who hate being single so much that they'll take any kind of warm attractive mate, even if it's a temporary thing. It reeks of insecurity and co-dependency. I still believe if one can't be happy alone, then they'll never be fully happy in a RL of any kind.
Ross PK Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 I would much prefer a fake relationship. Not even just for the holidays.
lino Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 I've never had a fake relationship for the holidays with someone but like I said in another topic a girl once did that to me and it really hurt a lot when I found out that's all I was to her. I don't understand how people can lead others on in a period such as xmas, I guess I'm just not normal in thinking it's not right to do that... At least here the holiday period isn't cold, I don't know how I'd cope with a lonely winter xmas time year after year.
Posco_Proudfoot Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 I'm glad to see this thread. This is the first time in 2 years I'm single during the Holidays. Sort of reminds me that I probably would be very worried on the money spending my ex would be doing even though we didn't have it, the materialism, the anxiety. Should we all make goes of find that special someone for the next holiday season?
Ross PK Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 Should we all make goes of find that special someone for the next holiday season? You guys go for it, you're all capable of finding someone. I won't bother though.
Tony T Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 ...a REAL posting session on LoveShack.org....hahaha!
alphamale Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 Whats Better, Fake Relationship for the Holidays or Being alone? . being alone
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