shylight200 Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 The thread "Guys, would you pay lunch for a girl you are not interested in?" kinda got me thinking, what if the guy paid for dinner? Then would that mean anything? Cause I kinda think of lunch as a casual thing, but dinner more as a "date". It doesn't have to be an actual date date, but lets say... You and a guy friend were working late or studying late or whatever and you went out to dinner and the guy ended up paying for your food, would that mean he's just being nice or would it mean a little more? I know every guy is different but in general, what would it mean?
JoeNewbie Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 The key word in your description is "friend". I often have dinner with female friends and I'll pick the tab. Other times they pay, whatever. That being said, I think having dinner with a guy who is not your friend does mean something.
lovestruck818 Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 I think it depends on who the person is. If there are not romantic feelings on either side, then it really isn't a date whether he pays or not. If he's strictly a friend and both of you know that, then no, to me, it would not be a date. But then again, maybe his feelings have grown for you, so who really knows? Best thing is to just ask if it's a date or not.
Author shylight200 Posted December 24, 2008 Author Posted December 24, 2008 So if you hardly knew the guy, then it could mean something?
Posco_Proudfoot Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 So if you hardly knew the guy, then it could mean something? I suppose it could mean on income. Does paying really hit his pocketbook? It could mean something. It's really a coin toss. Then again, maybe if he was into you he'd be asking you out, but he found a dating loophole.
JoeNewbie Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 So if you hardly knew the guy, then it could mean something? I view myself as a gentleman and must admit I have better income than the average person. I often pay for my female friends, just because they are my friends. That being said, I'd never pay dinner for a woman who is not my friend and who I don't find attractive. Hell, I'd probably wouldn't have dinner with her, period, if I am not attracted to her. It all depends on your situation. Were you working on school stuff and then headed out for a pizza and he paid? I wouldn't read into that. But if he made the effort to take you to a decent place where you had a three hour dinner with great conversation and laughter, that's different.
Author shylight200 Posted December 24, 2008 Author Posted December 24, 2008 I view myself as a gentleman and must admit I have better income than the average person. I often pay for my female friends, just because they are my friends. That being said, I'd never pay dinner for a woman who is not my friend and who I don't find attractive. Hell, I'd probably wouldn't have dinner with her, period, if I am not attracted to her. It all depends on your situation. Were you working on school stuff and then headed out for a pizza and he paid? I wouldn't read into that. But if he made the effort to take you to a decent place where you had a three hour dinner with great conversation and laughter, that's different. We were studying for finals and decided to get something to eat around 10:30 pm. There really aren't that many places around here that are open that late, so our options were limited. But we did manage to find this Italian place that was open. We had something simple and easy. It didn't cost much, I would say around 20 for the both of us. We did talk and laugh during the meal, but it lasted around an hour and a half from when we went to get food and when we got back. We didn't talk that much during dinner, but we did talk ALOT when we were suppose to be studying. We were in the library probably from noon until 2:30ish. I would say we talked about random things more than we studied.
JoeNewbie Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 We were studying for finals and decided to get something to eat around 10:30 pm. There really aren't that many places around here that are open that late, so our options were limited. But we did manage to find this Italian place that was open. We had something simple and easy. It didn't cost much, I would say around 20 for the both of us. We did talk and laugh during the meal, but it lasted around an hour and a half from when we went to get food and when we got back. We didn't talk that much during dinner, but we did talk ALOT when we were suppose to be studying. We were in the library probably from noon until 2:30ish. I would say we talked about random things more than we studied. Why were you "studying" together in the first place?
JoeNewbie Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 My perspective might be different since I never needed any help with my exams. I wouldn't study with a girl unless I thought she was hot.
Author shylight200 Posted December 24, 2008 Author Posted December 24, 2008 Why were you "studying" together in the first place? I think he needed my help. But he talked sooooo much, we didn't get anything done. He initiated most of the conversations.
edinsvet Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 I don't know if this will just make you more confused, but I always pay for the women. Whether I am interested or not. I am not sure why. Just something I always do.
Author shylight200 Posted December 24, 2008 Author Posted December 24, 2008 I don't know if this will just make you more confused, but I always pay for the women. Whether I am interested or not. I am not sure why. Just something I always do. Yeah a lot of guys seem to do that just to be polite or gentlemanly I'm trying to figure out if he was interested or just nice
Rebellious Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 Most of the time he paid simply because you did offer to... and somebody's gotta pay for dinner
movingonandon Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 The thread "Guys, would you pay lunch for a girl you are not interested in?" kinda got me thinking, what if the guy paid for dinner? Then would that mean anything? Cause I kinda think of lunch as a casual thing, but dinner more as a "date". It doesn't have to be an actual date date, but lets say... You and a guy friend were working late or studying late or whatever and you went out to dinner and the guy ended up paying for your food, would that mean he's just being nice or would it mean a little more? I know every guy is different but in general, what would it mean? Again, it has no meaning at all. Us, the old-world gentlemen do it all the time, even in the complete absence of naughty intentions. Of course, we do the same thing in the presence of naughty intentions. Whichever is the case, you will find out through other means, ole!
Author shylight200 Posted December 25, 2008 Author Posted December 25, 2008 Again, it has no meaning at all. Us, the old-world gentlemen do it all the time, even in the complete absence of naughty intentions. Of course, we do the same thing in the presence of naughty intentions. Whichever is the case, you will find out through other means, ole! I know, you're right....
BobSacamento Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 Guys paying for their friends meals screams "Hey I think your job is garbage and a joke. I pity you for making so little so please let me feed you like a starving child in Africa." Maybe it's not intended that way but that's how it comes off.
Meet 4 Coffee Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 I would say there is something there. Be patient. It sounds like he is a decent guy who really wants to take time to get to know you. Just because a guy doesn't make a move for sex the first time he pays for dinner doesn't mean he isn't interested. There are decent guys out there who actually want more than sex!
Meet 4 Coffee Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 It sounds like they are both college students, though. Guys paying for their friends meals screams "Hey I think your job is garbage and a joke. I pity you for making so little so please let me feed you like a starving child in Africa." Maybe it's not intended that way but that's how it comes off.
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