Its Christmas Eve..how are you all coping?

[EmperorR]

trying not to crack

 

i had to take my sim card out of my phone and hide it on top of my closet

 

I will not text, I WILL NOT TEXT

[Helioz]

my ex gf who broke up with me 2 wks ago texted me "happy holidays! and say hi to your parents for me!" as if she's gonna see them any time soon. I politely reciprocated of course (but i used no exclamations or happy face) i just kept it plain and simple.

[northstar1]

trying not to crack

 

i had to take my sim card out of my phone and hide it on top of my closet

 

I will not text, I WILL NOT TEXT

 

Stay strong my friend. Just remember, nothing good will come of it.

[TeaAbraham]

She is out of state with her mother.

 

The last time she saw her mother was when she came to visit us about three months ago.

 

She told her mother she was going to leave me. I remember I wasn't being very nice to my ex at that time. It was her birthday even. What was my problem.

 

Her mother said I could call her for whatever reason.

 

At the time I didn't understand why she said that.

 

Her mother liked me a lot more than she liked him.

 

Definitely not as happy this year.

[OCCDAVE]

I was really doing well up until tonight. Her family has a big Christmas party and I have the strongest urge to drive by and see if her replacement boyfriend is there but I won't. I miss the family as a whole but her the most. We had such a wonderful Christmas last year and now I'm stuck....alone.

Same here last year was so amazing we all sat around and joked and cuddled and had a really good time.This year none of that will happen was makes it worse the breakup is still fresh so its not like ive had months and months to try and get over her.sigh 2009 plz be better.

 

 

Thanks openbook

[openbook08]

youre welcome darlin.

just today to get through then its back to normal heartbreak

festive heartbreak its a female dog!!

[soserious1]

I have a new housemate that I got on an executive type room mate finder. We've decorated and between her family and friends and mine we've had people coming and going here all week:)

 

I have cinnamon rolls rising, am making omelets for breakfast for all the out of towners sleeping here.I am making a ham large enough to feed 30 people.

 

Right now I have a dozen scented candles and the tree shimmering, there's a blazing fire in the fireplace that has been going since yesterday and Handel's Messiah playing. I'm sitting here sipping my coffee wearing my favorite red fleece pajamas with a cat on my lap enjoying the very best part of Christmas.. the very early morning before the dawn when all is still and you are alone with your thoughts and memories, of Christmas past,of loved ones come and gone,of times both good and bad, where've you've been and where you hope to go.. and then you sit and listen,quietly and the voice of hope for Christmas future fills your heart.

 

Silent Night, oh holy night....

 

Merry Christmas to each of you

[i11]

Just do a lot cooking, make something delicious to enjoy, listening to the favourite classic music, enjoy being alone without disturbance on a holiday, enjoy not having to care about someone and not sending some kind of special present to someone on a holiday, enjoy the period of peace, and pretend to be happy alone. I am fine....., I think so.

 

Anyway, wish everyone here a merry christmas and happy new year, move on and get a brand new life, something never should be forgotten: we are all good people, we deserve better.

[openbook08]

trying not to crack

 

i had to take my sim card out of my phone and hide it on top of my closet

 

I will not text, I WILL NOT TEXT

 

you are keeping me going.

ive nearly cracked so many times today but your post keeps stoppin me.

if you can do it, so can i.

thanks

[Just_dealin_with_it]

It will get better everyone. This holiday may stink (even though it doesn't have to) but next year will be better with or without someone new because you'll have had all that time to move on. It's hard to get over the initial hump, but once you do, you'll feel better and better all the time, despite the fact that you'll still think about your ex. Soon, when you think of them, it will be more objective, and associated more with acceptance rather than pain.

 

I have had NC with my ex for close to 3 months, and been broken up for more than 4 months. I just received a merry christmas text, first contact from her in a while. I'll likely text her back, just to be cordial for the holiday. It's better to forgive and forget, just as long as you are ready to do so. (Meaning you don't expect anything in return for your forgiveness)

 

I really hope everyone has a wonderful holiday. Remember to keep thinking positive thoughts. Your thoughts and how you perceive each situation has a lot to do with how much they actually affect you. Think up and be up, and time will heal you faster.

[surviving you]

fine , new years may just kill me

valentines day is scary to think about

 

im afraid , but I guess theres nowhere to go from the bottom than up

[darnay]

Have managed all day but now have this urge to send him a Merry Christmas text. He's sent me a christmas card, which i did not reply to and have been NC for 3 months. I just feel like I want to reach out tonight, but I know I shouldn't.

[jmmm]

trying to go through the day the best i can but i do miss him...it gets stressful being around my family the whole day..it was nice when we were together alone at christmas after visiting each others families and being together..i also think about what he is doing at this moment because i know what they usually do around the times of the day during christmas eve and christmas

[shesmiles]

Christmas was a little different... but not so bad, doesn't help that our three year anniversary was on the 23rd... that day was a bit difficult after I got home from work, I'll admit I cried...

[quankanne]

am surprised today was a no-funk day missing my parents, and I think a lot of that has to do with the "family" I've made through work – boss and his wife have been wonderful to me and DH ever since I started working for him, and his girls are like nieces to me, so holidays are good when they're with this particular family.

 

I do feel bad for my sister, though, who really took it hard when Daddy died and her daughter wrote off the family several months ago, so it's killing my sister to not see her daugher or grandkids ... I know families can be difficult to deal with at times, but I am having a hard time reconciling my niece's behavior ... how can someone call themselves a good, "saved" Christian yet do their best to stay angry and hate someone?

[trixy]

I was doing fine untill I heard that my Dad will not be home from hospital for Christmas.

 

am truly sorry to hear that, Trixy ... despite the logistics, I hope your family does find peace and joy at Christmas this year.

 

wonder if they're gonna bombard your daddy with red and green jello?

 

Thank you for your thoughts Quankanne, Dad finally came home today, he is really not well though. I made it all the way through Christmas with a smile for my son and now I feel so terribly alone. I will not break NC, but tonight is not easy.

[quankanne]

trixy, I imagine your pop is just thrilled to be out of the hospital environment, recovered or not, and for his sake, I'm glad he's home, too.

 

it's said that God doesn't give us more than we can handle … and he gives us the needed graces to handle it.

 

XXX,

quank

[MalachiX]

I went home and spent Christmas with my family. That way, I got to be distracted by my parent's disfunctional relationship and not think of my EX. Score!