openbook08 Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 so far but at least im posting here instead of sending 'that' email or text im NOT gonna do it even though today ive miss him more than ever dumb Link to post Share on other sites
LittleDove Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 This time last year I was hiding wrapping kids gifts, decorating the house and being part of a family.... This year, no bf, no step kids, its me and my dog....I bought myself a kick ass pressie and am going on holidays.... had a sad moment...got over it..im relaxed and happy and going away for new years. it gets better people "'festivus' for the rest of us" Link to post Share on other sites
Surfer Dude Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 Doing fine. Just wrapping up some project for one of my classes. Today is a day just like any other. The whole reason why dumpees feel sad during holidays is societal conditioning which enforces that people must have someone by their side in order to be happy. And because they know that their exs are having a great time with their new partners. My ex is having a great time with her new boyfriends same as any other day, so no reason to feel down. Link to post Share on other sites
EmperorR Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 Hard right now I feel like saying merry christmas but I won't. Link to post Share on other sites
stray_cat Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 just pretending this day is just like any other ordinary day. i just try not to think what my christmas was like last year coz remembering how things used to be just makes me feel depressed. thank god christmas is only one day! Link to post Share on other sites
BusterBrown Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 not too good. last yr we had a wonderful Christmas, we even threw a big party at our house. Christmas is her favorite holiday. Today it's just me and the dogs Link to post Share on other sites
iwish Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 It's hard at this time of year, you tend to remember who you were with last christmas and how much better it was. This year sucks! Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 Insomnia as normal, thanks for asking Link to post Share on other sites
MWH Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 I'm hanging in there... I'm gonna be glad to get out of the house and see my family for a few hours a little later but after that it is just another day alone. No fond memories of the ex because last year she destroyed the holidays- all of them. I'm tough and no matter how bad it feels its gonna get better for me. It has got to! Peace all and here's a big *hug* for all who are nursing a broken soul: *HUG!* MWH Link to post Share on other sites
carrie3107 Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 Not too sure at the mo. Still get a bit worried about him will he be ok over xmas. (even though he walked out on me and its been 9 months, still communicating uptill September) but it was what he wanted so not going to break contact. Merry Xmas everyone xx Link to post Share on other sites
OCCDAVE Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 Last night I once again cried myself to sleep sigh.like everyone else I keep reflecting cause last year I had a awesome gf and was part of her family and now im not.I am tempted to send a greeting but it will break nc Link to post Share on other sites
Joyvke Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 Never had anything with christmas to be honest. It's fun when you have someone who likes to celebrate it, but when you're alone you don't really feel celebrating it. It's just a day like all the others for me. So I won't be celebrating it . Happy holidays to those who do celebrate it. Link to post Share on other sites
Ross PK Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 I've never had a problem with being alone at Christmas. As long as I've got enough alcohol and nice food then I'm fine. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 working today, and trying to figure out what to take to dinner at friends' homes – intentionally am NOT planning Christmas with family, because I think things are still kind of raw after losing our dad in November, and everyone is going to be mopey, you know? otherwise, I'm more than a little surprised that Christmas came so quickly this year! Link to post Share on other sites
Sbrizio Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 Back in hometown, with parents and old friends, which actually helps... ...and having a hard time not sending her a Xmas text or card...which actually wouldn't help Link to post Share on other sites
kizik Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 Hey, I agree w/ everyone else in that now that I am not with her, I don't have her family to spend the time with. But everyone please remember, things change every year, and who knows, maybe next year at this time you'll be spending Xmas with new, great people that you still haven't met! Josh Link to post Share on other sites
trixy Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 I was doing fine untill I heard that my Dad will not be home from hospital for Christmas. It will still be a lovely day with my son, but it is so far removed from the day I expected it to be just a two weeks ago. I keep reminding my self of all the wonderful things that I do have and then the sadness passes. Have a good day everyone. Link to post Share on other sites
calculus Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 I never spent a holiday with a significant other (never had a relationship long enough to do so anyway) so no feelings lost here. I'm actually headed to a 1 week vacation out of the country in about an hour. This was planned long before I met the girl who eventually broke up with me a couple of weeks ago. Maybe this was a blessing in disguise Link to post Share on other sites
trueblue72ny Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 up and down here. the last few days i felt good. but now i feel really down in thinking about it. having a hard time getting it out of my mind. BUT! i just keep telling myself its only a couple days and i;ll get thru it. going to the gym in a little bit and hoping i'll get lucky and hurt myself so i have something else to think about! : ( trading one pain for another. Link to post Share on other sites
Jenny123 Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 Í've accepted he's not coming back, i'm moving on-I've started to like someone-just friends for now.we broke up end of September. This last few months were a pretty dark period for me- I sms'd him today Happy christmas, he sms'd back-who is this?, I replied Its Jen, best wishes for 2009.my last text had been 7weeks ago. I'm not looking for anything but putting my ghosts to bed and no hard feelings. I have no regrets- this is who I am-making peace. I will not contact him again Happy Christmas, everyone x Link to post Share on other sites
PinkToes Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 I'm kind of surprised that I'm feeling more sad today. Will fix a nice dinner and light a fire, I'm pretty good at looking after myself. But today I miss him, and that kind of sucks. He really wasn't worth it (says the head to the heart...) Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted December 25, 2008 Share Posted December 25, 2008 I was doing fine untill I heard that my Dad will not be home from hospital for Christmas. am truly sorry to hear that, Trixy ... despite the logistics, I hope your family does find peace and joy at Christmas this year. wonder if they're gonna bombard your daddy with red and green jello? Link to post Share on other sites
reelbigfish Posted December 25, 2008 Share Posted December 25, 2008 I was really doing well up until tonight. Her family has a big Christmas party and I have the strongest urge to drive by and see if her replacement boyfriend is there but I won't. I miss the family as a whole but her the most. We had such a wonderful Christmas last year and now I'm stuck....alone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author openbook08 Posted December 25, 2008 Author Share Posted December 25, 2008 well i dunno about you guys but where im from its over! thank God. it was a shi**y aul christmas eve. but i kept busy. and didnt break NC. i came very close to leaving a present i know hed love (got it a few months ago when he was tellin me he was so sorry, i was the one etc. & i knew hed never buy it himself & itd make him so happy) but...and i hope this is a good but..this time my HEAD wouldnt let me!! somethin was nigglin at me that it was not the right thing to do. i didnt even post here lookin for advice on it cos i knew, i knew!! but i never thought i wouldnt go thru with it. at long last the head is fightin back. its only a small victory , i still feel lonely and hate this stupid time of year but maybe theres a light at the end of the tunnel after all! reelbigfish,quankanne(esp. you),pinktoes,jenny123,trueblue72ny,calculus,trixy,kizik, sbrizio,rosspk,joyvke,occdave,carrie3107,mwh,littledove,surferdude, emperorr,straycat,lovemywifeinga,iwish,carhill a big merry christmas, and hugs to you all!! and for everyone hurting this time of year, at least we've got each other. (i should sooooooo get a job with hallmark right?right? ha ha) Link to post Share on other sites
alwayssme Posted December 25, 2008 Share Posted December 25, 2008 I'm with my family...Just watching my favorite TV series and eating...Two years I spent with him for Christmas but what can I do? This is life...Actually Christmas is just like any other day...I mean I miss him everyday so what's the difference? Isn't it about celebrating Jesus' birth anyway?? Happy Birthday Jesus!!! Please bring happy days ahead Link to post Share on other sites
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