Not sure what to think.

[Padthai]

I have been with my boyfriend for a year. He is my best friend and I love him to death. Naturally I am a very curious person and the other day I looked at him new cell phone. I checked his texts to see if he saved any of mine, and I found a couple really odd texts. He and I don't hang out with other people, call us anti-social I guess. These few texts were from some girl I had never heard of. They said things like 'I am so bummed today. Check out these songs- blah blah blah'. And then there was one he sent as a reminder to himself saying 'Find a book about adoption!' which I found strange...we talk about everything.

This sparked an interest with me so I looked at the photos on his phone and there was a picture of a topless girl and another of a close up vagina. So I think he saved them from texts...or else took them from the internet? I don't know.

I jotted down the text girls phone number and found out she lives very far from us. I don't know if the photos are of her, but I deleted them and the texts. My boyfriend hasn't said anything. I asked him who he's been talking to lately and he didn't mention her name. So I have NO clue what's going on. The texts weren't a big deal...just weird. The pictures were very shocking.

I have no reason to not trust him. He is the best. We are together all the time and are so in love. Because I snooped I can't very well bring it up without seeming jealous, untrusting and crazy. When I was just curious. I know I did wrong, but still. This is nuts! Like I said, no reason to not trust him. We love eachother to death. We talk about everything (other than this I guess.) and we love being with eachother! Anyone have an idea of what might be going on? I know he isn't cheating in person, and I doubt he is cheating any other way...But I don't always know everything.

Any serious input would help!

 

Thank You

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My instinct is just to tell him that you snooped. Yes, it was wrong but I understand and I think he will understand that it is very hard to resist an urge like that. Plus, there isn't any way you can figure out what he wants that adoption book for except for asking him.

 

On the texts and naked pictures, I think that they are spam text messages. It doesn't really seem like they make any sense otherwise. Besides, you seem really confident that he isn't cheating, and I think you would probably know if he had the time or the will to do that. Good luck!

[Padthai]

Thank you. Spam wouldn't have even crossed my mind.