Am i staring rejection straight in the face? Or is it playing hard to get?

[Couture]

Ok so maybe i jumped into the dating pool so soon after my ex but i felt an attraction to this guy which i've never felt before! I met him in a club and my friend deserted me so he looked after me the whole night and took me back to his so i could wait for her. And then my friend called so he walked me down to her house and back up to get her and ordered us both a taxi home and got my number.

 

He sent me a SMS the next day asking if my friend was alright because she was upset the night before. And then yesterday i got a call from him asking if i wanted to go to the races with him and he'd call. So i waited and he didn't so i did and he said he'd just arrived and to walk along.

 

His body language was mixed and he was with two friends one i vaguely knew and another i didn't know at all. He asked me if i was going out that night i said no at first and then he said again 'so your not going out tonight then?' and i said maybe. Anyway it eventually turned out he'd call me! And guess what no call! So i sent an SMS saying i might be meeting with a friend later and was the club free entry? No reply!

 

The date seemed to be fine he asked me what i was up to for the rest of the week i said nothing and he said something about travelling up to London but he might come back imbetween (after i'd said i was free all week)

 

Have i just looked rejection straight in the face!? Or is this 'playing hard to get!?'

[EnigmaXOXO]

...Or is this 'playing hard to get!?'

 

Nope. "You're" making things too easy.

 

While men like to be approached by women, they often prefer doing the "pursuing" rather than the other way around.

 

He didn't call you back about the races. But you turned up anyway and just "happened" to bump into him. Big No No! There is no way you could possibly pass that off as just a "coincidence."

 

He said he'd call again. When he didn't, you called him. Second BIG dating No No. Now you've presented yourself as being needy and/or desperate.

 

Did you than show up at the club?...If so, you committed your third and hopefully not your final BIG dating No No, and it might be impossible to recover!

 

While many people make the mistake of playing too hard to get, even more make the bigger mistake of making themselves too available. This is a big turn "off" for many people, both male and female alike. No challenge = no mystery, and no mystery = no interest.

 

Relax. If a guy tells you he's going to call and doesn't, then don't pursue the matter further and don't chase him down. If he does call, then reciprocate, but don't throw yourself out there all at once.

[Couture]

No i didn't just turn up at the races we'd left it as he would be over there from 2.20 pm and he'd ring. But he didn't call so i rang to see if it was still on he said to come on over.

 

And no i didn't turn up to the club! I left it after he didn't call and said i might be in later.

 

The only chasing i have done is returning his call to the plans he initiated!