Oozak Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 Okay, I usually don't talk about stuff like this on forums, but I would like to share this to whoever is reading in hopes that someone can give me some warm, friendly words of advice. April 11th of this year, I started dating a girl, and I loved her so much, and I thought she felt the same way. She would tell me things such as "I've never felt so complete or loved with anyone but you" or "I want to spend my life with you". I thought for sure that one day I would marry this girl. Unfortunately, on Halloween, she broke up with me, and it my broke my heart. After Halloween I tried my hardest to win her back, writing her so many letters, and trying to convince her that I could make her happier if she gave me one last chance. The week after Halloween, however, she confessed that for the past three years she had been in a long distance relationship with someone else, well she used to live in the same town as him, but moved away and I guess they wanted to stay together. She told me she came to a point where she had to choose between me or him, and obviously she chose him. The crazy thing is that she has cheated on him alot, she has dated quite a few guys while she was in a relationship with him. He knows about her dating all of these guys too, but forgave her, and they are now still in a relationship. It's been 53 days since she broke up with me, and I still like her alot, regardless of how she has hurt me...I still love her and want her by my side. I still can't get over how things turned out. My emotions are so messed up..I feel loss, anger, envy, love, lust, sadness. Most people just say to forget her and move on, but that seems almost impossible for me to do...I just don't want to let her go. I also can't believe that her boyfriend actually decided to still date her after she cheated on him so much...well he is homeschooled and is also pretty much bound to anti-social chains. She is one of the only friends he has, so I guess he knows if he doesn't have her, he may never have anyone. So yeah, I still love her...how should I feel? What should I do?
EmperorR Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 ah I've been in your shoes, just a note writing letters etc. all that just pushes them further away. Yes it hurts being betrayed and basically used for all that time. But you have to ask yourself do you want a girl like that? a known cheat who continues on doing her dirty deeds, you deserve better much better. The Sweet innocent girl that you fell in love wit exists no more she's dead, hell she never did exist she was acting the wall time. You have to stop thinking about her I know it's hard keep yourself busy, the quicker you get over the liar deceitful girl the quicker you will find someone who will respect you because this girl DoES NOT respect you. I know it's hard man, hell I wanted back my cheating ex as well, but you have to ask yourself can you ever trust her 100% again if she does come back?
alwayssme Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 Wow, he knows about her cheating on him all the time and STILL wants to be with her? I'm sorry you're going through this.
Author Oozak Posted December 24, 2008 Author Posted December 24, 2008 Yeah, I couldn't believe he still wanted to be with her either. She dated five or more guys while she was in a relationship with him. I thought for sure that he would finally let her go, but no. It's bad when a girl cheats on you, but I think it's even worse when they cheat on their boyfriend for you, and you don't realize they're cheating, and you fall in love with them, and then they all of sudden throw you away to go back to their real lover. And I still like her soo much and want to be with her still, regardless of it all.
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