MeaganRaye Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 Do you ever go out in public with your MM/MW? If not, what do you typically do when you see each other? If you do go out in public, is it somewhere far where you are least likely to be spotted by a friend/relative of the spouse? Or do you just go anywhere locally and pretend like you're acquantances or friends
LadyDi Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 Nope, no going out in public. We usually talk, catch up on what's going on etc.
Author MeaganRaye Posted December 23, 2008 Author Posted December 23, 2008 Nope, no going out in public. We usually talk, catch up on what's going on etc. So you talk usually on the phone? What is a "date" usually like for you two? A home movie at your place?
Lizzie60 Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 Yes sometimes we go out in public.. rare though.. I did with my MM from work.. to restaurants, shopping (once).. it's usually not far so there are some chances that we'll meet someone we know.. but since we work for the same branch we always have the 'work' excuse. In general, they come to my place (since I live alone) it's quite convenient. We have a drink, talk and have sex.
Author MeaganRaye Posted December 23, 2008 Author Posted December 23, 2008 Yes sometimes we go out in public.. rare though.. I did with my MM from work.. to restaurants, shopping (once).. it's usually not far so there are some chances that we'll meet someone we know.. but since we work for the same branch we always have the 'work' excuse. In general, they come to my place (since I live alone) it's quite convenient. We have a drink, talk and have sex. Does that ever get distressing and boring by not being able to go fun places together? What's wrong with going out at night, I would think the chances of being caught would be lessened
wildsoul Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 We've never tried to hide, but it's a bit of a mute point because the home he owns with his wife is in a different county. It's not as interesting there as where I live, so there's been no reason for us to hang out there. Our situation is a little different too in that he's been separated for most of this time. So no hiding out, and our time together is the same as any 2 single people that date. We go on a lot of outings, but also stay home for both romantic & ordinary days/nights.
GreenEyedLady Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 Do you ever go out in public with your MM/MW? If not, what do you typically do when you see each other? If you do go out in public, is it somewhere far where you are least likely to be spotted by a friend/relative of the spouse? Or do you just go anywhere locally and pretend like you're acquantances or friends As a FOW, yes we dated like a normal couple. If he hadn't taken me out, it would have tipped me off. He lived a 100 miles from me at the time but he is in a line of work where he knows people all over. And we ran into several of his friends and he just introduced me as his GF. I am not the type of girl to "pretend."
Lizzie60 Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 Does that ever get distressing and boring by not being able to go fun places together? What's wrong with going out at night, I would think the chances of being caught would be lessened Not really.. I have other friends to go to fun places with.. If I wanted to go out in public, I'm sure some would say yes.. I think some of them would lick the floor if I asked but I'm not comfortable in public places with them.. as I will never ever take unnecessary chances to get caught. I don't want them to leave their family... so why would I want to take a chance like that. I want to f**k them.. not marry them..
Author MeaganRaye Posted December 24, 2008 Author Posted December 24, 2008 As a FOW, yes we dated like a normal couple. If he hadn't taken me out, it would have tipped me off. He lived a 100 miles from me at the time but he is in a line of work where he knows people all over. And we ran into several of his friends and he just introduced me as his GF. I am not the type of girl to "pretend." Since you are very open is the wife aware of this?
Author MeaganRaye Posted December 24, 2008 Author Posted December 24, 2008 Not really.. I have other friends to go to fun places with.. If I wanted to go out in public, I'm sure some would say yes.. I think some of them would lick the floor if I asked but I'm not comfortable in public places with them.. as I will never ever take unnecessary chances to get caught. I don't want them to leave their family... so why would I want to take a chance like that. I want to f**k them.. not marry them.. Okay, so your situation is purely sexual. You are not in love with him and don't expect anything else out of the deal but sex right?
GreenEyedLady Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 Since you are very open is the wife aware of this? I'm his W now. And no, she wasn't aware. Some people prefer to pretend. She was one of those.
Lizzie60 Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 No.. I say, except for a few cases, it's more than just sex.. it's friendship... most of them would do anything for me... My young MM does thing around the house for me.. he's a licensed plumber but is not in that profession.. The MM from work fell in love with me.. still is.. I never was in love with him and he knows it.. I'm very clear with them, from the start.. no commitment.. just friendship and sex. One other I've been seeing regularly for the past 5 years (I call him my Scout MM) is purely sexual.. although he has started (the last 3 visits) to say that he loves me.. (he never told me this before).. and he comes more often now..
Author MeaganRaye Posted December 24, 2008 Author Posted December 24, 2008 No.. I say, except for a few cases, it's more than just sex.. it's friendship... most of them would do anything for me... My young MM does thing around the house for me.. he's a licensed plumber but is not in that profession.. The MM from work fell in love with me.. still is.. I never was in love with him and he knows it.. I'm very clear with them, from the start.. no commitment.. just friendship and sex. One other I've been seeing regularly for the past 5 years (I call him my Scout MM) is purely sexual.. although he has started (the last 3 visits) to say that he loves me.. (he never told me this before).. and he comes more often now.. Why do you have so many MM? Is it all coincidental that they are married?
Lizzie60 Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 I have many.. but I also have single guys that I see from time to time.. I have to say that I prefer MMs because, in most cases, we are on the same page... no commitment, sex with no strings.. We enjoy each other and we know that our respective lives will not be 'chambardées' (not sure what the translation is). (meaning our lives remain comfortable, peaceful, happy). Most MMs don't want to leave their family, friends, especially their kids... they don't want to give up their comfortable financial life.. most have a paid house, cottage, vehicles, investments, etc.. they don't want to have to split that and start again from scratch.. I don't blame them. I know I wouldn't... In most cases, eventhough they're not 'in love' with their W anymore.. they don't hate her.. they are like 'best friends' and if her libido is gone.. he gets it on the side.. both are happy and the kids are happy. Everyone is happy! What more can we ask for.. right?
PinkOrchid Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 GreenEyedLady, So you're married to the MM you were seeing as the OW? Do you have any trust problems with him? When/how did he leave his wife?
CAMAYPARK Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 MM & I live in different countries, different continents. We have met here at my place, we have met in HK, etc Does his W knows? What do you reckon?
GreenEyedLady Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 GreenEyedLady, So you're married to the MM you were seeing as the OW? Do you have any trust problems with him? When/how did he leave his wife? Yes, we are now married. No, I don't have trust issues with him. He gives me no reason not to trust him. He and his XW split up at the beginning of this year. He did it how most people do: said that the M was over, they went their separate ways and filed for D.
Author MeaganRaye Posted December 24, 2008 Author Posted December 24, 2008 Yes, we are now married. No, I don't have trust issues with him. He gives me no reason not to trust him. He and his XW split up at the beginning of this year. He did it how most people do: said that the M was over, they went their separate ways and filed for D. Is the W taking it well?
GreenEyedLady Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 Is the W taking it well? She is the XW. And she didn't seem to care at all. It worked out for everyone involved.
OWoman Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 I've had several MMs. We've never hidden, we've acted like any other couple whether in private or in public. Yes, we've sometimes run into friends or colleagues while out, but no one thinks that that kind of thing is a biggie in my home tow, it's pretty progressive. My current MM lives in a really tiny village. But even here, there have never been any issues. I was introduced to all of his friends colleagues and family, who all welcomed me and we socialised openly as a couple with them. They'd invite me and him, not him and BW, and now that he's left his BW and we're together full-time as a couple it's nice to have this long hisotry with all of them, as any other long-term couple.
Author MeaganRaye Posted December 26, 2008 Author Posted December 26, 2008 I've had several MMs. We've never hidden, we've acted like any other couple whether in private or in public. Yes, we've sometimes run into friends or colleagues while out, but no one thinks that that kind of thing is a biggie in my home tow, it's pretty progressive. My current MM lives in a really tiny village. But even here, there have never been any issues. I was introduced to all of his friends colleagues and family, who all welcomed me and we socialised openly as a couple with them. They'd invite me and him, not him and BW, and now that he's left his BW and we're together full-time as a couple it's nice to have this long hisotry with all of them, as any other long-term couple. So if your married man has left his wife for you than why is you s/n still Other Woman? You seem to still identify as one too
frannie Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 When we were together we dated completely openly, shared friends, he knew my family, and he stayed here for days at a time. This was easy for us as he lives in a different city (was here for work), although some of his family do live near me. He thought it was a risk worth taking. We did things anyone in a relationship does: dinner, theatre, walks, shopping, cooking, eating, supermarket, watching tv and going to the football and pub quizes. All very normal.
OWoman Posted December 27, 2008 Posted December 27, 2008 So if your married man has left his wife for you than why is you s/n still Other Woman? You seem to still identify as one too My s/n is OWoman, not Other Woman. There is a thread somewhere about people's choice of nicks, and it's explained there. I'll spare the t/j of going into it again here - you can look it up if you're interested and not merely trying to flame.
rouxeau Posted December 28, 2008 Posted December 28, 2008 I'm involved with a woman who is in a relationship. Every time we go somewhere I have to pretend I'm her friend. I find it difficult at times.
Adunaphel Posted December 28, 2008 Posted December 28, 2008 MM and I live in different cities and usually meet somewhere halfway so we have no problems going out in public. When we were in a city not too far from where he lives, we avoided the areas where relatives of his W live (but not the areas where he grew up, or where his parents live, or where he works). I cannot wait until his W and he get separated.
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