zilverenvlinder Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 Make me want to barf. Along with these phrases: "I hope you are doing well" "Take care" "Merry Christmas to you and your family" Ugh. Ugh ugh. Why email me, jerkoff? I hate you. I was having a fine no contact day at work and you send me this stupid email. You are a sick twisted mind$%*#( of a person and I hate you.
Knight_Ctrl Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 I agree. I've been having some pretty bad relapse and I'm terrified that she is going to send me something like this.....I'm gonna ****ing lose it if she does.
EmperorR Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 I hate it as well, my ex cheated dumped me lied to me called me every hurtful name in the book. Told me to forget about us I did nc and she texts me hey how are you?. Let's see how am I you shattered my heart humilitaed me, broke my trust in women and you have the nerve to ask me how am I? If I get a merry Christmas I'm going to snap.
DSM-IV Tom Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 Emporer man all you do is talk about your ex. In every topic. Most of the time you don't even reply to what the topic is about. You just talk about your ex and how she screwed you over. You think you're going to get over your ex when you talk about her nonstop? Seriously, look at your posting history dude. All you do is talk about your ex in every topic. You don't even really relate most of the time anymore. You just talk about yourself out loud.
pushforward Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 Make me want to barf. Along with these phrases: "I hope you are doing well" "Take care" "Merry Christmas to you and your family" Ugh. Ugh ugh. Why email me, jerkoff? I hate you. I was having a fine no contact day at work and you send me this stupid email. You are a sick twisted mind$%*#( of a person and I hate you. Just continue with NC. She'll eventually get it. Don't let this faze you. It's nothing, just a fishing hook cast into the sea. Don't get lured. Use the hate and negative emotions as motivation to be better and do better. Keep posting, venting helps a lot. I'm a long time lurker and poster. It helps when you really don't have any where else to turn to.
alwayssme Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 ok no offense but this post kind of annoyed me.. If they NEVER even bother to say anything, most people would say "he/she broke my heart...and not even a concern in the world..never even cared to ask about me afterwards." ( i have heard it soo many times) I understand we want our ex'es to have never have hurt us in the first place, to actually WANT US BACK, we want a full hearted apology...at least a freakin phone call... I have complained about when he didnt even care to say "hey how are you?" and then when he finally did I felt like "Oh wow..now he's trying to relive his guilt or making himself seem like he cares because a half hearted text message" I also get annoyed when after so long of NC, they come out of nowhere with "hey what are you doing?" something so casual as if we talk all the time....NO! How about a phone call if you really want to see what I have been up to with my life.. However I think if they never even cared to ask that it would be worse...so many times i just wanted to call my ex and have a normal actual conversation but risking hearing a cold/happy voice in the other line 9or him not picking up at all) no thank you...it hurts like hell i lost my best friend/the love of my life...unless hell is freezing over, i will not put myself through the torture of feeling broken up with all over again...It hurts so much especially when you are alone and going through so much crap besides being heartbroken...but i know i fought for him and for us..he didnt fight for me or our love..so as painful as this is, i'll just ride it out and keep praying! the only thing i would do would be send him a "Merry Christmas" or IF i am over him and content with my life...I could even sent him a "hey how are you?" text but then maybe thats not a good idea.... ???
BCCA Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 Delete it. Thats why I do, everytime. Read it if you must, but just delete it without responding. I get those stupid messages all the time.
alwayssme Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 I really dont understand the whole break-up "ok now you're out of my life" theory...when we were with them for soo long, were friends for so long before that...had sex with them, shared our lives, our deepest feelings and emotions...jeeeeezzz...next time i really care for someone and want them in my life forever, i will make sure to not go out with them... I play the rules of the break-up...like not talking, acting like were strangers...because my ex plays them....and i dont want to feel stupid...but honestly lately it has been pissing me off... I miss him...esp. now that im going through soo much, i was soo close to calling him just to have him there since i dont really have nobody...but then i think "would he even care?" so i dont wanna add another problem to my list.......God I wish I could just skip this part or erase it... stupid break-up rules....the people we loved all of a sudden become "the enemy" but i guess thats how it is....
EmperorR Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 Emporer man all you do is talk about your ex. In every topic. Most of the time you don't even reply to what the topic is about. You just talk about your ex and how she screwed you over. You think you're going to get over your ex when you talk about her nonstop? Seriously, look at your posting history dude. All you do is talk about your ex in every topic. You don't even really relate most of the time anymore. You just talk about yourself out loud. lol, nah I do keep it on topic, ya i may refer to my situation so much but i'm in a bitter state for the holidays.
EmperorR Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 ok no offense but this post kind of annoyed me.. If they NEVER even bother to say anything, most people would say "he/she broke my heart...and not even a concern in the world..never even cared to ask about me afterwards." ( i have heard it soo many times) I understand we want our ex'es to have never have hurt us in the first place, to actually WANT US BACK, we want a full hearted apology...at least a freakin phone call... I have complained about when he didnt even care to say "hey how are you?" and then when he finally did I felt like "Oh wow..now he's trying to relive his guilt or making himself seem like he cares because a half hearted text message" I also get annoyed when after so long of NC, they come out of nowhere with "hey what are you doing?" something so casual as if we talk all the time....NO! How about a phone call if you really want to see what I have been up to with my life.. However I think if they never even cared to ask that it would be worse...so many times i just wanted to call my ex and have a normal actual conversation but risking hearing a cold/happy voice in the other line 9or him not picking up at all) no thank you...it hurts like hell i lost my best friend/the love of my life...unless hell is freezing over, i will not put myself through the torture of feeling broken up with all over again...It hurts so much especially when you are alone and going through so much crap besides being heartbroken...but i know i fought for him and for us..he didnt fight for me or our love..so as painful as this is, i'll just ride it out and keep praying! the only thing i would do would be send him a "Merry Christmas" or IF i am over him and content with my life...I could even sent him a "hey how are you?" text but then maybe thats not a good idea.... ??? ah I feel the same way, it's funny how they say let's be friends, yet when you call them their cold and callous and quickly have to go. I was given the "your still my best friend", went NC, all i got in 90 days of NC is a few text, not even one phone call to see if I'm alive but ya I was your best friend
DSM-IV Tom Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 I'm glad you took it the way you did emporer. I'm not trying to chastise you or call you out and belittle you; I did what I did so you can see that you aren't moving forward, by complaining about her. I want to help you by calling attention to what you're doing, for your own benefit. I know your story. Your ex is a nut bag. You would do well to not speak of her so often lol. You know in your mind you relate. I relate with many of these people, but talking about my ex repeatedly won't help.
alwayssme Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 ah I feel the same way, it's funny how they say let's be friends, yet when you call them their cold and callous and quickly have to go. I was given the "your still my best friend", went NC, all i got in 90 days of NC is a few text, not even one phone call to see if I'm alive but ya I was your best friend yupp..exactly same here
Dmoney28 Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 yeah, i got a txt at 1:00 am with a pic......."just heading back from vegas". ok, thanks for waking me up for that, lol. i dunno...im so confused its funny
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