moss Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 Im 24 and my gf (well ex) is a couple of years younger than me and we broke up about 4-5 weeks ago. We had been going out for nearly 5 years, like all relationships, we had our ups and downs but it was generally good. Its mainly down to issues with my sister, she managed to annoy her big time on her birthday and I didnt want any problems, so stopped it but she never really got to say her piece and has kept it bottled up inside. It eventually got too much for her and she left. I see my family daily, so I cant really seperate them totally. Also, another guy is trying to get in with her, im 99% sure nothings happend (I could tell from whats been said) but I found out by reading her texts, which really annoyed her. Shes told me hes just a friend, I dont know him, but didnt mind her going to see him as hes gone through a fairly bad patch at home. I dont really think this is too much of an issue. Ive tried to sort it a few times but always seem to say/do the wrong thing and have just pushed her further away. I spoke to one of her friends who she was going out with and she said I was checking up on her, which made things worse. I saw her yesterday, gave her an Christmas present, card and told her I wont bother her anymore, but I do love her and hope she contacts me when shes ready. I gave her a cuddle and she started to cry as I left. She said she still really loves me, but I should have done more re the family/sister situation. (I wont go into detail, but the situation was more than that one occasion, shes had issues for a long time with them, and the stupid thing is, my family have no problem with her) During the last 5 weeks or so, she did come to a family funeral with me, she held my hand and really made me feel like things would get better, but then she left and didnt really give me that impression anymore. I also went shopping with her and done her quite a few favours, but as I tried to sort things, I kept saying stupid things when I was getting worked up. I spoke to one of her friends a few days ago, who said she thought we have a chance, although when I annoyed her a few days back, it really didnt help the situation. Her friend also said, she said the issue was never with me, but the situation I didnt really sort. As I told her, im not going to contact her, because I keep making things worse, and I'd love her to contact me, but the last few weeks have been really hard. The only thing im worried about the no contact this is, she might think im losing interest, ive not been really hassling her contact wise before, I did tell her i'd love to sort things out though. Im hoping she will contact me on Christmas day, I dont know if she will though. I actually owe her a fair amount of money, which she has hardly mentioned. Ive been a bit of a wreck since all this happend, I just dont know what to do next, deep down I still hold some hope for us, but maybe its my way of easing the pain. Ive lost my best friend and girlfriend, we spent pretty much every single day together and had great times.
Author moss Posted December 23, 2008 Author Posted December 23, 2008 Shes just signed into msn for the first time in a few days, no message from her, trying so hard not to send her one.
EmperorR Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 Number one don't contact her, next that guy is not just a friend, i've been there oh he's just a friend I'll never date him a week later. Block her from msn.
Author moss Posted December 23, 2008 Author Posted December 23, 2008 Atm im 99% sure hes still just a friend, I saw her replies to his texts, he wants more though. Is blocking her the best option, as I really do want her back, Ive promised myself not to chat to her though.
me101 Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 Hey man I have a twin sister who ruined to great relationships for me. One lasted for three years and the other for seven. I am telling you now either put her in her place or get ready to deal with crap from her for ever. I know that blood is thicker than water but you cant have a family of your own with blood, well at least not in most states. But here is my point I lost the true love of my life because I did not put my foot down with my sis. Now if you really love this girl the next time she calls let her know that you had a come to JESUS meeting with your sister. Women love men who will stand up for them no matter who it is against. If your sister gets mad then she gets mad. She has got to respect you and who ever you choose. Take it from a man who knows. God gave you balls for a reason now use them. Best of luck to ya
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