tikster Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 sorry if this is long, but i would like to give you the story so you guys can understand and point me in the right direction. i had a horrible break up that basically lasted for two years. i finally left for college and met a sweet guy. we didn't date for that long, a few months, but i started to really have feelings for him. he didn't seem to put too much effort into contacting me or going out for dates, but he was sweet when we hung out which was like once a week. so i felt like he wasn't interested in me and i suggested that we stop seeing each other if he wasn't interested, but if i was wrong that i wanted to talk and see how we could take things slower and work on us. to spare the horrible details we never talked. he sent me a facebook breakup stating he was too busy and it wasn't the right time for us. i was so hurt and never responded. i did NC and all and after three months i realized that i still had feelings for him and the breakup was probably my fault because i was scared and expressed it due to my previous bad breakup. so i wrote him a message with no intent to try to win him back, but to say i was sorry for my insecurities. he responded happily cuz he thought i hated him. we talked during the summer and he even asked me out for coffee. we met, but it was kind of weird for me cuz i still had feelings for him, but the way we ended things was still burned in my mind. for the sake of our friendship i asked him if we could talk about what happened so we could get rid of that "elephant in the room" so to speak, but he never responded. i realized that he was seeing someone,so i figured he was over me. so i imed him a month later just as a friend and he immediately wrote that he did want to talk and wanted to be friends. i told him he didn't have to cuz he felt guilty or anything, but he insisted. we set up a day to meet, but that never happened. i gave up and a week later he imed me with chit chat without me mentioning anything about us and then ultimately said he still wants to be friends and asked to meet for lunch. i agreed, but as the week goes on and i see his facebook and those cute things he sends to her i feel horrible. i really do miss him and i didnt start talking to him because of jealousy i started this months before i knew he had a gf. should i cancel our meet up? i feel horrible
Adri Ana Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 sorry if this is long, but i would like to give you the story so you guys can understand and point me in the right direction. i had a horrible break up that basically lasted for two years. i finally left for college and met a sweet guy. we didn't date for that long, a few months, but i started to really have feelings for him. he didn't seem to put too much effort into contacting me or going out for dates, but he was sweet when we hung out which was like once a week. so i felt like he wasn't interested in me and i suggested that we stop seeing each other if he wasn't interested, but if i was wrong that i wanted to talk and see how we could take things slower and work on us. to spare the horrible details we never talked. he sent me a facebook breakup stating he was too busy and it wasn't the right time for us. i was so hurt and never responded. i did NC and all and after three months i realized that i still had feelings for him and the breakup was probably my fault because i was scared and expressed it due to my previous bad breakup. so i wrote him a message with no intent to try to win him back, but to say i was sorry for my insecurities. he responded happily cuz he thought i hated him. we talked during the summer and he even asked me out for coffee. we met, but it was kind of weird for me cuz i still had feelings for him, but the way we ended things was still burned in my mind. for the sake of our friendship i asked him if we could talk about what happened so we could get rid of that "elephant in the room" so to speak, but he never responded. i realized that he was seeing someone,so i figured he was over me. so i imed him a month later just as a friend and he immediately wrote that he did want to talk and wanted to be friends. i told him he didn't have to cuz he felt guilty or anything, but he insisted. we set up a day to meet, but that never happened. i gave up and a week later he imed me with chit chat without me mentioning anything about us and then ultimately said he still wants to be friends and asked to meet for lunch. i agreed, but as the week goes on and i see his facebook and those cute things he sends to her i feel horrible. i really do miss him and i didnt start talking to him because of jealousy i started this months before i knew he had a gf. should i cancel our meet up? i feel horrible 1.You feel strong feelings for him . It is love. 2.He feels warm feelings for you . It is friendship. 3.He is writing cute things to his present gf . He is in love with her. -What he has for you? -Only friendship. -What you have for him ? -Love feelings. Are you to meet him ? NO> and it`s very obvious . You will not get that what you want to from him, so what for to hurt yousrelf ? ? ?
BackonTrack2 Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 you'll only hurt yourself because you want more and he doesn't want that and by talking to him and being in his presence you will realize that you still love him but he doesn't love you back and god for bid you have sex with him, thats only going to make your feelings stronger all the while he doesn't really care....... best to forget you knew him best to remember he's the pass and you have a future best to delete him from face book and wipe the guy out of your mind sooner or later, you'll wake up one day and you won't remember him.
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