cryn4attn Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 so my ex boyfriend from college and i were together for 3.5 years, officially for a year and half but there's always the gray area before and after that always lasts wayyy too long, but we were eachother's first loves (i was his first everything) 3 days after we finally officially end it he starts dating this other girl, its a year and a half later and we still talk online during work sometimes frequently sometimes less but a lot of the times our convo's go back to our relationship then some how sometimes turns into us talking about sex and our escapades... to the point, over thanksgiving break i had texted him in the evening about a past experience we had together going out clubbing in my town being like, Hey remember when...and this texting continued from 2am-4am every night from wed.-sunday somehow not even sure how it got brought up but he starts texting me "dirty" things like this is what i want to do with you, its just feels so good with you..bla bla bla..although this may be wishful thinkin which is what im trying to figure out... is that a bit off or strange for a guy with a g/f of now a year and a half to be texting to his ex g/f late at night? my assumption is that he may love her but he can't possibly be IN LOVE with her... please help me figure this out..i know i shouldn't waste my time but i love him very much and its hard for me to let go.
Jay34 Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 no, i don't think this is normal at all and i'm sure she would not be too thrilled..... the fact that he was dating her 3 days later tells me he had her waiting in the wings before you guys ended it, i would cut off all contact, he is a cheater and it is extremely inappropriate. find someone who really loves you.
vanilla87 Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 so my ex boyfriend from college and i were together for 3.5 years, officially for a year and half but there's always the gray area before and after that always lasts wayyy too long, but we were eachother's first loves (i was his first everything) 3 days after we finally officially end it he starts dating this other girl, its a year and a half later and we still talk online during work sometimes frequently sometimes less but a lot of the times our convo's go back to our relationship then some how sometimes turns into us talking about sex and our escapades... to the point, over thanksgiving break i had texted him in the evening about a past experience we had together going out clubbing in my town being like, Hey remember when...and this texting continued from 2am-4am every night from wed.-sunday somehow not even sure how it got brought up but he starts texting me "dirty" things like this is what i want to do with you, its just feels so good with you..bla bla bla..although this may be wishful thinkin which is what im trying to figure out... is that a bit off or strange for a guy with a g/f of now a year and a half to be texting to his ex g/f late at night? my assumption is that he may love her but he can't possibly be IN LOVE with her... please help me figure this out..i know i shouldn't waste my time but i love him very much and its hard for me to let go. The fact that he got with her 3 days later, says he was trying to get over you asap because he felt hurt or he just want to be 100% distracted with someone new and didn't want to think about you. Also the fact that in general he still talks to you, even after 1 1/2 years, is impressive, especially if its about what you've guys been through together romantic wise, is a clue as to how he still thinks of you, and the fact that he doesn't get angry or mean, is a big bonus, cause that means he is mature enough to handle talking to you about certain things. Okay also any guy who texts a girl after 9pm, naughty texts, is looking to do the "booty call" thing, especially with you, cause you've been together before, so its just easy for him. Hmm, sounds like to me that he doesn't seem to be "in love" with her, just loves her. I mean what guys does that with an ex gf? I mean for that many hours and days with steamy texts? Also let me just say that I think he in a way misses you and maybe you might want to pay attention to see if there are problems in his current relationship and if there are any, which basically means, that he could be looking to escape that relationship and maybe use you as an escape goat so he can find an easy way out, unless he is not the type to cheat or be mean in breaking up, then I think your okay. But all in all, the moment he decides he wants to hang out with you in person, at night, alone, behind close doors, he wants to get it on with you, badly...just know it will probably be a hook up and nothing more..unless he is harboring some undying love for you, which is a 50/50, but all in all, I think he is looking for some booty...
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