Helioz Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 Okay the issue begins when my gf drops me off at my house and tells me thats she's gonna pick me up at 10pm to go and have dinner with friends. So i sit there wating, and 10:30 hits, i wait some more and 11:00 hits, so i decide to eat because i dont even know if she's coming. (i dont have a car btw) Finally she calls at 11:30 and says "hey u wanna go out still." But since im such a dumbass i agree even though im super pissed that she left me hanging. And i know she can tell this becuase the phone convo was really awkward. Well your probably thinking "why didnt you call her to see if she was coming?" well, i didnt because we had already had this situation occur twice in the past and i had already told that it was disrespectful to leave someone hanging like that without telling them your gonna be late. Honestly, its common courtesy to at least call that person if your gonna be late. So she already knew this bothered me, and she had already told me it wouldnt happen again. So we go out with friends and i kind of give her the cold sholder during the time were hanging out at a buddies house. So finally she comes up to me and says, "are you alright." I tell her that ill be fine and that she should at least texted me and she says "i couldnt, i cant text on my phone." So i say okay well you should have given me a call that you were gonna be late. So she says "well i was at this religious youth group thing." And i kind of shrug like what kind of excuse is that, and she walks off pissed. So im sitting there at my buddies house, and my gf's friend tells me "hey why you so quite." And i respond "im just really tired." Then my gf says "want me to take you home?" So i say yes, but then she says "well Angie (her friend) can take you home." So angie does after weve all had a couple of drinks, and then about an hour later my gf calls me. So again she comes out with the "are you alright" and again i say "yes, i will be fine." And this really pisses me off because she should at least be "saying sorry i left you hanging again." So then she comes out with " i dont know what you want from me" and i really think about the question because im really buzzed at the moment and i say "i dunno".....pause and then i say ...." i just dont want to be taken advantage of, i dont want to be the only one falling in love here to the point where you can get away with whatever you want." I know these are foolish words but like i said, i was really emotional because of the beers. (i dont drink by the way so i still dont know how i act when i drink) She really flips out about this and tells me that the relationship is too young for me to be thinking like that. (its been 2 months by the way) and that if i feel that way is because im being insecure about the relationship and that the love between us is not strong. She also says that shes done everything she can to show me that she loves me and that if i dont believe it well then its my problem. So i try to justify myself by telling her the following lie --"Well i went through this in a previous relationship where she would just leave me hanging like that and i just dont want it to happen again." May i remind you that i was really buzzed during this conversation so it is obvious that i just keep diggin myself into a deeper and deeper hole. After i tell her this she gets really pissed and tells me "how could you compare me to another relationship." Which i wasnt intentionally of course, i was just trying to justify myself as to why i feel sensitive about this situation. So immediately like a dumbass i recant my statement and tell her that it was a lie. So of course, she gets even more pissed and tells me that she doesnt believe me and that even if it was a lie that why would i even tell her this. So by this time i have no answer for her, im really buzzed and i cant believe she's blowing every word that's coming out of my mouth out of proportion and turning it into something terrible. So then she tells me that she doesnt want to talk to me anymore and to call her the next day. Long story short, she breaks up with me 2 days later because she says that my words really hurt her like i cant even imagine. She also says that the relationship is way too intense for 2 months and that she cant go through with it. Of course, all of this comes like a complete surprise to me since we've only had two other previous disagreements and i never disrespected her in any way, i never even raised my voice to her. I treated her like gold, and opened my home to her along with my family. I would also like to add that she suffers from depression and that i suspect that she has a mild case of bipolar disorder, so i was always there for her to talk to her about her problems and cheer her up. I was always there as an emotional support. It's been two weeks since she broke up with me over the phone and i havent had any contact whatsoever with her. However she did come by my place about a week ago to drop off some of the books i had let her borrow and a calculator, i wasnt there but she gave the stuff to my mother. I tried calling her friends to see how she was doing but they just completely blew me off by not answering me. I havent contacted her directly after the break up. I really loved this girl and i honestly thought i was gonna marry her, hell we had made plans for the future already. Just a few days before the argument she had been bugging me to apply to a graduate program that she was applying to so that we could stay together after undergrad. I just cannot fathom how the hell it could have gone so horribly wrong, and now all her friends think im an *******. As if i cheated on her or beat her or something. I just cant believe she would break up with me over something so small, my hearts is in pieces right now. I know its only a 2 month relationship but it really impacted me deeply like no other. I think its because we previously had been friends since about 2 and half years ago and i had always liked her. It just feels like ive lost my best friend and my lover at the same time.
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