l.digital Posted December 22, 2008 Posted December 22, 2008 I started dating this girl 2 weeks ago. She's 21 I'm 22. We both haven't been in many relationships but I think hers have been more serious. We totally rushed into things and I was with her 24/7 minus my time at work for the past 2 weeks. She said she loved me I didn't say it back but did eventually.. I asked her yesterday if she wanted me to go to her families Christmas dinner because her mom invited me the same day. I was like do you want me to go? First she was like only if you really want to and I sensed she really didn't want me to so I said only if you really want me to and she said no. I was surprised. I brought it back up later as to why she didn't want me there and she was explaining how she failed to go to her cousins BDay dinner and how she has been neglecting friends ETC ETC. I told her if you ever need space to take care of things like that just let me know and I will make the space for you. We ended the conversation on a positive note. Today I sent her a text basically saying I totally agree with you we do need to take a break and show attention to certain aspects of our lives that we have been so heavily neglecting. She responded but what if I miss you? I said well we will just enjoy the time we have together that much more. What do you think? At this point I just assume hold off on contacting her. Unfortunately I do have some of my stuff there and I will have to pick it up today or tomorrow but I told her it will be strictly In'N'Out. Advise/Input is very much appreciated, thanks in advance!
JoeNat Posted December 22, 2008 Posted December 22, 2008 Did you guys break up? Doesn't sound like it so no need to pick up that stuff up unless you really need it. Take it a little slower. The I love you thing in only two weeks is way off base and you should re-visit that convo at a later time in the relationship. If your still together which it sounds like you are then I would just take it a little bit slower. See her only some days during the week. Go out on the weekends and things will just happen the way they should. Never force it.
Author l.digital Posted December 22, 2008 Author Posted December 22, 2008 I guess I have one other questions.. I'm guessing she's going to call or text me either tonight or tomorrow with " I miss you so much ". What should I do then?
JoeNat Posted December 22, 2008 Posted December 22, 2008 There was no break up. So then just take it slow. Dont take anything out of the house yet like I stated before. Then she will think you want to break up with her and then she will want to break up with you. Might cause some confusion is my point. Just take it slow. Go out to dinner one night and over some drinks talk about your relationship and what makes sense for both of you.
JoeNat Posted December 22, 2008 Posted December 22, 2008 I guess I have one other questions.. I'm guessing she's going to call or text me either tonight or tomorrow with " I miss you so much ". What should I do then? Well, it all depends on what your feeling at that point. If you miss her then tell her, if you dont then just say something like, lets get together this weekend. Dont ignore it though, I hate when I'm ignored and its not fair to do that to people. Sounds like you guys actually like one another... So act accordingly..
Author l.digital Posted December 22, 2008 Author Posted December 22, 2008 I should also mention that the stuff I need to pick up from her house I really do need.
Author l.digital Posted December 22, 2008 Author Posted December 22, 2008 Okkkkk... She has sent me two texts in the past 5 minutes asking if I'm going to this upcoming party... and just a random comment about one of her roomies.. I THOUGHT SHE WANTED SPACE?
Author l.digital Posted December 22, 2008 Author Posted December 22, 2008 Latest update - I posted a comment on a mutual friends Myspace about how I need to go back to my Tuesday night meetings and she's texting me asking me about the meeting and stuff..... hmmmmmmmmm............ im confused
Perry Posted December 22, 2008 Posted December 22, 2008 Maybe she was referring to not being together all the time? You are making too much out of this.
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