Goatsbreath Posted December 22, 2008 Posted December 22, 2008 So, if your getting dumped and you feel the person is being selfish and actually already moving on into some other persuit....how do you react? Do you act nice like, im real sorry it couldn't work out for us, etc. Or do you call her names and tell her to hit the road you stupid #)(*()$
northstar1 Posted December 22, 2008 Posted December 22, 2008 So, if your getting dumped and you feel the person is being selfish and actually already moving on into some other persuit....how do you react? Do you act nice like, im real sorry it couldn't work out for us, etc. Or do you call her names and tell her to hit the road you stupid #)(*()$ Take the high road.......................rarely will being mean and vindictive give you any solace or 'revenge'.
carhill Posted December 22, 2008 Posted December 22, 2008 OP, when you look back upon this moment in time, how do you want to see yourself? Let that realization guide you...
DSM-IV Tom Posted December 22, 2008 Posted December 22, 2008 Don't be swayed by anything you read. I was cruel to my psychotic first ex when we broke up. And nice to my recent ex. It makes little difference.
runner Posted December 22, 2008 Posted December 22, 2008 OP, when you look back upon this moment in time, how do you want to see yourself? Let that realization guide you... this is spot on. i go into it preserving my own dignity and self respect without being vindictive; followed by strict NC. this is way harder than it sounds, but not impossible.
EmperorR Posted December 22, 2008 Posted December 22, 2008 Even when my ex cheated and dumped me I was this nice pathetic little creature taking the blame, sayingi would change. LOL even when she was saying every hurtful thing you could say to me I said nothing turned the other cheek. Sometimes I wish I cLlex her every Name in the book but I'm not like that, and I'm sure she knows what she is.
MWH Posted December 22, 2008 Posted December 22, 2008 Even when my ex cheated and dumped me I was this nice pathetic little creature taking the blame, sayingi would change. Wow- I'm feelin' ya on this one lol! Been there/done that. This time I really haven't said much of anything regarding how I feel. My feelings did not matter to her when we were "together" so I highly doubt they matter to her now! The very best thing I can EVER say to her is this:______________________. Did you hear that? Listen closer: ________________. That is the sound of NO CONTACT and it speaks louder than any words ever will. Peace, MWH
Hersheys Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 So, if your getting dumped and you feel the person is being selfish and actually already moving on into some other persuit....how do you react? Do you act nice like, im real sorry it couldn't work out for us, etc. Or do you call her names and tell her to hit the road you stupid #)(*()$ Leave nicely. You won't regret it.
ATR Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 Wow- I'm feelin' ya on this one lol! Been there/done that. This time I really haven't said much of anything regarding how I feel. My feelings did not matter to her when we were "together" so I highly doubt they matter to her now! The very best thing I can EVER say to her is this:______________________. Did you hear that? Listen closer: ________________. That is the sound of NO CONTACT and it speaks louder than any words ever will. Peace, MWH Yes, i wish that when my ex broke up with me that i had just ignored her instead of begging that it could work:o Wouldn't that be weird. "It's over" ..... *awkward silence* "Erm...":p damn
Author Goatsbreath Posted December 23, 2008 Author Posted December 23, 2008 Yes, i wish that when my ex broke up with me that i had just ignored her instead of begging that it could work:o Wouldn't that be weird. "It's over" ..... *awkward silence* "Erm...":p damn Yeah, I fell victim to insanity as well and begged and pleaded and I so bad wish I would not take that path. Oh well, it is what it is. As far as things go now. I think I will avoid being mean and just respect her choice but go NC. Uggg...........this going to be tuff
Oscar51 Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 I prefer always taking the high road. I made that call, saying sorry for what went wrong in the relationship on my part and that I hoped we could put it past us one day and make it work. She responded with "Heh, yea right that'll take a lot of miracles." I said Ok, I wish you the best and she just hung up. Been no contact since then. She's made some small attempts to contact me, but nothing to warrant a response out of me. I feel great now taking the high road, knowing that she MAY be dealing with regret of how she treated me during the break-up. Which was like a piece of ****. She of course, could not care at all. But I like to think it's the first one. Anyways, I think taking the high road in any situation makes you a better person overall. What good would calling someone a name do? It just makes your look immature and emotionally unstable.
Gere51 Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 Just say goodbye and hang up. Don't call her names, beg, plead or do anything that would make one look desperate and/or needy. When my ex broke it off, I told her good luck and hung up. When I went NC, it threw her because she wasn't used to that kind of treatment from men, as she's used to having her feet kissed. If you make an idiot of yourself it'll just confirm her decision.
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