Ive just found out that he was using me....feel hurt... but should i tell him this??

[Joyvke]

If it's not much money he owes you, then please for the love of yourself, stop helping him. Get him out of your system and life. He's a prick, nuff said .

[edinsvet]

WOW

 

that's crappy. I will say this. If you can find a way to destroy his confidence you will be doing a great many women a service.

 

Maybe, I don't know how much he owes you, but, you could fake preggers and tell him you want money for some kind of premium expensive abortion.

 

If you know any girls he's working with tell them how he gave you herpes.

 

Tell him that your STD test came back positive for the HIV. You lied to him and are actually far from a virgin.

 

I've met a lot of women who've been through an experience like this and years later have misdirected hostility towards all men. If you've got hostility direct it properly. Then, he'll hate you and won't want anything to do with you. This may save you if you ever feel like going back to him.

 

All of those things are funny and this guy definitely did wrong by you

but I would advise against any spiteful behaviour. In the end, such antics

will only make your overall level of happiness worse.

[edinsvet]

PLEASE don't lie about him giving you an STD or getting pregnant. That is just so wrong on so many levels.

 

If you want to hit him where it hurts, tell him he sucked in bed and had really hoped for SOME amount of pleasure.

 

 

HAHAAHAHAHAHA Star Gazer's answer is much better. Tell him he sucked in bed, and doesn't know how to please a woman

[edinsvet]

there is a possibility you will not get this money back at all.

I never asked a girl for money back but of the guys I lent money to

it was 50/50 or less that I got it back.

 

If you forget about the money which is not even guaranteed

you will get, you can look at the money as the cost to have him

out of your life completely.

 

And from what you wrote about how this situation is making you

feel, it might be worth it.

[Star Gazer]

hahaha, would that really work? seriously, i wasn't that impressed. he always took, never gave. he's kinda the one who's suposed to show me! i got nothing out of it.

 

I've told someone that before (I was about 23 at the time), and to this day he's still VERY insecure about his performance. We're still good friends, so now he asks me all the time - "Was I really that bad, Star? :(" Since we're cool now, I tell him of course not. But the power that commentary had... I'll never forget it.

 

I think I had said something like, "You know, I don't know what I was thinking. I thought you actually knew what you were doing. I kept hoping it would improve. But each time, I was bored and unsatisfied. Why do you think I took so long in the bathroom immediately afterward? I had to take care of MYSELF. Ugh."

 

But again, I was young and immature. I'm not sure I'd do/say the same thing now.

[qqqq]

Ok I am going to give my honest opinion here. You are investing WAY too much emotion in this jerk. No offence, but he is probably not thinking about you to this extent. I wouldn't tell him anything, even if it is just telling him you are hurt by the situation. There is nothing this guy will say that is going to make you feel any better. Call him up, tell him you need your money within two days. Get the money and never look back. You don't even have to say anything when you get it from him.

 

You've already learned everything you need to know about this guy, so you just need to move on. I would take all the time you have invested in this situation and spend it on a guy who actually deserves your attention. You're worth it.

 

 

thank you. u are right. i know you are. i am spending way to much time thinking over it. I can't get it off my mind. I think im part kicking myself and have regret. I have had that for awhile. i should have went with it back then, but was told "oh he wouldn't do this". Next time i will listen to that gut feeling.

[qqqq]

I've told someone that before (I was about 23 at the time), and to this day he's still VERY insecure about his performance. We're still good friends, so now he asks me all the time - "Was I really that bad, Star? :(" Since we're cool now, I tell him of course not. But the power that commentary had... I'll never forget it.

 

I think I had said something like, "You know, I don't know what I was thinking. I thought you actually knew what you were doing. I kept hoping it would improve. But each time, I was bored and unsatisfied. Why do you think I took so long in the bathroom immediately afterward? I had to take care of MYSELF. Ugh."

 

But again, I was young and immature. I'm not sure I'd do/say the same thing now.

 

haha. I wish i could say something like that to him!

[qqqq]

i just dont know what to feel to move on... as some one said, feeling hateful towards him might just make it worse.....

 

or just try to pretend i never met him? or that hes now more of a "business deal" just to repayment of money.

 

 

i tend to over anaylize and read into things to much. I wish i could stop lol. plus, i have a pretty active imagination. That can be good, but in this, it is not.. I have a good i guess... visual memory is thats a word, so i remember things that happened pretty damn clearly and i relive it in my mind.

 

right now i hate having a good imagination... egh.lol