is he a jerk?

[people_gaye]

Alright, kind of a longish story but i wanted some opinions, im totally pissed off. I was best friends with this guy when i was about 6-12 years old, we had a fight about a go kart or something and stopped hanging out, (he only lives 2 doors up the street) so anyway a few years passed, im 20 and he messages me on myspace telling me i look good and wanting to start hanging out again, im not one to hold a grudge so i was like sure whatever we got on great, so we go to the movies and crap and i started getting messages on my phone that were like 'i think you're real beautiful' and 'i want to kiss you' all that hubbub, and i told him i had not realised he was interested in me that way and i just wanted to stay friends and get to know each other, so he continued to pursue by sending flowers to my door and whatnot and it was really sweet and confusing and anyway he ended up asking me out to me face and i said yes, i was excited at first even though a lot had changed and i hardly knew him, we dated for awhile, but im at uni and he has no job so we hardly saw each other, that pissed me off after awhile (that he had no job and hung out with his mates all day) so i said i couldnt be in a relationship right now with uni being this hectic, he seemed sad but okay, i said could we be friends still and he said of course and we hugged and then we hung out the next day too, now i could understand if he said he needed time or some bull**** but he didnt, he'd message asking to hang out and i obliged, made space and twice he forgot, the second time he said he'd call but then didnt and i didnt hear from him until a week later when he left a comment on my myspace page telling me he misses hanging out, so im like okay whatever, anyway i hear from him again about a week later he's messaging me drunk saying nothing i can understand, so i sent a reply of 'im busy, msg you tomorrow' and i do and we make another plan to hang out, this time he doesnt forget because i tell him i'll punch him in the temple if he does. we end up going xmas shopping together on this day and he asks me 'if ive been out' to which i respond with a 'yes i've seen daylight' and hes like 'you know what i mean' so im like 'yeah ive been clubbing' and that was the end of that conversation. it was incredibly weird, but the best part comes next, we get back home and usually he'll come over and we'll watch tv and hang out or talk or something, only this time hes like 'im pretty tired, i might go home for a nap' and he's like 'msg you when i get some credit' now he had a car bill to pay off so i wasnt expecting a msg for awhile but ive heard nada from him, its been 2 freakin weeks my birthdays been and gone and i didnt even get a happy birthday, he's payed his car bill as i've seen him driving around, and just the other night when i went out for my birthday he was getting home at the same time and he practically ran inside and hid, no hello or anything.

so im pretty much wondering what is his deal, is he forgetful, an *******, busy, still hurt we broke up or playing some game? because my solution so far has been to delete him off my phone and all social networking websites, taste that passive aggressive burn sir.

[The Collector]

I think he's still really into you but it hurts you won't be his gf so he's going NC on you to spare his pain. Or some ****.

[people_gaye]

Guess its going to be a waiting game then, which sucks, i wanted to be his friend, great guy. lesson 1 dont date friends