bythebeach Posted December 22, 2008 Posted December 22, 2008 I dated my college sweetheart for almost 2 years, we broke up after a year and a half when he didn't want to be a part of me going on to law school, I didn't get in so we got back together for another 4 months after which time he simply stopped calling me and stopped answering my calls and texts. I was heartbroken, but I soon realized that he was emotionally abusive the entire time. I tried to move on, I met a great guy, he was sweet and really attentive. So I went out with him, after about 2 weeks I started freaking out, what if my boyfriend showed up? after all we hadn't broken up and this was only a month later (yeah he had brain washed me!) I started backing away from this new guy but didn't tell him what was going on. I was supposed to be out of town a lot anyway so I used that as my excuse. A few weeks later I got over it and decided I would be ok, well my new guy had a new girlfriend. He didn't tell me (not that he should have but that would have been nice), a mutual friend did at 4 am at a party. 2 months later I was at the neighborhood bar, it was my guy friends birthday he came in pretty drunk, we have always had this mutual attraction but we have never both been single. He asked if I wanted to take shots with him so I did, we had 5-6 shots and hung out for a while. We walked outside, my ride home had ditched me and he offered to take me home. He said he would take me to his house so I went home with him. We hooked up that night then went to his birthday party the next day with my ex and all of our friends... talk about entertaining. We dated for the next month, everything was great. Until the other guy brought his new girlfriend into the bar, she decided that she wanted to kill me when she was drunk, I was a little drunk, he was a lot drunk and told me he still loved me... my bf was there (didn't know I dated him, yeah my mistake, I know), next thing you know my college sweet heart starts calling my phone which is not on me it's sitting on the bar, my bf knows about this guy he met him, knows the whole story, etc. Wants to know why he's calling me at 1am. I don't know, I haven't talked to him in months. So my bf tells me that I have too much going on and that he doesn't think that I am ready for a relationship right now. He's done and a week later comes in there with a new girl, he's still with her 2 months later. Tonight I went sledding with both of them and 4 other guys, one of which invited me, I didn't know that my latest ex and his new gf were going to be there... that was interesting. He was staring at me the whole time, even went down the hill on the sled with just me one time, he initiated that, grabbed me and pulled me down jokingly, what the hell am I supposed to think of that? I can't very well do anything with the guy that invited me to go sledding today he is obviously friends with my ex, that would just be a mess... And college sweetheart has been calling me only late at night for the last 2 months, found out he has a gf... I haven't answered, I am not planning on it. What gives? I think I need to be single for a while.. what do you think?
keechie Posted December 22, 2008 Posted December 22, 2008 Yes, I agree with you on that you should just enjoy being single and focusing on yourself for a little while. Also, pursue interests that would take you outside your current social network, because that would expand you horizon for dating possibilities. The guys you've been involved with lately all seem to know each other, which can certainly make for awkward moments, (as I'm sure you know!) Do you still want to go to law school, (or any other kind of school?) You should go for it. Just because you didn't get into one school doesn't mean you can't get into another. And, you never know- you could meet a decent guy there, and as a bonus he would probably be more supportive of your career choices than your college sweetheart was.
Author bythebeach Posted December 22, 2008 Author Posted December 22, 2008 I do still want to go to law school and I have been applying to schools, I applied to several last time around when this all happened with my college sweet heart and I am reapplying now for this application cycle. I had one interview last year which is why he freaked out on me, so I feel pretty good about this year. I am hoping to get into the school in my town as it is one of the top schools. The last guy met my college sweetheart when he used to come in to the neighborhood bar with me on occasion, other than that they don't know each other, they know eachother's first name and probably wouldn't recognize one another outside that bar. The last two guys know each other, they both hang out at the same bar regularly, but they aren't friends. I know I need to get away from dating people there. It's just going to cause more problems.
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