xSunshinex Posted December 22, 2008 Posted December 22, 2008 I'm looking for some opinions on my situation. I'll try to make it short. Basically I dated this guy, my first love, for three years. We had a great relationship up until we started having sex (5 months before we broke up). The break up was rather mutual, we were both having tough years having been out of high school for a year and what not. Four months after the break up we decided to have sex. The first few times he got really emotional because sex screwed up our relationship in the first place (he says he felt guilty, even when we were together. But still had sex for the next 7 months. We'd exchange sexy pictures of one another etc. Anyway we became entirely about sex it seemed, even though we were broken up. Now though he's met a new girl which is great. But he'll say things like "I have more in common with her then I did with you" or "You don't really have any hobbies". Which isn't true. I've always liked going out and doing the same things as him. He's also said that I'm easy although he'll say it jokingly. He's the only guy I've slept with. Sex is always his idea. Anyway. He always asked why I'm so happy (questioning my Facebook status etc). If I've met any new guys. He's also said that he wants me to have sex with someone else so that he doesn't feel so bad about me not getting any because according to him I love it "so much". When he's not telling me I'm easy or uninteresting he's saying "I sometimes wish we worked out because you're perfect. You're gorgeous, sweet etc" (and of course "amazing in bed"). I just don't know what to think! Anytime I express interest in a guy he says "Oh then you should go have sex with him." Interest being "Yeah there's this guy at work who is pretty cool." Why does he say these things? I have every intention of saying no next time he asks me to sleep with him. But do you think it's too late? I mean I'm not emotionally attached to him because we continued to have sex but I don't want him to have zero respect for me. I know he is still physically attracted to me but now that he wants to date this new girl I feel like he's trying to make me miserable by making this weird comments. Sorry it's long but what do you guys think? Can anyone offer some insight? How can I get him to see me as someone he once loved and appreciate me as a friend? Why do you think he talks down to me and tells me to sleep with other people?
Joker77 Posted December 22, 2008 Posted December 22, 2008 I'm looking for some opinions on my situation. I'll try to make it short. Basically I dated this guy, my first love, for three years. We had a great relationship up until we started having sex (5 months before we broke up). The break up was rather mutual, we were both having tough years having been out of high school for a year and what not. Four months after the break up we decided to have sex. The first few times he got really emotional because sex screwed up our relationship in the first place (he says he felt guilty, even when we were together. But still had sex for the next 7 months. We'd exchange sexy pictures of one another etc. Anyway we became entirely about sex it seemed, even though we were broken up. Now though he's met a new girl which is great. But he'll say things like "I have more in common with her then I did with you" or "You don't really have any hobbies". Which isn't true. I've always liked going out and doing the same things as him. He's also said that I'm easy although he'll say it jokingly. He's the only guy I've slept with. Sex is always his idea. Anyway. He always asked why I'm so happy (questioning my Facebook status etc). If I've met any new guys. He's also said that he wants me to have sex with someone else so that he doesn't feel so bad about me not getting any because according to him I love it "so much". When he's not telling me I'm easy or uninteresting he's saying "I sometimes wish we worked out because you're perfect. You're gorgeous, sweet etc" (and of course "amazing in bed"). I just don't know what to think! Anytime I express interest in a guy he says "Oh then you should go have sex with him." Interest being "Yeah there's this guy at work who is pretty cool." Why does he say these things? I have every intention of saying no next time he asks me to sleep with him. But do you think it's too late? I mean I'm not emotionally attached to him because we continued to have sex but I don't want him to have zero respect for me. I know he is still physically attracted to me but now that he wants to date this new girl I feel like he's trying to make me miserable by making this weird comments. Sorry it's long but what do you guys think? Can anyone offer some insight? How can I get him to see me as someone he once loved and appreciate me as a friend? Why do you think he talks down to me and tells me to sleep with other people? He sounds very insecure to me.
Author xSunshinex Posted December 24, 2008 Author Posted December 24, 2008 Yeah I really don't know but it's been bothering me for a long time. *BUMP*
Quest4clue Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 He wants his cake and eat it too. Move on, he is not worth it.
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