dreamgurl Posted December 22, 2008 Posted December 22, 2008 My ex and I broke up over a year ago. It will be two years in May. Since the break, which he did after dating for 5 months, we still kept in alot of touch. When he broke it off with me, he explained that he still liked me and hoped to have a second chance sometime down the road.Throughout the time that we have been apart he still always watched me at work, flirted with me, made such comments as he could kick himself for letting me go. Well lately everytime we talk he asks me what i do on my free time and i just give him a vague answer to leave some for his imagination. So finally yesterday we talked and he just came out and asked me how my love life is going. I told him it was going. I then asked him, and he threw the focus back on me for awhile and then he started saying how hes been very busy and has no time for anything at the time so he doesnt want someone to date but just a really good friend he could hang out with and have some extra benefits. I was shocked at his bluntness as i never knew him to be this way. He then told me he hopes he didnt make things awkward bc he knows i like him so sorry. I told him not to worry about as its been a long time since i have hung out with him and dont know if i do in fact still like him. I told him i did still care about him but to what degree i didnt know and that for all i knew we could hang out and i will find the spark is gone. He then went on to say that had some very good times together and that we should hang out sometime soon as friends and leave the past where it belongs and act as if it was the first time we met and go from there. What does this all mean?????
howzat Posted December 22, 2008 Posted December 22, 2008 he started saying how hes been very busy and has no time for anything at the time so he doesnt want someone to date but just a really good friend he could hang out with and have some extra benefits. Well I guess its good that he's being honest, but I'm sure you can get the 'extra benefits' elsewhere, without the luggage.
broken_hearted01 Posted December 22, 2008 Posted December 22, 2008 he started saying how hes been very busy and has no time for anything at the time so he doesnt want someone to date but just a really good friend he could hang out with and have some extra benefits. this reminds me of the saying my parents used to tell me when i first became interested in boys:"Boys only want one thing and one thing only" i believe the same thing applies to grown men. Its clear and evident that he wanted just one thing from you and he knew that he wasn't getting it after all so he went on to convince himself and you that you two were really good friends, after all.
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