hanginthere Posted December 21, 2008 Posted December 21, 2008 Okay, I have had an intense month of texting and 3x meeting with a guy who lives an hour from me. He is hot (and knows it), but he does have a lot of depth. Dated hot girls...etc. We were texting everyday for a month, had great chemistry and sex. He wrote that he was coming into town with another girl, I asked if it was a date, he said no. I texted back that I was of course seeing other guys, but when it comes to sex I sleep with one person at a time. He usually answers my texts within the hour, it has been a day no text. Should I just write him off???
Adri Ana Posted December 21, 2008 Posted December 21, 2008 Okay, I have had an intense month of texting and 3x meeting with a guy who lives an hour from me. He is hot (and knows it), but he does have a lot of depth. Dated hot girls...etc. We were texting everyday for a month, had great chemistry and sex. He wrote that he was coming into town with another girl, I asked if it was a date, he said no. I texted back that I was of course seeing other guys, but when it comes to sex I sleep with one person at a time. He usually answers my texts within the hour, it has been a day no text. Should I just write him off??? Text him asking jokingly : "Are you alive?" Do not pressure . He has to respond.
Author hanginthere Posted December 21, 2008 Author Posted December 21, 2008 Or how about me saying, "I am getting ready to write you off!" I don't play games very well and we are in our 30's.
Author hanginthere Posted December 21, 2008 Author Posted December 21, 2008 I am getting ready to text all the famous people that I dated which are (2) and tell him the famous people that I met. But now that I am in my 30's who gives a poop....really...they were cool but come on I never once thought....ahhh this is the person for me!! Comin on...these folks will always be messed up...and they were...too much tooo fast. I felt like I had more control because I was a normal person in America just livin live. I am over it....like Now!
EYECANDY000 Posted December 21, 2008 Posted December 21, 2008 So are you going to text him or wait for him to call you?
Star Gazer Posted December 21, 2008 Posted December 21, 2008 You're ready to write him off because he didn't respond to one text???
Meet 4 Coffee Posted December 21, 2008 Posted December 21, 2008 You gave it up to him too soon (sex) and he's not really dating you. He sees you as a convenient lay on his terms, but he has his other girl in town for those needs now. By not answering, he's letting you know he just sees you for sex and he is intimate with other women.
Taramere Posted December 21, 2008 Posted December 21, 2008 I am getting ready to text all the famous people that I dated which are (2) and tell him the famous people that I met. But now that I am in my 30's who gives a poop....really...they were cool but come on I never once thought....ahhh this is the person for me!! Comin on...these folks will always be messed up...and they were...too much tooo fast. I felt like I had more control because I was a normal person in America just livin live. I am over it....like Now! Don't text that.
Author hanginthere Posted December 21, 2008 Author Posted December 21, 2008 I do believe we gave to each other sex too fast, but had other coversations since, stating that we wanted to slow it down a bit. Not to seem like a piece of a** to each other. If he does not repsond than I was a piece for him. We are both adults as well, so I decided not to write until he does, if he does not write then it is too superficial for me.
Meet 4 Coffee Posted December 21, 2008 Posted December 21, 2008 You put yourself in a position to be just a piece of a** to him in the first place, however.
Author hanginthere Posted December 21, 2008 Author Posted December 21, 2008 Yeah I agree with you, I thought it was just a sex thing in the beginning then when he came over again...too much emotion was there. Plenty of hours talking even the we need to slow this down a bit talk. (from him) I agreed. As I write this I am 80% over it, really, I just do not know how to do it
elaina Posted December 21, 2008 Posted December 21, 2008 Yeah I agree with you, I thought it was just a sex thing in the beginning then when he came over again...too much emotion was there. Plenty of hours talking even the we need to slow this down a bit talk. (from him) I agreed. As I write this I am 80% over it, really, I just do not know how to do it I don't think you should contact him. You could write him a letter about how hurt and angry you are, but then don't send it to him!!! He doesn't care. Just learn that's not the kind of guy you want and let him go. There are men out there who are worth caring for!
amymarieca Posted December 21, 2008 Posted December 21, 2008 I think a lot of people are wrong about giving up sex too fast. I do not believe that it will doom a relationship. I have slept with people quickly and stuck around because I am really into them and I have also slept with people fast and it didn't work out. If any guy sees me as a slut because I slept with him too fast, then he can kiss my a** because he is guilty of the same thing. I hate when people are judgemental. In the case of the text, I think you are overreacting. I also responded to your other thread about the exclusivitiy talk. If you keep acting the way you are, you will scare this guy off. Just take things as they come. Men don't like drama. It is always hard in the beginning when you really like a guy, but you can't do anything to change his mind if he decides he doesn't see a future with you.
Author hanginthere Posted December 22, 2008 Author Posted December 22, 2008 I got a text from him and he is going to call me later this evening. I will let you know how it goes.
Author hanginthere Posted December 22, 2008 Author Posted December 22, 2008 Okay, I said that I would tell you what was going on. So here it is, I talked to him and no he does not want exclusivitivy and neither do I (I just got asked out but a very successful and sexy guy!) I like him but I am not waiting around. We both are not having sex with anyone but each other and if that changes we said we would tell each other. Honestly, I hope he does not want to have sex, but if he does then I am out for good, onward and upward. I do not play games, I know what I have to offer mentally, physically and emotionally. I am out with one wrong move.
moonshadow Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 You already posted about this 2 days ago: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t173774/ Why did you post about it again? No offense but you seem rather superficial and very focused on a guy's looks, his success, bragging about the famous people you know. How old are you? - you're in your 30s? Wow. Most people in their 30s are less shallow and have better things to do than "intense texting relationships." Just a thought.
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