qqqq Posted December 21, 2008 Posted December 21, 2008 I dont know if i should tell him - IF it comes up. I tried to speak to him about how i feel, he's confusing me so much. But he thinks im trying to say "extreme things to get his attention" which couldn't be further from the truth. My problem is he is so hard to get hold of. I know he has a lot going on (he wont say what tho - he bottles things up). When i said i needed to talk he said "not this again lol".....He then tells me "you can tell me, im here"...and then "i have a lot going on, just dont take it personal hun"... We slept together pretty quickly, my first time. I was naieve and believed it all! He then went distant but still in touch just not as much. He tells me he has a lot going on and hasn't been well. Thats fine, but from his actions, he has no idea how he's making me feel. I feel so much regret and that he just used me. The way it happened (sex) really freaked me out/scared me. Not the actual sex, just the circumstances.... He has said he is scared to get close to anyone, (previous relationship ended badly). He probably isn't aware that im scared. ONLY IF it comes up, if we talk about it, should i tell him, that it really freaked/scared me how quickly the sex happened (my first time - he knew) and then the way he acted after (was fine in person tho), made me doubt everything and the regret feeling has been making me physically ill. Theres nothing he can really do i know but so he's aware of it - and how it appears from my point of view, he probably doesn't even realise it. - and that im not some needy chick or some chick who creates drama. I was happy before, then it changed. he should think back at the start, i was NEVER like this, i was so easy going, went with the flow etc! He seems so wrapped up in his own problems. The regret he is making me feel is tearing me apart. Yet he came to me 2 weeks ago for a massive favour (money), he gave me this big sob story, which i believe is true, but the "feeling used" keeps coming back....... Oh before we were in contact like at least 3 times up to 10 times a day...so it changed a lot. He has stuff going on, which i get but yeah. Should i tell him how he/it made me feel after? this is only if it comes up again and see him. i dont even know if im going to hear from him again...well, i will eventually coz he owes me money.
Adri Ana Posted December 21, 2008 Posted December 21, 2008 You have nothing to lose if you tell him . You will lose your calmness if you do not tell him . So do tell . Yes. ________________________ When a person kills another, he is called a murderer ; when he kills hundreds,he is called a hero,and when the count goes to millions,he is God !
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