Gremio Posted December 21, 2008 Posted December 21, 2008 This thread is a follow-up to one here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t171522/ Summary of the original thread: I met someone, we hit it off, she texted and called me everyday, we were intimate but did not have sex, then she started being flaky and stopped texting/calling. End result (the end is juicy, so read on!): I don't speak to her and refuse to. I wanted some closer, and when I was out last week, I asked a friend of hers if he had heard from her recently. He said he had, and then I asked if she has ever talked about me, which he said she did not. He did tell me that the reason why she has been quiet is because she moved to another city to live with some guy. At that point, that was all the closure I needed. The best part of this story now? After I found that out a week ago, I deleted her number from my cell. The very next day I got a text someone not in my phone, asking me for a movie recommendation because they couldn't fall asleep. I asked "who is this", to which they replied "nevermind". That piqued my interested, and I found out it was her. I replied saying so. Her reply back? "your an ASS.HOLE". I gave her a piece of my mind, but politely, basically saying how dare you call me names, which is appalling, after what she did to me (I.E. disappearing for you weeks). I never heard from her since that night, and good riddance.
DollWelch Posted December 21, 2008 Posted December 21, 2008 An end to your story. Oh, yes. That's a lovely end, alright. You got played. She used you as Plan B as a lead on for her Master Plan A. Forget about her. She doesn't have her shoulders nor feet correctly planted. You can certainly learn a valuable lesson from this (even though you didn't see any of what happened coming). Hopefully you'll never hear from her again. There are definitely great women out there you deserve to date, she's not one of them.
Vertex Posted December 21, 2008 Posted December 21, 2008 She sounds pretty immature and selfish, to me. Consider it another bullet dodged
portcitykitty Posted December 21, 2008 Posted December 21, 2008 THAT'S JUST BUSTED! I'm so sorry that happened to you. Don't let it happen again! You deserve better!
Star Gazer Posted December 21, 2008 Posted December 21, 2008 Explain to me why she's so evil? She was seeing you, and also seeing someone else. You weren't exclusive. You didn't have sex. Rather than tell you straight up she decided to become serious with someone else, she fell off the radar. Cowardly, yes. But worthy of your vitrol? I think not.
CommitmentPhobe Posted December 21, 2008 Posted December 21, 2008 Her reply back? "your an ASS.HOLE". Well, she'll definitely sleep with you.
Author Gremio Posted December 21, 2008 Author Posted December 21, 2008 Explain to me why she's so evil? She was seeing you, and also seeing someone else. You weren't exclusive. You didn't have sex. Rather than tell you straight up she decided to become serious with someone else, she fell off the radar. Cowardly, yes. But worthy of your vitrol? I think not. Who said anything about evil? Part of my frustration is this: I don't associate or date women younger than me. All of my good friends are older (me being mid 20s), including 28, 31, 37, and so forth. She was the first woman truly younger than me (four years apart) that I gave a chance to, and in the end, it burned me. I will always learn from my mistakes, no worries there.
serial muse Posted December 22, 2008 Posted December 22, 2008 Part of my frustration is this: I don't associate or date women younger than me. All of my good friends are older (me being mid 20s), including 28, 31, 37, and so forth. She was the first woman truly younger than me (four years apart) that I gave a chance to, and in the end, it burned me. I will always learn from my mistakes, no worries there. = a sample size of one. Puh-leeze. Sorry this happened to you, but let's not go overboard.
Author Gremio Posted December 22, 2008 Author Posted December 22, 2008 = a sample size of one. Puh-leeze. Sorry this happened to you, but let's not go overboard. It isn't overboard at all. Throughout my life, I have always associated with people older than I. My parents were both old for their age when they had me, in high school as a freshman, I was friends with the juniors and seniors. As I'm in my mid 20s now, my best friends are 28, 31, and 37, with numerous friends scattered in the 30s and 40s. I have a very mature mindset and I have come to appreciate it as well. Too many lact maturity and intellect in their early 20s. Very rare is it to find someone even near my ages that can match my intellect and IQ. That is not to say all of them are, but most. They do not make intelligent decisions in life. They did not have the life experience at that time. Here's another example: I once dated a woman who was one year younger than me just a few months ago. We hit it off great, but then I realized how truly immature she was. She was very much into drugs and despised children. Now don't get me wrong, I don't want children at this time, but to never want them is a different story. The worst part? She said she didn't want to grow old, to age past her 40s, since it was "disgusting". Well she was on the right track.
Star Gazer Posted December 22, 2008 Posted December 22, 2008 She's only 4 years younger than you. You're not teenagers. To say that you are so much more mature than she is - as well as more mature than other women 4 years your junior - simply because of your respective birthdates is ridiculous, particularly when you consider that men actually mature at a SLOWER rate than women do. Regardless, age does not ipso facto determine maturity. I know plenty of men who are 30+ who behave like 18 year olds. I still fail to see anything about her behavior (other than a nasty text message subsequent to her decision to not see you anymore) that's "immature." Multi-dating while casually dating without sex involved doesn't make her immature.
Author Gremio Posted December 22, 2008 Author Posted December 22, 2008 She's only 4 years younger than you. You're not teenagers. To say that you are so much more mature than she is - as well as more mature than other women 4 years your junior - simply because of your respective birthdates is ridiculous, particularly when you consider that men actually mature at a SLOWER rate than women do. Regardless, age does not ipso facto determine maturity. I know plenty of men who are 30+ who behave like 18 year olds. I still fail to see anything about her behavior (other than a nasty text message subsequent to her decision to not see you anymore) that's "immature." Multi-dating while casually dating without sex involved doesn't make her immature. I'm confused by your post. I absolutely agree that age means nothing. although the majority of people in their early 20s are the party type, that I have come across. They lack the ability to make educated decisions about their health, life choices, and so forth. I say most, which is why I have given two women a chance who were younger than me. I am not agist at all, you're misunderstanding my point. Regarding the woman in my original post, I have no idea what you are talking about. I said nothing demeaning about her. Do you recall the story? We hit it off, she got flaky. She reappeared, disappeared again, then called me names when she found out I deleted her number. It is absolutely immature and rude to just blow people off, then want to come back to them later for favors or whatever it may be.
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