Seducer11 Posted December 21, 2008 Posted December 21, 2008 I believe this website is amazing for heartbroken ppl..I started to join this website couple of years back when i first experience heartbroken.I was being silly tat i was googling "how to get rid of heartbroken", which then i stumble to this website.LoL..At tat time i was really heartbroken n i thought i could never get over my ex, i could never find another juz like her n i could never fall in love again..But hey here i am now, 3 yrs later im back in love n sadly im back heartbroken and back to this website..Life is amazing..Full of surprises n funny things.At tat time i didnt know how to handle myself frm heartbroken.At tat time the idea of NC was silly and impossible to me..I couldnt stop calling n begging her but to no avail her answer remains the same.I started to hate her n moved on wit my life.. N now 3 yrs later, i met another beautiful girl which i love more than my ex..Shes a degree in mathematics n my ex schoolmate (which i had a crush on her in highschool but at that time she wouldnt even look at me).Then back in june this year(which ive juz got back frm uk) i went back home for summer holidays.3 days after i arrive at my home country, i saw her at a cinema, we've talked n swap our email add..Then on msn we've talked abt a lot of stuff including how long its been since we last met..From there something amazing happen, ive asked her out (which i thought she would definitely reject me) and she say yes..N i thought maybe this wont gonna be a relationship so im not gonna take anything serious..So we went out the next day n soon we found ourself addicted to meet each other..Since then we decided to go out as couple (in a relationship)..One day i told her tat i will be going back to UK this october..Will u be able to wait for me..If u cant then pls let me know now while we're still fresh in this relationship (coz i thought even if she say she cant wait for me, it wont gonna hurt as much.) But instead she says yes she will wait for me n as long as her heart beats she wanna be mine.. So we spent the next couple of month in the "honeymoon phase".Everyday we got really close n close..Then came october i have to leave for UK as im doing my final year HND..Before i left, ive told her im going for only 9 months n she said she'll wait for me no matter wat.. Then 2-3 weeks ago,we've got into a fight abt her joining a racing club back home..I told her i dun mind juz as long there are other girls as well..Coz the idea of her joining the club with an unknown 20 guys is unacceptable..Im not being possesive..Im juz worried abt her safety.Ive told her tat..Then it led into an arguments which i have no chances winning..She was the one shooting missles at me tat left me speechless.She told me tat she wanna enjoy her life n shes not gonna have any commitment until she get married.Coz she worried tat one day if we do get married, we'll end up arguing how she dosent have the chance to enjoy herself..N i told her i understand tat..Im here not trying to control ur life but juz looking after ur safety..Wat i meant was i dun mind she joining the club as long as she can take care of herself.. So then ive decided not to contact her for awhile with intention of letting her to cool down..Then she called me n told me abt putting our relationship on hold.She said she love me but everytime she keep on thinking of me, the memory of the arguments juz pops out..So she decided to hold our relationship..N theres nothing i can do except to agree..Then last 3 days she email me n told me tat shes breaking off the relationship coz she cant stand it anymore.She misses me so much n theres nothing she could do..She thought she was strong...She did love me but now her feelings is juz normal.The love isnt there anymore.Then i email her back n told her to juz hang on till june..Wait till i get back n we'll talk over it n at the mean time juz hold on to the relationship..She replied No promises..N like i said we've talked the other day on msn but her replied was juz cruel..Its as if all those time being together wit all those love never exsists for her..Its like all tat dosent mean a thing..I know ive told her to wait till june when i finally get back..But honestly i dun have much confident in this relationship..Im juz worried tat by the time i get back home, i might find her with another guy which will definitely hurt me..So im not gonna put much hope in this n tats why i have blocked her email add n decide to go NC wit her which i dunno whether im making the right decision or not.N i know she wont gonna give a **** if im gone which really hurts most..But so far i have never terribly begged like i was 3 yrs ago..Ive finally able to understand the meaning of letting go..but somehow its really damn hard..I cant stop thinking abt her..The urge to call her or talked to her on msn is juz building up..I dunno whether i can survive this..One minute im thinking tat the NC is the best thing n the other minute im thinking its not..god..Pls give me a solution of wat i should do n wats best for me...
smiiiley Posted December 21, 2008 Posted December 21, 2008 hun i'm right there wit ya... wish i could help...stick with NC..that's what i tell you and keep telling myself as well......
Author Seducer11 Posted December 21, 2008 Author Posted December 21, 2008 smiiiley thx alot..but i wish u're really here wit me.. atleast theres someone i can talk to when im abt to give up on that NC...Its juz hard esp when i dunno whether its the best for me or not..I dunno wat i want frm this NC..Whether im doing this to make her miss me n get back into the relationship or im doing this to let go of everything..I know theres some part of my heart telling me its no use to get back in this relationship..If she have done it now she could do it in the future as well..
Author Seducer11 Posted December 25, 2008 Author Posted December 25, 2008 53 views n no other reply??Come on guys..U can do better than that..Its the reason why post it on this side, to get some advice...
Goatsbreath Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 alls you can really do is avoid arguing and avoid telling her what she can and can not do while you are gone for 9 months. Thats a long time man and you two are not even married. I would let her know how strong you feel about her but at the same time tell her you understand how hard it must be for her. Tell her you will give her some time and space to figure out if this is something she can look forward to and continue to persue. Then go NC. Theres not much else you can do man. It will be best for both of you.
DSM-IV Tom Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 My heart goes out to you friend. Stick to NC and let time heal you, along with the realizations. You will be better again. I'd really like to talk about that ****ed up avatar of yours of some girls slit wrist. Why is it you chose that picture? What in your life relates to it, that it interested you? Rest assured, I know psychology well. I do not ask of you blind questions. Let's get real.
Author Seducer11 Posted December 25, 2008 Author Posted December 25, 2008 Goatsbreath thx for the reply..Well she knows how much i care for her n she knows how much i love her..She understand all tat..But still she decided to break if off juz bcoz of the long distance relationship.I wish i could tell her to look at the bright side, Im only gonna be here for the next 6 months (going back in june) n its not like im gonna be here forever.I cant understand why she cant wait for me if she truly loves me..My mates has a long distance relationship for 4 yrs n now they're married..The point is, if they can survive n be strong then why cant she???I meant to tell her all this but it shounds really harsh so instead i juz kept quiet....
Author Seducer11 Posted December 25, 2008 Author Posted December 25, 2008 DSM tat avatar was juz some pic i found on the net..I was really stressed up the first week when i broke up wit my ex..I was going crazy..Cant stop thinking of how i should killed myself..Cant stop drinking n getting pissed..But then one morning i woke up n realize, tat theres no point commiting suicide over some girls who cant appreciate u..Love is not ours to command..N wat gave me the strength to move on is tat i was wondering abt my future..If shes not the one for me then if i died then i wont going to have the chance to meet my true love..N i was wondering wat type of person (my true love) will be..Tats wat gave me the strength to move on...I think ive learned a couple of lesson frm this relationship and tat is Love cannot be kept by force..It can only be achieved by understanding..N tat if u love someone so much let it go free..If its meant to be urs then it'll come back..I know letting go is hard n painful n so does holding on..Yet i believe true love is not measured by holding on..But by letting go...So at the moment im sticking to NC but somewhere deep inside my heart, i hope tat this decision will bring her back n make her miss me..But yet again im not gonna hope..Coz i know if i do, n it dosent turn out as the way i hope, it'll juz gonna crush me n i have to start all over again..N i hate tat..
DSM-IV Tom Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 Holy God, you may be the first person on here I truly do not have to help. You have said exactly the right things. Well I have a reputation to uphold some I'm going to cherry pick. 1). Change your avatar now. 2). You need to correct your spelling. OTHER THAN THOSE TWO... you sir, are very intelligent.
Author Seducer11 Posted December 25, 2008 Author Posted December 25, 2008 Will do tat DSM...Abt my spelling...Well i juz love to type in a short form..Time is valuable so theres no point in typing a full words..As long ppl can understand u then its more than enough
DSM-IV Tom Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 I see. Is that you in your avatar? I am straight but you're a good lookin dude. You will get more women.
Author Seducer11 Posted December 25, 2008 Author Posted December 25, 2008 Yeah tats me alrite...Get more women ayte??Well not for now..Coz its not the best time rite now..God..I went to a 350z racing website today n i saw her picture there surrounded with 5 guys frm her bbq the other day with her big smile..I was doing all fine n abt to moved on..Then when i saw tat pic, i felt crushed n back to zero...How could she be happy at the moment like this??How could she enjoy herself when im feeling like shyte !!!
DSM-IV Tom Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 Dude many reasons. 1). Women are psycho. (Not all. But your gf is. Btw every female on this site is sane:). 2). It's just a picture. She faked a smile for a picture. People smile all the time for pictures. That's how pictures work. 3). She was trying to force herself to be happy. Deep down though friend she's probably as sad as can be. I think that about sums it up. Don't be fooled by pics.
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