mendsley Posted December 21, 2008 Posted December 21, 2008 I am just looking for some who has been thru it all and knows what it feels like to move on and not look back. I try all the time to be strong and give her time to make her decision about either moving on with her life with out me or try to rebuild our marriage. I was doing good for the last couple of weeks and she has been texting me telling me she misses me. I don't know what to do with her, I don't know if she's keeping me in her pocket for financial support or just waiting as long as she can to someone better to come along and if it does'nt then she'll give me another chance. Lately I have been thinking maybe life with out her might be better. She did have an online affair, we never had sex but maybe 6 times a year and she is making no effort to show me that she cares for me, why would I want a life like that? I have been giving her a lot of space but I still strike up conversation a few times a week to let her know that I am thinking of her. Some times I tell her that I still love her and when I do, she does not text me again. I will also tell her how beautiful I think she is and all she writes back is stuff like; barf, thats gross. She did say she is coming to my house with the kids to spend New Years Eve weekend with me, but I don't know if it is only for the kids. It has been 4 months and no real progress, what would you do? Thanks-
SingleDad Posted December 21, 2008 Posted December 21, 2008 You are not over her when you are still thinking the things your are currently thinking. You just have to take things one day at a time and hopefully things will work out for the best, one way or the other... You have to take care of your self first.
ilmw Posted December 22, 2008 Posted December 22, 2008 Hi, Having been through a divorce fairly recently... and having been one of those guys... who did not want the divorce.... and wanted nothing more than to save my marriage... and who jumped at the phone every time she called and who originally took any scrap he could... that might have been a hint at reconcillation Now... I am on the other side.... Have... and am... moved on.... I'd say this. Were you truly happy with this woman.... (you sure don't sound like it) There is something I learned on here a while ago.... and it is this. Believe nothing you hear... and only 50% of what you see, or actions speak louder than words. What do your wife's actions say to you?? When my divorce was final... I vowed "Never again" would I allow myself...let someone else...make me feel less of a man... because they were too lazy...and stupid to try and save our relationship. (there is obviously more to it than this... but my story is pretty long.... and this is your thread) Good luck... stay strong! ilmw
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