motive2002 Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 I know this girl likes to flirt with a lot of guys. She wanted to go out with me last night. SHe was fun to be with, lots of flirting and smiles.. joking around. It seemed like a nice date. Then we had a big hug at the end.. but she shyed away from the kiss. In texts this morning, she said that she felt bad for avoiding the kiss.. and that she was not that kind of girl. It's made me feel bad... rejected. Oh she dropped the let's be friends first line on me as well. Somehow I have a hard time taking the whole thing for what it is, but my gut instinct tells me she's just not into me. "Not that kind of girl"? Was just an innocent kiss at the end of the date. If this seems immature, or overanalyzing it probably is, but I'm typing this out as I go without editing.. yenno to get it out without any filtering. I feel like I was played. I dunno... what makes a girl wanna have a guy spend their money on them like a fool if they're not interested?
Benique Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 I know this girl likes to flirt with a lot of guys. She wanted to go out with me last night. SHe was fun to be with, lots of flirting and smiles.. joking around. It seemed like a nice date. Then we had a big hug at the end.. but she shyed away from the kiss. In texts this morning, she said that she felt bad for avoiding the kiss.. and that she was not that kind of girl. It's made me feel bad... rejected. Oh she dropped the let's be friends first line on me as well. Somehow I have a hard time taking the whole thing for what it is, but my gut instinct tells me she's just not into me. "Not that kind of girl"? Was just an innocent kiss at the end of the date. If this seems immature, or overanalyzing it probably is, but I'm typing this out as I go without editing.. yenno to get it out without any filtering. I feel like I was played. I dunno... what makes a girl wanna have a guy spend their money on them like a fool if they're not interested? I have a feeling it was just a fun meeting / hanging out with an interesting guy (u) for her ,but not a 'date' as you have considered yourself . One should appreciate,she was at least honest and straight : did not let you kiss as did not feel like that .
carhill Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Not that kind of girl? Oh, you mean a Hoover? :D Look at it this way. You had some overpriced good food IMO, that's cheap at twice the price, if you know what I mean....
kizik Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Hey old friend, don't let this thing bum you out. She's just a girl in a sea of - literally - thousands. There are LITERALLY thousands of girls out there. I know - that's a lot. But seriously man, this kind of thing happens all the time, and it's your job not to take it personally. I know you feel a bit butt-hurt, but it sounds like the two of you had a nice time. BUT - since you seem to like her, and her actions indicate she doesn't like you "like that" - I would definitely stop contact with her - UNLESS you feel you can JUST be friendly with her. Your biggest problem is the snowstorm we're getting - I can't even drive!
runner Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 tell me about it. i wanted to see a movie and head to the pub later, but i'm not keen on shovelling snow or putting on the chains. sorry - didn't mean to hijack. if it helps, you're not alone in this 'dissed' thing. i got blown off twice this week myself. sucks, but, oh well. just keep on keepin on
EYECANDY000 Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Honey, it sounds like she was just looking for a fun night out with someone ..
Author motive2002 Posted December 21, 2008 Author Posted December 21, 2008 Maybe I should consider telling her something like.. "I'm sorry I don't want to spend my money on you by taking you out and paying for everything. I'm not that type of guy. I'd like to get to know you first before I pull out my wallet."
kizik Posted December 21, 2008 Posted December 21, 2008 C'mon man, it's not about fighting fire w/ fire. Guys just generally pay. Don't go to the most expensive restaurant, but you prob. just need to suck it up and pay, regardless of nookie. Or, yeah, tell her you don't wanna spend $ on her.
crfsti Posted December 22, 2008 Posted December 22, 2008 hey, at least you got a text from her telling you she just wanted to be friends, i'd say you got off pretty easy. i've been on many dates where it all went very well and the girl seemed to enjoy herself with me, i spent a bunch of money, but then never wanted to hang out ever again like she wanted nothing to do with me and i never found out why.....left me very confused and made me feel like crap.
CommitmentPhobe Posted December 22, 2008 Posted December 22, 2008 You had fun last night though right? By the way go to the pub and stop paying for dates. Do you really want a girl whos criteria is for you to whack out your wallet for her?
Tomcat33 Posted December 22, 2008 Posted December 22, 2008 Take her out one more time and get to know her a little more, maybe she is really interested and just wants to take it slow. Her apologizing could be because she is saying I like you I just don't kiss on the first date. Next time don't blow all this cash on her, do a low key date and see if she is into it. Don't know why people are so quick to say walk away when a girl says she wants to be friends first, what's wrong with that? If she said she ONLY wants to be friends that is a different story.
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