kashmir Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 I was in line for breakfast waiting for my food to be cooked, and I was getting kind of tired of this guy and his girlfriend in front of me. I know this guy, but I have no desire to talk to him. He was recruited for my sport last year, but he flaked out after a few weeks because he claimed we weren't good enough and that the team was bringing him down. Then he joined a frat and got into body building...which in his case meant juicing himself up. Anyway, in the five minutes I was behind him and his girlfriend, he was hanging all over her, saying stuff like "Let me pick you up, come on!" "I want a piggy-back ride. Can you give me one, super cutie?" "Let's wrestle, right here." Giggling, kissing, all that crap...at 10 am in the breakfast line. Then he started to give the cook **** for using oil on his pan because it would set back his work on his six-pack. I was keeping a straight face the entire time, but as soon as he told his gf, "I feel like such a bum. I haven't been tanning in a week," I just had to laugh. So I knew this before and this encounter just reenforces it, but this guy is a total tool. What I'd like to know is what does a girl like his girl see in a guy like him? She was pretty hot too. I can only come up with a few answers: a) She's ba**** crazy or has some major deterrent like air-headedness that completely neutralizes her physical attractiveness. b) This is what GIRLS are attracted to, not WOMEN...aka it's immaturity c) This is what women think a confident alpha-male is. I'm guessing it's a combination between a and b, but if c is the case, then wtf, humanity is doomed. (Oh, and just so people don't get any wrong impressions, I'm mainly writing this as a sarcastic rant if anything. Yeah, I notice guys like these and they annoy me, but I do a pretty good job at staying away from them and leaving them to their lives.)
Gremio Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 It's all about being shallow. They don't use their heads in the relationship, just emotions. They enjoy the feelings of the connection, your hormonal instincts, but they never truly get to know the other person. That, and I bet you any amount of money their IQ is generally low.
Author kashmir Posted December 20, 2008 Author Posted December 20, 2008 Yeah, I'd say he's pretty hot. I mean, I've always known him as a pretty loathing person, so it's hard to look at him and not cringe, but he's tall, a muscular lightweight, and a good looking guy. He used to never talk to us and he gave us the most pissed off looks when we'd say hi to him, like he was always suffering from hemorrhoids or something. It's just funny how he can be such an ass around guys but so fluffy with some girl.
prettybaby Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 He's hot, she's hot. They're probably both popular too. Those people only date their own kind
quankanne Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 sounds like the classic "OMG! HE'S SO HOT AND HE WANTS *ME*!!!" yeah, that kind of attention can make an otherwise sane person do things they normally wouldn't. though this guy sounds super icky ... I wouldn't want my man to act like that in public. Or in private.
Author kashmir Posted December 20, 2008 Author Posted December 20, 2008 That's why I'm assuming she has to be like him on the inside. When I'm working as a waiter, I get couples like this all the time...hot girl with her hot boyfriend decked out in a&f and wreaking of colon. 9 out of 10 times the guy would exercise a power-trip over me while the girl was oogling over him. They'd usually be crappy tippers too. After the first few times I learned to just humor them and for my own amusement subtly make fun of them while talking with them. I really don't like being around these people, but sometimes we're forced to be in situations we don't like. Just gotta stomach it and then forget it.
carhill Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Then you have to ask yourself why you even spend one second of your very valuable time thinking about them. I used to have this problem but cured it by spending a lot of time in airports
AlektraClementine Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Maybe it goes both ways. All you said about this girl was that she's hot. I'm guessing she probably has an equivalent personality. To her boyfriend's that is. If you had said something like, "i know this girl and she's really sweet and smart...." Why shouldn't a hot girl go out with a hot guy. If they like each other and if they're like minded.
510 Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 I was in line for breakfast waiting for my food to be cooked, and I was getting kind of tired of this guy and his girlfriend in front of me. I know this guy, but I have no desire to talk to him. He was recruited for my sport last year, but he flaked out after a few weeks because he claimed we weren't good enough and that the team was bringing him down. Then he joined a frat and got into body building...which in his case meant juicing himself up. Anyway, in the five minutes I was behind him and his girlfriend, he was hanging all over her, saying stuff like "Let me pick you up, come on!" "I want a piggy-back ride. Can you give me one, super cutie?" "Let's wrestle, right here." Giggling, kissing, all that crap...at 10 am in the breakfast line. Then he started to give the cook **** for using oil on his pan because it would set back his work on his six-pack. I was keeping a straight face the entire time, but as soon as he told his gf, "I feel like such a bum. I haven't been tanning in a week," I just had to laugh. So I knew this before and this encounter just reenforces it, but this guy is a total tool. What I'd like to know is what does a girl like his girl see in a guy like him? She was pretty hot too. I can only come up with a few answers: a) She's ba**** crazy or has some major deterrent like air-headedness that completely neutralizes her physical attractiveness. b) This is what GIRLS are attracted to, not WOMEN...aka it's immaturity c) This is what women think a confident alpha-male is. I'm guessing it's a combination between a and b, but if c is the case, then wtf, humanity is doomed. (Oh, and just so people don't get any wrong impressions, I'm mainly writing this as a sarcastic rant if anything. Yeah, I notice guys like these and they annoy me, but I do a pretty good job at staying away from them and leaving them to their lives.) Kashmir, He is so immature and insecure. Only a fewl has to go around being loud and telling his business. Its obvious that he doesn't feel good about the skin he's in and if you want the girl, you can have her. Just because she is good looking doesn't mean she lacks self esteem and either two things will happen. She will get tired of him and leave him a lone or she will stay because she feeds off of it. One thing I have learned in life as I question the relationship between some couples is that if they stay together for any long period of time, they belong together. What's on the surface does not always reveal what's underneath. I've seen some fine specimens with some ughhhhhh women and I would wonder why? After living long enough I come to realize that just because he is fine does not mean he feels that way and if that is what he chooses, that is who he is and would not be capable of bieng with a woman like me. And that is ok.. But I can't imagine her being with him much longer.. he would get on my nerves.. bringing all that attention to me.. lol
Trialbyfire Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Which bothers you more? He's attractive.She's attractive.They find each other attractive.When people are ga-ga over each other, it can get nauseating for the person watching because everything they say sounds stupid. And yes, it does, can and will happen to YOU!
kizik Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Kashmir, no offense, but I see a new thread from you nearly every day that muses aloud about who likes who, and do girls like this kind of guy, etc. I think you need to stop giving a sh*t about all this stupid crap. As a 19-y.o. male, you're all up in your head, so I understand the spirals that are swirling around in your head. But I can guarantee you that worrying about all this is not the way to go. Stop worrying about other people. Don't even 'worry' about yourself. You're like an alien who's studying Earth, trying to figure out how humans function, but here's the answer: people do whatever they want, there is no formula for getting girls to like you. I can tell you that your cerebral paranoia is going to be a turn-off, though.
Author kashmir Posted December 20, 2008 Author Posted December 20, 2008 Meh, I shouldn't have made this thread because I knew my intentions would get misinterpreted where people would use it to criticize me and make this into something deeper about me. A lot of times I really do worry about something. Caution and over-analysis have always been part of me. I'm gradually getting better at it though, and honestly, in the past few weeks I've been really relaxed, like you've been telling me to do kizik. Check out a thread I made a week or so ago that expresses these feelings. Sometimes I use forums as more of a personal diary, and I really don't care how people respond. It just helps to let my thoughts out. I've been doing it for a while for my eyes only, but I don't know...I guess that gets a bit boring and sometimes I just like to write something and click the "submit post" button. Like I said, I'm really not looking for any answers or asking any questions, I just feel some kind of satisfaction in going public with a fraction of my musings. I doubt 99% of people care to read it, but I don't care, I like writing them. I know, I'm weird. This was a case of where I observed something that I found interesting and just decided to post a random musing about it. I was smiling and chuckling a bit while thinking about this event and writing it, not bitter and frustrated.
Trialbyfire Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 kashmir, have you never once acted "stupid" in front of a girl you really liked? While I don't want to believe it, I'm sure I've acted like a vapid female in the past, with men I was nuts about. :laugh: Also, couples tell silly little inside jokes and use triggers on each other.
Tomcat33 Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Do women like guys that are all sappy and gushy and affectionately playful at 10am in the morning, SURE why not? He was in line and you were at close range listening in on their business what is a couple to do, stop their interaction to not offend other single people? It's funny when people get bothered by PDAs, people should stop being so jealous of other's happiness. The sickelier the better, as far as I am concerned I LOVE seeing people in love who are playful and affectionate with each other, there isn't enough of it around actually. Mind you I find juice bags alone annoying and not physically attractive at all but that's a different story...
Author kashmir Posted December 20, 2008 Author Posted December 20, 2008 TBF, the stupidest thing I've ever done in front of a girl I really liked is not doing anything. And I'm not bothered by PDA, I'm just not a mushy person. I would get pissed if a girl tried to do any of that with me in public or in private. I'm not jealous of it, I just think it's lame. It also has to do with the context. Back over the summer when my friend and his girlfriend first hooked up after months of sexual tension, I was so happy for them. They were on the couch together holding each other and it just looked so nice. Now take this guy who I have a negative history with and is just a total tool, and PDA looks funny and pathetic. So I love seeing it with decent people, but I wouldn't want it happening to me. I'd get really annoyed really fast at a girl.
MN randomguy Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Meh, A lid for every pot. Maybe shopping @ A&F and waxing is their common interest.
Tomcat33 Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 And I'm not bothered by PDA, I'm just not a mushy person. I would get pissed if a girl tried to do any of that with me in public or in private. I'm not jealous of it, I just think it's lame. It also has to do with the context. Back over the summer when my friend and his girlfriend first hooked up after months of sexual tension, I was so happy for them. They were on the couch together holding each other and it just looked so nice. Now take this guy who I have a negative history with and is just a total tool, and PDA looks funny and pathetic. So I love seeing it with decent people, but I wouldn't want it happening to me. I'd get really annoyed really fast at a girl. You love seeing that for decent people but you wouldn't want to see that for you?!?!? Do you not think you are decent? It sounds like you wish you could be a little more like them.
Trialbyfire Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Meh, A lid for every pot. Maybe shopping @ A&F and waxing is their common interest. Waxing should be made a necessity for women. Bear rug women are not attractive!
kizik Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 ...in the past few weeks I've been really relaxed, like you've been telling me to do kizik. Man, all I'm saying is that it's difficult to settle into your own skin, but once you do, you don't ever wanna come back from it. It's saying, "I'm going to be nice to you, everyone, and I'm going to try to find the humor in EVERY situation. If you aren't willing to do the same - sorry, life's too short. It is too short to allow unhappiness to enter into it." I think my sig line says it all. Once you find inner happiness, no one can ever take it away.
Benique Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 -Why people are different ? -They are different coz they vary I would hit such bf`s head immediately if he told me things like that crap (at any age;)) Perhaps his gf likes that type.
Author kashmir Posted December 20, 2008 Author Posted December 20, 2008 You love seeing that for decent people but you wouldn't want to see that for you?!?!? Do you not think you are decent? It sounds like you wish you could be a little more like them. It's like this - I like seeing people I like happy, as anyone would. While I myself don't really care for all the mushy flirty stuff that would go on, I know the people I like, like my friend, do like that stuff. Thus, when I see it happening to him, I feel good for him and I'm happy that he's happy. Man, all I'm saying is that it's difficult to settle into your own skin, but once you do, you don't ever wanna come back from it. It's saying, "I'm going to be nice to you, everyone, and I'm going to try to find the humor in EVERY situation. If you aren't willing to do the same - sorry, life's too short. It is too short to allow unhappiness to enter into it." I think my sig line says it all. Once you find inner happiness, no one can ever take it away. And all I'm saying is that I'm beginning to achieve that. I haven't achieved it fully to the point where it's a constant and stable feeling, but enough to the point where I can sometimes walk outside, look around, and not have a worry on my mind, where the things that would previously bother me suddenly become insignificant.
kizik Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 ...I can sometimes walk outside, look around, and not have a worry on my mind, where the things that would previously bother me suddenly become insignificant. That is fantastic. Truly.
RecordProducer Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 I don't think there's anything wrong with this thread. I think the OP wants to learn about relationships and about both sexes. That's cool in my book. Kashmir, it's also possible that this guy treats this girl like a princess. He can be the stupidest moron in the world, but until he starts treating HER like crap, she won't complain. Besides, people do fall in love with weirdos and jerks. What about the women who fall for drunks, junkies, drug dealers, men who have spread their semen and have never seen their children, etc.? This guy is just kinda dumb and arrogant.
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