like2crap Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Recently, I gotta know a guy thru a social event. We exchanged msn and talked quite a bit for about a month before we started going out. He added me into his facebook and I was the only friend in his facebook as he kept this facebook account private to all his friends. All in all, we went out 3 times in a 2 month's period, all initiated by him. Outings were quite pleasant and enjoyable... he paid for all the expenses but never offer to send me home in any of these outings. Maybe he dun drive and we lived quite far apart. Din give much thoughts into it. All these events have geared me into thinking that he might be interested in developing the friendship into a relationship. However, there are signs that he might just want to keep the friendship as it is... like he totally forgotten my birthday and only wished me a belated birthday wish when I went online the next day. Or in a couple of our msn interactions, he took more interest in watching his TV programme than talking to me. His average reply was 30 mins and content was closed ended kind of conversation. Seriously, I was getting bored by his attitude and at the same time confused over did I really think too much over this friendship or is he really interested in me. Most likely... he just wants a companion to hang out with and not really interested in developing friendship into relationship. Just wanna hear from everyone on what you think over my encounters...
xpaperxcutx Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Do you want to pursue anything with him? You can try initiating a date and see how he react to your invitation. From what you tell me, it seems he's more interested in having you keep him company.
510 Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Hum, I would probably drift back a bit. I don't think he knows what he wants or he seems like he might be a bit disappointed with the lack of activity. Seems he is not sure where you want to take the friendship. Both of you seem to be on the same page, afraid to ask the other what you want. At least he has asked you out a few times. If you are confident and love the opportunity of getting to know someone else, ask him out for coffee. Something simple just in case it doesn't turn out the way you want and inexpensive enough. Please do not IM or text him to ask him out.. Be a lady about it. Call him and ask him if he can meet you for coffee. Then when you meet up, ask him how he's been. Tell him you miss going out? Then say, "(his name) I asked you to meet me here today, just to see where you going with this? Not sure if you are interested in dating or just being friends and I want to clarify this so I don't mislead you or expect something that isn't there." Then say NOTHING. One mistake we always make as women is not keeping silent and helping men answer. I don't care if it takes him 3 minutes to answer... give him time to speak and this will also allow you to check out his body language. By nature we hate rejection... but its really not that at all
prettybaby Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Honestly, it depends on how YOUacted on all those dates. There are 2 possibilities here: -1- You acted interested, and reciprocated moves and efforts. In which case, he may just not be worth your time if he's already slacking off after 3 dates. -2- You didn't initiate or reciprocate anything at all. You just enjoyed yourself and sat there on all 3 dates with no flirting whatsoever. In which case, he may be wondering if you even like him at all ... hence him slacking off now with a "why bother?" attitude. In any case, if you really like him, call him and ask him if he wants to do something this weekend or next week or whatever. Show your interest and take it from there.
FindMyDate Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Well it's his problem, stp waisting time, look around a lot of people are willing to talk to you, forget him and start your searchings again.
Author like2crap Posted December 20, 2008 Author Posted December 20, 2008 Thanks for all your views. They are really helpful! 510... I think you are absolutely correct on both me and him on the same page, afraid to ask the other what we really want. Most of you suggested that I should initiated a date and see how he respond. You know what... I juz did. He sounds really enthusiastic about it. My guess is he may be on the shy side and needs a little encouragement from the other party before moving on. um... will see how things go...
510 Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Thanks for all your views. They are really helpful! 510... I think you are absolutely correct on both me and him on the same page, afraid to ask the other what we really want. Most of you suggested that I should initiated a date and see how he respond. You know what... I juz did. He sounds really enthusiastic about it. My guess is he may be on the shy side and needs a little encouragement from the other party before moving on. um... will see how things go... Keep us updated.. I'm excited about hearing the outcome.. hope you are successful and make sure its what you want.
Author like2crap Posted December 21, 2008 Author Posted December 21, 2008 Keep us updated.. I'm excited about hearing the outcome.. hope you are successful and make sure its what you want. LOL! Thanks... we hanging out on 1st day of new year. Will keep you all posted
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