SoundTribe Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Hey everyone, I am back. I'm not sure if everyone knows my story but if you are interested you could look through my thread history and read, anyway. My ex and I broke up in september, it was the worst pain and betrayal I had ever experienced and I thought I had gotten over it until this week. Right now I am horribly depressed. She was a girl who was out of my league who I had crushed on since 9th grade, in 11th grade I managed to snag her because of how small our school was. She was the party type, and for a year and a half she put it all away to be with me. It was a dream come true. Since we've broken up, I live in constant fear of her. From seeing her in person, to her becoming more successful than me. She is so pretty and gets every guy she wants, I feel like such a loser in comparison to her. She's been with other guys since me and I don't even want to be with her again. I despise her, she hurt me so bad that I just want nothing to do with her. In short, I've become reclusive out of fear of her. I never go to parties, even if I know she wont be attending, I turn down all my friends requests to hang out, I feel so inadequate and lame constantly. I've had every shred of confidence ripped out of me. Honestly I'm not that great with girls, and I fear that I wont be able to get another girl of her caliber. I may hate her now, but I can't deny that she was a good girlfriend. I don't want to see her but she hangs out in my circle of friends and so I don't even have them for support anymore. This is just a terrible situation.
EmperorR Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Ah I won't lie I felt this way as well, until I got out of that phase man your better than anyone your so money. Think of it this way you never thought you could get a girl that pretty cool etc but you did right. You did it once you can do it again. I thought the same oh my ex is so gorgeous he can get any guy, and then there's just plain old average me. But eh it's a croak of bull, mYbe ill get a girl hotter than her again maybe not but looks aren't everything, I'm better than my ex I'm faithful I'm honest I'm not a cheat who treats peope lime dirt. Stop worrying about the future, eeryrhing will work out man.
JooLee Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 this is about taking control - of your life, your emotions, your fears. if she is as gorgeous as you say, then i am sure there will only be many more other gorgeous girls that will find you attractive. you did it once before, and definitely you can do it again. right now the problem is not her. it is deep within you. i guess you are dealing with self esteem issues right now, and you being an introvert at the moment, wont be helping. my suggestion is educate yourself in knowledge about self motivation, and try your best to apply it. if you keep holding on to yourself this way, nothing will change. actually you are in the right direction, because you have already recognise that something is wrong, now its time to act upon it. you sound like a smart person, and im sure you know what is the right thing to do. btw, who cares if you bump into the same party as her, you deserve to have fun with YOUR friends too. As long as you turn down invitation to have fun because of her - you're only still giving her the power to control you. live your life. no one should come in the way but yourself. so its all up to you. good luck.
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